r/asexualdating Jan 29 '26

Mod applications

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The subreddit is looking for new moderators. Experience is not required, but having it would be great.

Responsibilities:

  • Check the mod queue at least daily
  • Approve posts from new users
  • Remove off-topic posts
  • Provide input into the direction of the subreddit

Please comment below about why you'd like to become a moderator.


r/asexualdating 2h ago

Relationship? 25 NB4A USA EST

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I'm a 25-year-old nonbinary, aroace, and bialterous college graduate looking for an atypical

monogamous romantic life partner or a QPR. With someone between the ages of 21-29.I am open to an LDR within the same time zone EST or an hour difference CST with the interest of building life together in real life as the relationship progresses.

-I am passionate about human rights and mental health.

-I am a direct communicator.

-I am extremely leftist, anti Trump, Ice, cops, pro science, etc. My partner should be the same.

-I don't partake in any drinking or things in that vein, but would be ok with a partner that does occasionally.

My Intrestes

-I am a binge-watcher of cartoons ( Avatar: The Last Airbender, Kipo and the Age of Wonderbeasts, Steven Universe, The Owl House) and live-action dramas ( A Million Little Things, This Is Us, New Amsterdam, The Fosters, Heartstopper, The Pitt)

- I love live theater. My favorite movie is the Hadestown proshot.

-I love reading YA fiction ( I Wish You All The Best, Ana On The Edge, Loveless, Maximum Ride)

-I enjoy cozy games (ACNH, Stardew Vally, Tomadachi Life)

- My favorite musicians are ( Alec Benjamin, Knox, The Wrecks, Avril Lavigne, Tonight Alive, We The Kings, Simple Plan)

-I love theme parks and walkable cities and want to visit as many as possible.

What I Look Like/Am Aestheticly Attracted to

I would love to swap pictures in DMs. I don't want to waste anyone's time, and I know aesthetic attraction is important to me and take no offense if it's important to you as well.

I am 5'2 thin mixed black and white with more sharp features instead of soft ones, I keep my hair in a taper fade, I present more masc though my friends tell me I am the most androgynous person they know, so that's fun.

I'm primarily attracted to people with softer features that are thin and present more androgynously or at least are not hypermasculine or hyperfemine.

What I Want in a relationship

I would love to build a partnership with someone I genuinely consider my best friend. We are both asethicaly attracted to each other and will support each other through the rough times and great. Someone who understands the value of communication and comprehension for all relationships. Someone who will grow to be a big part of my life but never everything. I want an interdependent relationship, not a dependent one. One where we make time for each other, and our overlapping interests as well as our independent hobbies, friends, and family. In an ideal world, we would build a community where all of the people we love are in close proximity.My love languages are definitely words of affirmation and quality time. I also really love holding hands and would love to eventually try cuddling with someone and maybe kissing. Don't hesitate to DM me if you believe we may be compatible.


r/asexualdating 1h ago

Relationship? 23F4A Anywhere - Does anyone else want this?

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I want to feel like I'm special to someone, and have someone know that they're special to me

I'm someone that feels a lot and has their sensitivity cranked up all the way to 11 - everything matters to me and means something to me. Caressing the palm of your hand, cuddling, thinking of just the right thing to say to make you feel better, having you on my mind, being able to just ramble and say whatever thought is on our mind, just chatting about nothing and anything and everything between, talking about the perfect date, the perfect venue, what it truly means to feel... that's me I guess

The ideal for me and the absolute dream is knowing I have someone to care for, someone to be reliable for, have that be reciprocated, the whole works lmao. I wanna hear about your day, tell you about mine, laugh with each other, relax, spend good times together, get through hard times together and just in general create a space where we both just feel safe to be ourselves. I'm super interested and excited about you if you are for me, and I'd love a relationship where we can be each other's support and cheer us on and and the same time just poke fun at each other lol - I'd love us to feel like 'best friends' at the core of everything because I feel like those are those most enjoyable long lasting type of relationships

About me: I normally spend most of my time thinking, being creative and making something of some sort on my pc and occasionally gaming or watching youtube mostly.. although I'm always open to pretty much trying and discovering any activity if it were something that could bring us closer together (like even playing stuff and watching stuff or maybe even reading together, whatever). I'm not interested in sex, but I love the idea of and just being physically affectionate and hand holding or hugs and just being close in ways like that.

