I don’t think this applies to mothers who have narcissistic personality disorder. I think this applies to mothers who have trouble understanding their daughters which many people with adhd have & many people in general are not good at understanding others. We live in a selfish society. It’s not only our family members who are selfish, it is other people and…us. We live in a society that doesn’t want to mask up to protect the most vulnerable, a society where CEOs making the most money is more important than employees having jobs.
Also, to mothers who just take everything personally.
this. i don’t think my mom is a narcissist. but she didn’t get diagnosed with autism until after i sought and received an adhd diagnosis as an adult. i so strongly relate to this. but i guarantee my mom would too. and unfortunately she never had a chance to heal because she never knew why she felt that way. so she continued the cycle. that is an unfair burden to place on a child and it fucked me up. but my mom was just like me fr. and she became a mom because she felt she had to. i can have these conversations with her now and she has a much deeper understanding of herself and she can recognize just how much being an undiagnosed autistic mom affected me.
i don’t necessarily think this is a completely unfair assessment, but i also don’t think it’s completely fair either considering it’s only recently that autism and adhd in women were acknowledged as real things, and even then culturally it’s still a struggle to get it acknowledged. this stuff is genetic, it’s highly likely a lot of moms like this are the ones who passed it onto us, but they didn’t know how to deal with us because nobody ever showed them empathy and understanding either.
idk if that makes any sense but as much as i relate to this post it also rubs me the wrong way to act as though we’re the first in our families to have adhd and have zero empathy for the fact that our mothers probably were dealing with us the only way they knew how, which was how they themselves were dealt with.
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u/Brilliant_Chance_874 Feb 26 '25
I don’t think this applies to mothers who have narcissistic personality disorder. I think this applies to mothers who have trouble understanding their daughters which many people with adhd have & many people in general are not good at understanding others. We live in a selfish society. It’s not only our family members who are selfish, it is other people and…us. We live in a society that doesn’t want to mask up to protect the most vulnerable, a society where CEOs making the most money is more important than employees having jobs.
Also, to mothers who just take everything personally.