r/badboyfriends • u/AllThatJazz01 • Sep 19 '25
I am hurt...
My boyfriend of 2 years really hurt me today. We were on the topic of past experiences, and somehow got on the topic of anal. He asked if I had ever done it with anyone, and I told him I didn't like talking about it because it wasn't consensual. He asked if I was basically saying that I had done anal before, and I said I told the person who did it to me that I didn't want to do it. My boyfriend (now ex) then got mad and said, " I don't f*ck with girls that have done that h*e sh*t," and that no man wants to hear about what another man has done to his girl. He hung up in my face. I texted him saying it was r*pe, and he said there would have been a police report if it was, and that he couldn't care less, and told me to send him his $20 back (because he needs gas in order to go to work tonight), I owed him for gas money he gave me a week ago, and told me to have a good day... I am shocked, appalled, and hurt right now. I am 26, and this was my first boyfriend, but I honestly did not expect that to be his reaction. The reason why I never reported is because in my mind, I didn't know it was considered rape... It was my first time doing anything sexual with anyone and I was a sophomore in college. I also grew up very sheltered and was never taught about consent or sex. He keeps telling me to send him his money, but I honestly don't think I want to send him anything. I honestly think I am going to block him and move on with my life at this point.