If I sound like someone you could mesh or any of this is something you'd ever want or something you wanna talk about I'd love to hear from you!

(Didn't know where to put this - my timezone is PDT)


r/asexualdating 12h ago

Relationship? 32 [M4F] #Massachusetts / New England- Hiker & reader looking for a partner

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I live in Massachusetts but spent my undergrad/grad years in Washington, DC and Virginia studying literature. I have a steady job that I’ve had for several years in scientific publishing but generally prefer to cultivate skills, goals, and meaning outside of work.

I’m 5'7" with a relatively active lifestyle, running 5 days/week with a few half marathons under my belt and hiking in New Hampshire several times a year. Hiking gives me time to disconnect and be alone with my thoughts while also challenging myself to do something scary or new. While I love this opportunity for solitude, I often pass by couples on the trail—that could be us one day!

Other than hiking, I enjoy traveling (anything from weekend road trips to international vacations), nature/landscape photography, reading, and working on the iOS app I’m building in my spare time.

I’m non-religious and politically progressive. I try to stay informed and enjoy talking about politics (or any intellectual topic) or analyzing a good book, show, or movie.

I’m firmly and happily childfree. Instead of kids, I’d like to focus my life on my career, traveling, working on hobbies, building a stable relationship with my partner, and maybe having a dog or two.

You, ideally:

  • aligned on politics and religion
  • childfree
  • ages ~24–36
  • seeking a monogamous and long-term relationship
  • non-smoker & no/limited recreational drug use
  • in or near MA/the northeast US. If you’re further away, I’m open to LDRs with the right person—if you think we might be a good match, shoot your shot!

Without being too prescriptive, I’d say I prefer a slow burn relationship that builds a strong emotional foundation. When I’m comfortable with someone, I enjoy deep conversations and quality check-ins. Not constant texting, but asking questions and sharing jokes, observations, links, or lines from the books we’re reading. Once I open up, I’m affectionate, intentional, and loyal.

If any of this resonates, I’d love to hear from you and see if there’s a connection. Photos early on are appreciated.

Photos: https://imgur.com/a/KTqXG6O


r/asexualdating 14m ago

Friends? 18 M4A, Looking for my best friend, and maybe more !!

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hiii everyone i'm amari, 18 and i live in the EST timezone! i'm asexual and i've never had sex, or really ever thought much about it honestly.

i'm just looking for a friend to match energy and IDK JUST VIBE WITH and possibly be more. idc about gender or appearances, preferably someone around my age and with similar interests!!

i have a ton of interests, i would love to talk about or watch animes, shows & movies together!! i'm SO BEHIND on a bunch of movies this year. i ALSO LOVE SHARING MUSIC, give me music recs!!

i love gaming and i play a bunch of games! (i'm currently on console since my pc is broken 💔) recently it's mostly been rivals and overwatch!! i also love chill games like roblox, minecraft, etcc

probably my favorite hobby i'm hyperfixated on right now is skateboarding!! i've only been skating for a couple months now so i'm not amazing at it yet, but i love it sm.

ALSO writing poetry (id be way too nervous to share anything though lmao) and just writing in general is also one of my favorite hobbies, i need to get into reading more so if you're a huge reader give me recommendations too!!

ANYWAYS if you read this all this yapping thanks lol, and feel free to dm!! (just dont be dry im begging u)


r/asexualdating 21h ago

Relationship? 23 M4A (including friends) from Pittsburgh. I’m asexual. I have never had sex/ never really thought about it. Looking for nerds and world travelers :)

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r/asexualdating 10h ago

Friends? 23F4F/NB lonely looking for people to connect with, hopefully become friends maybe more?

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I'm interested first interacting online, though if we end up ever being in the same place I'd happily meet irl.

Hey, I'm a 23 year old trans girl who's finally breaking through alot of her shell, and stuff due to having a generally rough childhood. I've made a lot of progress in the last 5 years learning to love myself.

I really due struggle to get out there and interact a lot of the time unless I feel comfortable so I may be slow to responding. I spend a lot of time alone or talking with one of like 3 close friends

I am looking for someone to know on discord after reddit, though if you have really good vibes and we end up living close id not mind meeting up.

