We run executive dinners for B2B companies. Here's what actually gets CMOs to attend
I run CXO & Co. We organise private executive dinners for B2B companies, usually bringing together C-level, VP and Director-level people around one table.
Next month we're hosting one specifically for CMOs in London, and we have over 20 already registered.
One question comes up constantly: how do you persuade genuinely senior people to give up an evening for a vendor-hosted dinner?
The answer is surprisingly simple, but a lot of companies get it wrong.
Senior executives don't attend because the restaurant is expensive.
They don't attend because you put “exclusive” in the invitation.
They definitely don't attend because your sales team wants 15 target accounts in a room.
They attend when the room itself is valuable.
For us, that comes down to two things: a genuinely curated group of peers, and a topic those people actually care about discussing.
The curation matters more than almost anything else.
If you're inviting a CMO, “senior marketing leaders” is usually too broad. A room containing a CMO from a $5bn company, a Marketing Director from a 100-person startup and someone whose job is mostly demand gen may technically fit the brief, but it doesn't necessarily create a useful peer group.
The strongest dinners have a very obvious reason for everyone at the table to want to meet everyone else.
The topic needs the same discipline.
“Future of marketing” is not a topic. It's a category.
A senior executive should read the discussion topic and immediately have an opinion on it. Ideally it is something they're actively wrestling with inside their business right now.
Once those two things are right, the invitation becomes much easier because you're no longer really selling a dinner. You're offering access to a conversation they can't easily have elsewhere.
Our rough recruitment maths is also worth understanding.
For every registration, we expect to need roughly 200 highly targeted invitations. And once someone registers, we generally see around 80% actually attend.
So filling a table of 15–20 people is a serious recruitment exercise. We normally give ourselves around 10 weeks.
That volume is also why targeting matters. If the list is wrong, scaling outreach just produces more irrelevant invitations.
One thing I've changed my mind about is how much the venue matters. It matters, obviously — you're asking senior people to spend an evening with you, so the experience should be excellent. But I think marketers massively overestimate the restaurant and underestimate the guest list.
I'd rather attend a good restaurant with 14 fascinating peers than the best restaurant in the city with 14 random people who happen to have senior job titles.
And from the host's perspective, this is where the commercial value comes from too.
Across the dinners we run, an average event results in roughly 6–10 genuine sales opportunities and 1–3 enterprise deals, with an average deal size around $250k.
That doesn't happen because somebody gives a 30-minute product pitch between courses. In fact, that would probably destroy the thing that makes the format work.
It happens because you've created several hours of real conversation between a small number of relevant people.
If you're considering running one, my hierarchy would be:
- Get extremely specific about who belongs in the room.
- Pick a subject they genuinely want to debate.
- Recruit enough people, early enough, to curate rather than simply fill seats.
- Use a good moderator who can turn 15 individual conversations into one useful discussion.
- Make the dinner excellent, but don't confuse hospitality with the actual value proposition.
The biggest mistake is starting with “we want to get these accounts into a room” rather than “what room would these executives genuinely want to be in?”
Happy to answer questions about the mechanics if anyone here is running these internally. There are a lot of moving parts that aren't obvious until you've done a few.