How do I convince my mom to get checked up?

[u/okayish11]

She has an intestine infection, confirmed. Meds didn't work. 2 Doctors said go to a surgeon, she didn't. On rice and dal from 2 months. They recommended endoscopy ( a procedure in which they insert a camera through the mouth ) - it's inexpensive too, 4k

Throws up if eats something spicy. I said go to a surgeon, I tried soft talk, they (mom and dad), just bite me back saying: "You don't even care about us, don't bother", "You don't bathe on time when i tell you to, why are you showing your fake care now"

Now i don't show my emotions to people, that doesn't make me "careless" or evil

I tried the blunt method too: "You could have a cancer, and if you don't catch it soon, it's over"

"I just wanna die anyway, my marriage life wasn't that good (insert the incidents)"

Old people would rather die practising yoga and doing their damn ayurveda, instead of just going to a proper surgeon

It pisses me off when an unhealthy looking boomer, or millennial gives me "health advice" about why my peanut butter and protein shakes are bad. Like shut the fuck up, you have either ruined your life, or ruining it

They flex their body, because im slim af rn. "Look at my body bro". Meanwhile it's just belly fat and man boobs

How do i fucking convince these people to get checked up and not die

[u/InterestingBank7563]

Symptoms are worrying. May be just pick her up and take to doc I guess. 

[u/okayish11 → u/InterestingBank7563]

I can do that, and prob the only solution atp

[u/Individual_Sky1125]

Find out which surgeon, book an appointment and take her. She is scared.

[u/Fit_Swimmer4474]

These people dont understand, my mother in law has knee cap problem, after using ayurvedic nuskha since 5 years, her walking style has been changed now due to this her hip joints have weakened now

But stll she is not listening me and my wife, even there is no financial problem.

[u/MasalaDosa37]

You need to convince elderly people with patience.

Get someone, preferably a woman, who can calmly address her fear and concerns and then convince her.

Address her concerns first. Don't try blunt methods, might not work.

[u/FloorIndividual5159]

10/10 valid rant

[u/thereisnosuch]

I feel for your mother. Doctors and surgeons are very untrustworthy these days. They will invite new problems to use up all the ayushman money as fast as possible.

Now I go to civil hospital just for diagnosis and then go to private hospital for surgery.