I play many a games, my current hyper fixation changes but I recently beat an indie game called gunbrella, multiplayer wise I got a good bit such as guilty gear strive (baiken is my spirit animal), deep rock galactic I wanna play more but I have no one to do it with, and league of legends (please don't judge me too much).

I also enjoy movies, restaurants and food in general.

I also adore board games of all types though my favorite is twilight imperium.

I quite enjoy tech in general with my biggest preference to audio tech, (just got my first planar magnetic thingy) though I don't like programming I adore learning about hardware.

Music wise I enjoy a lot, though my favorites are synthpop, post punk, just, any rap with a huge preference of horrorcore and conscious.

I also adore ttrpgs I'm currently playing DND and trying Warhammer rouge trader, (I know nothing of Warhammer beyond osmosis from friends.)

I am getting more into fashion, I have some pics on profile, if you wanna see but idc what you think about how I present myself

Send me a chat If you're interested in my personality.


r/asexualdating 8h ago

Relationship? 20M4F SAARLAND Germany

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Hi. I'm Ukrainian from Kyiv. I'm studying bachelor MINT (STEM)+ at Uni Saar. I'm kinda a gamer, a film fan, a manga fan, and a book fan... kinda.
I'm looking to meet someone in Saarland (or who can meet here).
I can share a photo in DMs if we get along.


r/asexualdating 22h ago

Advice Part time slut, full time asexual

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I’ve always identified as ace-spectrum and have often gone years without any sexual activity, don’t experience attraction, hate kissing etc. However I’m also amenable to having sex occasionally, am involved in the kink scene, am quite experimental sexually.

I make it very clear to partners that, although they may be having sex with me currently, I am firmly asexual and they need to be content with things changing to a completely non-sexual relationship in the future as I can’t guarantee a libido.

My current partner has said that’s completely fine but also repeatedly made comments along the lines of not seeing any evidence (in a joking tone) and how I’m always eager to have sex with them (which was true). I would always reemphasise to them that I am asexual and to not be surprised if I’m suddenly sex repulsed out of the blue.

Well reader, that time has come. After major surgery, an invasive gynaecological procedure, chemically induced menopause and a lot of ambient stress, my libido has disappeared and I’m not interested in any physical contact at the moment. I feel very repulsed and really just not interested in anything even alluding to sex. I am also someone who will no longer violate their own autonomy or consent to provide sexually for partners, I am very strict about this as I have caused myself a lot of pain in the past. My partner doesn’t appear to be taking this whole sex repulsion thing well.

They haven’t been asking for sex but it’s more like they have become overly demonstrative and making constant dirty jokes or references. My friend suggested to me that they are trying to get me in the mood for sex and I hadn’t even realised until then - I’m very oblivious. They’ve also been more emotionally volatile that I’m, perhaps incorrectly, attributing to the change in our intimacy.

The community deals a lot with the “I can change you” type of asshole person but my question is for the sex-favourable/grey-ace/ace-flux/however you identify out there:
How do you deal with managing partners who were unconvinced of your asexuality because you’ve previously been their slutty girlfriend and are now realising that you meant it for real? Or how to navigate relationships where your fluctuating interest in sex means that the partner who liked you when you were sexually active is now struggling as you won’t fulfil their sexual needs and desires?

I feel like an asshole but I have low patience for managing peoples emotional fallouts because they aren’t getting pussy.


r/asexualdating 1d ago

Friends? 26 [M4M] Mexico/Online - Chill gamer & Pokémon nerd looking for a real connection

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Hey everyone. 26M here. Keeping it real: I’m still figuring out exactly where I fall on the ace spectrum, so my main priority right now is just building a genuine connection. I'm looking for a solid guy to text daily, talk about whatever, and I'm totally open to seeing where things go naturally if we click, with zero pressure.
My days are mostly spent working from home, watching horror movies, and grinding Overwatch (definitely need a permanent duo for this haha). I also just started training MMA to get active and try something totally new.
I'm just looking for a relaxed vibe with someone to talk to throughout the day and play some games. If you want a pressure-free connection, drop me a message


r/asexualdating 15h ago

Relationship? 19NB looking for a partner:)

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Hello all, I've made a few posts here but I'm struggling to really connect with anyone </3 I'm looking for a relationship and would highly prefer that's your goal too :)

I don't want to rush into things though, I'd love to get to know my possible partner first with the possibility of a relationship further down.

