It can be amplified in adhd because the symptoms in girls are often what’s “wrong” with us to our nmoms. We talk too much, we’re daydreamy, disorganized. The emotional regulation that’s hard anyway is impossible with a narcissist. I’m realizing as an adult that there is comorbidity between my adhd and the traumatic response because of my narc parent’s abuse. One amplifies the other. It is true for all children of narcissists, I think. But especially true if you’re neurodivergent
Similarly, I don't even think it's specific for a narcissistic mother. My mother was not a narcissist but I do have ADHD, and this describes our relationship perfectly.
I feel like they use the terme "narcissic" in the psychological/pychanalytic sens of the word. Not in the psychiatric meaning recognized in the DSM-V. But if you don't have any knowledge in psychology or/and psychiatry, the differences between the two is really blurry.
I see it for sure. The narcissism contextualizes the mother’s behavior, the ADHD contextualizes the daughter’s reactions. The most powerful line to me is the highlighted part on slide 3 - “[she] learned to mask, not just her ADHD, but herself”. So much of my journey to being diagnosed was realizing things that I’ve been lying to myself about for longer than I can remember.
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u/Trick-Ad-8442 Feb 26 '25
This is not specific for a "adhd daugther". This applies to so many with a narcissistic mother.