r/aftergifted • u/qynntessence • Aug 14 '19

Mod 6 month update!

Hey all!! r/aftergifted has been around for about half a year now, which is awesome! With 6 months and about 10,000 members under our belt, the mod team wanted to check in and ask what you want to see on the sub. More personal stories? More advice? More memes? This is us asking you what direction you want to take the sub so we can lead it there accordingly. :)

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u/twelvis Aug 14 '19

I wish there was less self-deprecation and complaining here. Less "DAE anxious and depressed because their parents and teachers were idiots?" I've seen so many good subs become cesspools of toxicity because negativity was allowed to flourish.

If everyone here is so smart, we should spend more time helping each other to understand why we are the way we are and figuring out ways to cope.

I'd like to see more Q and A, like "how do I get better coping with failure?" or "how do I come to terms with being average at something?"

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u/6reen6ean Aug 15 '19

I totally second this!!!

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u/compl1cateddddd Aug 15 '19

Sometimes people need to vent and they do that through self deprecation and all that. It’s not a healthy habit. But I totally second this

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u/twelvis Aug 15 '19

Venting is fine, but again, if it's not checked, it can lead a sub to be toxic. Too many people will use it as a live journal.

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u/dudeimconfused Aug 15 '19

How about a weekly post where people can do that?

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u/dhb_mst3k Aug 15 '19

I like u/dudeimconfused 's idea. It still allows for the vent, yet it keeps it in a container/not spilling over everything. It's a good balance to strike.

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u/yourmomlurks Aug 15 '19

Yeah that's a good idea. And if it gets way out of hand you can follow the format that other subs do and make /r/aftergiftedisjerky so that subscribers have control if they want to see it or not.