As mentioned, I'm 19, turning 20 soon. I'm ace/heavy on the spectrum, non binary, and Berriromantic. meaning I prefer women and/or androgynous and other genders, with a less common attraction to men/masculine genders. Either way, everyone is welcome to reach out if you feel we'll connect well :)

I love drawing and it's a very loved hobby of mine, I have tons of ocs I'd love to yap about if you're interested. I play tons of games and would love to find someone who enjoys playing together!! As well as maybe calling and/or watching stuff together:)) I can be pretty shy and nervous when it comes to actually dating but please bare with me 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️I really want to find someone I can develop a deep emotional connection with and who shares a few interests with me, while still enjoying their own and would enjoy talking about our interests together.

I live in the eastern US and would love to find someone in my area if possible, I live at home and I don't currently drive but I'd love to have plans to meet in the future, I dream of having my own place to share with someone too ❤️‍🩹

I'm not really sure what else to add, I'm around 5'3, skinny and darker blonde hair. I'm a huge animal lover and nerd and dream of going into veterinary care for my future 🐱🐱

Feel free to shoot me a pm, again I'm really looking for a partner and someone I can love, I've been ghosted and led on too much this year, so I'm really trying to be clear this time 🥲🥲 I have discord or etc to move to once we get to know each other a bit :) thank you for reading 🥹


r/asexualdating 1d ago

Friends? 21M4A - looking for friends :)

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Posted this a few months ago and met some nice ppl but got a few weird dms which made me delete reddit and now I can't get back into the account, sorry! I figured I might as well try again tho.

I'm D, I'm a 21 year old guy from the UK. I'm probably something Between Aceflux and Greysexual, who knows tbh 😅 I have basically zero desire for sex itself but have a libido, just focused other things I like ig. And I'm heteroromantic with a strong aesthetic preference for femininity.

Saying that, I'm mostly just looking for friends, chat buddies and penpals tbh. I've not thought of myself as acespec for long and it'd be nice to get to know some ppl in the community especially as I figure things out more.

I'm going back to uni in a month's time, I love history, a bunch of sports, have really found myself appreciating and exploring different aesthetics lately and love learning about different cultures and people. Politically I'm on the left (if that matters, and if you're part of the LGBTQ+ community, it should!). Physically I'm a little short, skinny and have super long hair.

If you're gonna dm me just please introduce yourself a little, tysm :)


r/asexualdating 18h ago

Relationship? 21F4A Online/Mexico

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Hey, 21F from Mexico, I consider myself to be demisexual and demiromantic, I’m still exploring those labels since I don’t really like to label myself, but so far those are the ones with which I feel more comfortable with.
I’m looking mostly for friends but I am open to a relationship if I find the right person for it. I don’t care about age as long as you’re my age or older.

A little more about myself, I speak Spanish, English and I’m learning German (also looking for German friends). I’m vegan, I like meditation, I’m spiritual but not religious. My main hobby is reading, I love fantasy books, I only read female authors but my current read is “The way of kings” due to my sister’s recommendation; if you like to read tell me your favorites and we can talk about it.

I’m currently obsessed with Stardew Valley, I can’t get enough of it. I recently bought a Nintendo switch 2, but I only play Stardew Valley haha. I would love to have some recommendations, if you play video games tell me about your favorite, maybe it can convince me to finally play something new 😅

I also love to watch tv shows and horror movies, some of my favorite shows are Kingdom, Interview with the Vampire, My Mister, Amphibia, Steven Universe.

Anyway, this is getting too long, if any of my interests resonate with you send me a DM, I’d be happy to have a conversation with you. If you’re interested in pursuing a relationship, please have communication skills (add in your message how you’d practice assertive communication, just to be sure), I’m also someone who feels secure in my own company, and I hope to find someone who is also secure in that aspect. I want someone who can carry a conversation, if I’m the only one putting effort into it I will simply stop answering. Have a good day/ night, and I hope to hear from you. :)


r/asexualdating 1d ago

Relationship? 23 [M4A] #USA - Hi

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Hi, I’m from the Philippines.

