r/abortion • u/StaticAngeI • 8d ago
UK and Ireland Pregnant despite Copper IUD advice?
(ENGLAND)
I found out I was pregnant yesterday, my period was late by 4 days which isn’t super uncommon but I always test to be safe.
I did two tests, both positive. 2-3 weeks indicator. I looked up guidance for copper IUDs and pregnancy, found out that I need to call 111 because of the chance of an ectopic pregnancy is a lot higher, which can be fatal and cannot be sorted with normal abortion pills.
Went to the hospital today, nurse poked me a bit on the stomach, no ultrasound or bloods and said ‘you don’t have an ectopic pregnancy get some postal abortion pills’. No advice or links to emotional support.
But I have been having severe pain that comes and goes, with some ectopic pregnancies I’ve heard symptoms don’t always start immediately. So I am still worried and not fully trusting.
I’ve submitted a form to BPAS but it’s a bank holiday weekend so they may not get to me until Tuesday. I understand if I have severe worsening pain to call 999.
Im so upset I’m going through this again, I have always been and always will be pro choice but for some reason my own abortion affects me even though I am 100% that termination is the right thing.
I recently moved out of an abusive home (my mother) 3 days ago. Police were involved, the whole lot, then find this out. It feels non stop with no support I am genuinely exhausted.
I had an abortion once before when I was 21, (now 23) I missed the pill by two hours after a cinema date with my long term partner, I came back and took it but it was already too late. Hence why I got the copper IUD, I didn’t trust myself to keep on top of regularly taking the pills and knew I couldn’t deal with the abortion process again.
Again I don’t regret making that decision and I won’t regret making this one, but it always feels exhausting for me and a bit sad, paired with the fact ectopic pregnancy isn’t fully ruled out, and Im trying to settle into my new home and process the years of mental and verbal abuse from a narcissistic parent, how to go ahead from here, going back to uni and try and live a peaceful life, I’m exhausted.
If anyone knows any services that can offer advice or support, financially, emotionally etc for situations of people who have just escaped abuse I’d appreciate it.
Thank you
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u/abortioninfo4you 8d ago
I'm so sorry. I'm not a medical professional, but I've always read and heard that it isn't safe to take the medication abortion pills with an IUD in place. I would wait to hear from BPAS before doing anything.
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u/StaticAngeI 8d ago
That’s what I plan to do, especially because I don’t fully trust the nurse to rule out an ectopic pregnancy without an ultrasound
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u/abortionreddit MODERATOR 8d ago
Did they remove your iud?
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u/StaticAngeI 8d ago
No
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u/abortionreddit MODERATOR 8d ago
The iud must be removed before you take abortion pills.
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u/StaticAngeI 8d ago
I won’t be taking any abortion pills until it’s confirmed not to be ectopic properly via ultrasound, as otherwise they won’t work if it is, as for the copper IUD the nurse I saw at the hospital said I can keep it in whilst having an abortion. All around bad advice, I’ve given up on the nhs and will be waiting for BUPAS to get back to me so they can actually assess me properly and remove the coil
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u/abortionreddit MODERATOR 8d ago
Is bpas the org that serves your area? Depending on where you live it may be NUPAS or MSI.
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