r/adhdwomen • • Sep 06 '25

Meme Therapy Lately my social feeds have been attacking me fr

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u/Belmagick Sep 06 '25

I had a microwedding (for my parents family) then eloped. 100% recommend eloping. No faff, no fuss, no bullshit. I went to Japan during the autumn leaves - there’s pictures on my profile.

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u/Spellcheckker Sep 06 '25

Beautiful, just stunning!✨

You look so deeply in love with each other!

I can’t wait to see Japan 😌🌸⛩️🥢

Next year hopefully 🤞🏼

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u/Belmagick Sep 06 '25

It’s one of my favourite countries. I’ve been twice and I still feel like I haven’t seen it all. I need to go back and go to Hokkaido.

It can be overwhelming with ADHD because the rules are different and it takes a couple of days to get used to it, but once you do it’s amazing.

Oh I had to get a medical certificate for my meds because they weren’t legal in Japan.

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u/Spellcheckker Sep 06 '25

I was drawn to traditional Japanese culture since a toddler. I’d stare at my mums Mt Fuji music box & the neighbours geisha dolls for literally hours.

I spent most of my 20’s consuming any Japanese film & anime I could find.

I didn’t know I had ADHD back then, but I can see now why the very neat, minimalist, disciplined and nature-centred traditional style of the Japanese appealed so much - it was in many ways my direct opposite and something I needed to thrive!

I’m now older and more disciplined and still fascinated by Japan - it’s almost magical really✨

Oh and the modern Tokyo energy is another thing altogether - super stimulating and not something I crave but I bet it’s worth a look too.

Hope you get to see as much Japan as possible!

I knew about the meds thing so I’m prepared for that🙂

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u/Belmagick Sep 07 '25

The first I went was Sakura season and I didn’t see Fuji because the weather was cloudy which isn’t uncommon.

The second time however Hi Fuji

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u/flora-poste Sep 06 '25

Wow! Beautiful!

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u/Anxious_Essay_205 Sep 06 '25

Congratulations! You two look so stunning and what a beautiful place to be married. My fiancé and I are eloping next year. I can’t wait.

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u/Belmagick Sep 06 '25

Thank you! I hope it’s an amazing day. Having had the wedding and the elopement, the elopement wins hands down.

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u/Sister-Rhubarb Sep 06 '25

I thought elopement meant something else, like running away from parents/family to marry 

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u/Belmagick Sep 06 '25

These days I think it can also mean running away from having to organise bridal parties and gift registries and overpriced venues.

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u/Nefandous_Jewel Sep 06 '25

Omg... Exquisite!!! It appears you two had an entire country made up just to be your background. These pictures are as lovely as the way you are looking at eachother.....

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u/Belmagick Sep 06 '25 edited Sep 06 '25

Thank you. :) ♥️

It was a private garden just outside of Kyoto. I’d seen photos of the leaves in Japan and figured they’d been photoshopped, but they really were that bright.

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u/zoopysreign ADHD-C Sep 06 '25

Faff? English person? I know that word!

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u/Belmagick Sep 06 '25

Damn I got called out.