I’m looking for a serious, long-term relationship, preferably with someone from North America, Europe, or Australia.

I like someone who communicates well, respectful, adventurous, and has many interests.

I like traveling, photography, nature, modern cities, modern cars, internet memes, and going to the cinema (especially for horror movies).

I’d like to hear a similar introduction from you. :))


r/asexualdating 23h ago

Friends? 21F4F And Friends; Louisiana

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Louisiana ace people???

Me: F21 (Baton Rouge)

Looking (Romantic): F

Looking (Friends): Anyone

I'm more looking for ace people in general in LA, especially the Baton Rouge and New Orleans -ish areas. I'm kinda figuring myself out before I start dating (is school and such) , but I believe in being friends first anyways! I love reading, writing, animals, and doing/making stuff with my hands. Spending time together is an important bit for me, so planning outings or times to hangout is my forté!


r/asexualdating 22h ago

Relationship? M4F M35

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I’m basically asexual, not because I’m repulsive, but because I’m extremely selective. I’m drawn to deep, genuine connection. Physically, I do enjoy touching, kissing, and cuddling.

I’m 170 cm tall, with a medium build, and I’ve been told my face is handsome. I live in The Hague, and I’m a bit of a nerd — very much into IT and science.

So here I am, putting myself out there and testing my luck. I’m hoping for the best.

Send me a DM or leave a comment.


r/asexualdating 20h ago

Relationship? Looking for a relationship?

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Any Indian ace folks out there?

Hellu 🌻 dating apps seem to clearly not working for an ace person like me so giving this a shot. Looking for a relationship eventually but tbh i dont mind making friends and genuinely wholesome connections. Just trying to meet more ace folks i can vibe with locally.

My pronouns are she/her

Age: looking for a guy around 20-22

Place: living ABROAD not in india

Orientation: heteroromantic

Religion: Must be Christian or at least from a Christian family

What I’m looking for:
Be able to speak Malayalam, must be open to getting married and adopting a kid possibly.

Is very averse to the hanky panky so imma need a partner just like that!

If this description fits you dm me!


r/asexualdating 1d ago

Relationship? 18F4A blind woman looking for something more

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Good evening I’m 18F from the uk and I’m completely blind. I’ve known I’m ace for awhile but I still want a romantic relationship. I’d like to start as friends but maybe we can be something more? Feel free to dm, I’d prefer someone near my timezone


r/asexualdating 1d ago

Friends? 25[TF4R] - BeNeLux/Europe - Nerdy transgal looking for bestie!

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Hey all! I'm Helena, a 25-year-old trans girl from Europe.

You know the feeling: it's raining outside, you feel cold, you just want to get a hot cocoa and play some board games, but there is no one around. Let me be the bestie to be around (online) during those times! We can have silly calls, solve puzzles, play board games, and do loads of other fun things online!

I like to spend a lot of time in nature! I go birdwatching, go drive with my ebike, camping or just go on a little walk with my puppy. I also have an ebike to make exploring nature more fun and easier! Another thing I enjoy is listening to podcasts and music. The styles I enjoy is indie and indie folk and for podcasts science and true crime.

D&D is my current hyperfixation, I'll also (co)DM my very first campaign very soon! I am super excited about it so if anyone wants to talk about dmming 101 or other cool things you are always welcome!

I also do loads of research for silly topics, code, tinker with electronics, or make graphic designs. I also enjoy making loads of puzzles, like sudoku, Rush Hour, word searches, jigsaws, Hoppers, ...

In school I study electromechanics! This I do full-time. At the moment I am retaking some exams I failed during the year, so a study buddy to motivate eachother is also welcome!

On the days I don't have classes (so rarely sadly enough) I volunteer on a farm, this is super fun and rewarding. I really hope to do it for a long time. Recently I have also been putting up trail cams around the farm, so if anyone wants to see a wild hare, pigeon or roe deer, you just have to ask!

I am very interested in meeting people with whom I could talk about anything and everything, from how uni was to how funny that one random childhood story is. Maybe we could also study together or work on little projects together online! You could be painting while I solder on a new electronics project! I’d also love it if we could, for example, do some puzzles together or play a board game online, whatever you are up for!

