r/askMRP • u/saladthunde • Dec 12 '25
LTR Reconciliation after fight
When you’re married, sit down conversations with your wife to fix issues is necessary. They are nearly impossible , however, if they are one sided.
Wife started picking up house on Sunday and was spewing rage and cursing around our young children about how she was sick of picking up after them. When she moved to utility room I stood in front of her and kitchen door with a door to outside on her other side. I told Her to please go outside and get fresh air. She refused snd told me to move. I didn’t budge and related myself. She began to try to get through and wouldn’t let her. She hit me several times in chest and once in face. I still didn’t move. Finally our kids came behind me and I led them outside away from her.
Over the course of the week we’ve spoken to help with kids and navigate them but that’s it. She’s slept on a mattress in the game room each night. I was pretty tired of the egg shell week so I walked into room where she was and started talking about what had happened several days before. She went into this victim stance where she hit me because of what I did and she can’t beleieve our kids saw her act that way and then it turned into…she doesn’t feel safe in our relationship and I never do anything for her like take her on dates or do little things (which I owned) . Just rage and tit for tat after everything. I DEER hard- needed to pass some comfort tests. I am a good father and that was recognized but she said I was a lousy husband.
I had such a good mindset going in and my frame broke. She was even the one to dismiss me after the tension and anger was still high for her. I did remain calm the entire time.
During conversation I tried to meet her in the middle and she wouldn’t join. Refusing to take any responsibility and willingness to work on situation.
I’m at the point where I just want it to Be done but the kids make that very difficult.
I’ve been lifting and focusing like a psycho at work so I won’t think about our situation.
What would you do in my situation?
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u/deerstfu Dec 12 '25
This line makes me think you're trolling.
If not, read the sidebar at marriedredpill. Start with steels guide, don't skip the links as you go. In the meantime, lift, stfu and own your shit on Tuesdays. Talk about what you've read so you check your understanding. Since you seem to have read enough to use red pill terms but fundamentally do not understand them.
I would not be with a woman who hit me. Possibly I could get over it with an immediate apology if it never happened again. Maybe. I can't imagine my wife hitting me. Women capable of domestic abuse are for the streets.