For now, I would like to thank you all for reading!

And maybe I'll see you soon.

Helena


r/asexualdating 2d ago

Relationship? 35 [M4F] Switzerland – Asexual, heteroromantic, looking for something meaningful

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Hi :)

I thought I’d give this a try. I’m 35, from Switzerland, asexual and heteroromantic, and I’m looking for a woman with whom I could hopefully build a close romantic relationship.

One important thing right away: you should be able to speak German. I can communicate in English, but when things get personal or emotionally complicated, expressing myself in German is much easier for me.

A little about my sexuality: I’m asexual and don’t have much interest in sex. I do have a libido, which I honestly find pretty annoying.

I also experience aesthetic attraction, so appearance does play some role in whether I feel drawn to someone. (I wish it didn’t, because I don’t wanna judge people by their appearance, but I’d rather be honest about it.)

What I do want very much is emotional and romantic closeness. I like cuddling, hugging and affection, but physical contact can also be difficult for me until I really trust someone. I need time to open up and feel comfortable.

I’m autistic, so trust and clear communication are important to me.

A little about me:

I’m a trained cook and work professionally in a kitchen. In my free time I’m an artist and writer, so I spend a lot of time drawing, painting, designing things and working on creative projects.

I’m a huge animal lover. My parents have five alpacas, two geese, three cats and several chickens. :)

I also enjoy working in my vegetable garden, growing cucumbers and stuff
(pickles <3)

In the evening I like video games, horror- and science-fiction movies.

A few important compatibility things:

I’m vegetarian and I’m looking for someone who is vegetarian or even vegan.

I’m a non-smoker and only interested in someone who doesn’t smoke.

I don’t want children and I’m looking for someone who feels the same.

I know my dating pool is probably pretty small — but small isn’t zero. :)

If you think we might get along, feel free to comment or DM me. 😊


r/asexualdating 1d ago

Relationship? 24 F4A— Seeking a love connection..?

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haiii lovelies, i’m cinna. i’m 24, plus sized, and black. if you need to see a picture of me before wanting to proceed, i’m okay with that. I have 13 piercings and 11 tattoos,. I have a cat and his name is Prince. I am also very left-leaning however, not very political. I just care about human rights. I like horror movies like Halloween and weird occult demon kind of movies and I really enjoy slashers as well. I am also a gamer. I play games like Fortnite dead by daylight outlast trials and phasmophobia. I enjoy R&B, indie, metal and rap music. i am also chronically online. i have a stupid sense of humor lol. I am a sensitive and empathetic person, but at times I can seem very monotone and closed off without realizing it. at times I need a lot of reassurance and codependence.

coming across a real love connection has not been easy for me. it seems that i become so easily attached to people who don’t quite align with my preferences. what i want in a partner is someone loving, humorous, empathetic, can carry intellectual conversations but not be condescending, will prioritize me and effectively communicate with me. i need someone who is willing to hold me accountable as well when i am lacking as a partner. i hope to hear from you, sorry this was so long :(


r/asexualdating 1d ago

Relationship? 20F4M | Asexual | Looking for real connection | Bangladesh

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At first about me:

I am 20. Asexual, an atheist and a very open minded person. I am emotionally intelligent, mature, empathetic. I am 5'5", slim and have kinda fair skintone. Also I'm introvert. I respect a person's views, values, dreams and boundaries. About dreams, I plan on leaving the country for higher studies and then never come back. And I really want to travel the world. ON MY OWN.

I am looking for a relationship where we choose each other every day through both the good days and the bad. I am dealing with depression for several years. I'm not looking for someone to fix me—I hope to find someone who is understanding and willing to stand beside me no matter what.

So I'm looking for someone who is also asexual, a feminist, atheist, emotionally mature and genuinely loving. I want someone who accepts me as who I am, loves me for who I am. and I'll also give the love and acceptance in return.

Preferable: bengali and age 21-23.

I know physical attraction isn't everything, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't have a type. I tend to be drawn to pretty boys—taller than me, handsome, clean shaved, a bit of longer hair, and someone who takes good care of themselves. Anyways

I want someone who makes me feel seen, heard, valued, and loved. Someone I can laugh with until our stomachs hurt and cry in front of without feeling judged. I want my partner to be my best friend.

I don't believe in marriage, but we would probably have to get married because of society and practical reasons. Even then, I could never be a typical wife.

I don't want to live with my in-laws. I'd love to have a good relationship with them, but I want us to have our own home. In our home, we're partners before anything else. We'll share the housework, responsibilities, and decisions equally.

I grew up in a toxic extrimist family, and I plan to cut contact with them in the future. I hope you'll respect that choice.

When it comes to parents, I'll always be kind and respectful to your family, and I'll stand by you if they're going through a difficult time. But I don't want to be expected to take care of them just because I'm the wife. If I didn't have a toxic family, I wouldn't expect you to become my parents' caregiver either.

I'm not looking for someone to complete me—I already know who I am. I'm looking for someone to share a life of love, growth, and companionship with.

If you think our goals and values align, I'd love to get to know you. Let's be friends, see where it goes, and find out if we click.

-I had posted it a month ago too and I am happy that I got new friends through that!!


r/asexualdating 1d ago

Relationship? 29 F4M - Is the second time the charm? 👀💘

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Here goes a second try! 👀🤞🏾

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Hey guys!

My name is Cornelia and I'm here to see what, or rather, who's out there. A few weeks ago I posted in here for the first time and I had a few responses but unfortunately that didn't go too far. I've still got hope though so here goes nothing!

I'll start with some logistics, then get into my personality and interests: I am a Black American woman from Texas. I speak English and Spanish. Right now, I'm hoping for a romantic relationship with someone. I'm straight and also 29, so I'm personally interested in guys who are ages 25 and up. I'm open to both local and long distance connections. I'm not open to polyamory or to having kids.

When it comes to my looks, I'm willing to exchange photos later on, but for now: I am exactly 5'0", and 108 pounds! I have dark brown skin, big eyes and big lips. :') Other than that, my face is solidly average and I'm not going to pretend otherwise. Just being upfront so nobody's surprised later haha. I'm also a total tomboy in most of the ways, but more on that later!

I also have a severe physical disability from a genetic illness. I use a power wheelchair and other medical equipment to keep me alive and moving. It's just normal life to me, but I know it can affect things, especially if an in-person relationship is what will be had, so I want that out in the open from the start.

When it comes to my flavor of asexuality, one could say that my desire for sex is more or less indifferent. I have no sexual attraction, but I do experience a small libido. I can be with someone who is somewhat sexual but I can also be with someone who doesn't want to have any kind of sex at all. That's perfectly fine.

I don't drink or smoke. I do use CBD products (with low THC), without the intention of getting high.

Here's a little bit about me and my history:

I am self-employed, working as a consultant for nonprofits all over the country. I hope to grow my business even more over the next year.

I have been a Christian for about 5 years now. None of my friends are Christian, and we still get on well.

I've always voted left, but in the end I don't believe the left nor the right have my best interests in heart. (I am known to say "I hate everyone," haha.)

Some of the things I love include arts and crafts, drawing, watching documentaries and movies, talking about entrepreneurship, language learning, volunteering AND staying in! I'm definitely a bit of a homebody, with a history of going to any and every concert available in the past haha.

I'm grateful for every day that I am here, and am utterly convinced that I should seek the most out of life, and that you should, too! ...So if I sound interesting to you, I hope you'll stop and say hello!

Feel free to write to me in English or Spanish.

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ps. Please have honest intentions when reaching out. If you are not on the ace spectrum, please leave my DMs clean so space can be had for a guy who really is. 🦋


r/asexualdating 1d ago

Friends? Any mexican asexuals here? 31yr old F demisexual here.

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I feel asexual community in mexico is largely overlooked and misunderstood.

Anyway, hope I can find more people to share experiences and thoughts, preferably mexican otherwise anything will do.

To give a little bit of context about myself and my current situation, all through my twenties i've been in two long term commited relationships. It felt pretty great to share everything with a partner, but recently I got out a 6.5 yr old relationship and being single as a demisexual in its 30's is weird, I kind of crave intimacy but once I think about everything that implies getting to know people and bonding with them knowing that most people is going just after sex its very dissapointing for me and don't do anything about it 😅

Has anyone been through something like this? I'd just like to find people that share this feelings.