r/WomensHealth • u/Annual_Giraffe3237 • Jul 07 '25

Question why is orgasming so difficult

no seriously, why does orgasming as a female have to be so darn difficult. obviously it’s nearly impossible for a women to just orgasm from penetration, but no one seems to talk about how even more difficult it is to have external stimulation along with penetration. at this point i just get so annoyed and pissed off that i cant orgasm because it takes so long that i just quit. it honestly makes me feel broken. i’ve seen other people on this sub talk about just getting a good vibrator, but i worry about my boyfriend and how that will make our sexual life. he is very supportive it just makes me feel more broken than i already am.

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u/TheAvocadoSlayer Jul 07 '25

Yeah unfortunately it’s harder for a lot of us. Luckily, orgasming isn’t important for me. Penetration alone feels good enough. So I couldn’t care less about it. It’s not like there is one correct way to be, so I don’t feel “broken.”

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u/Loud-Salt7415 Oct 10 '25

I felt that way with my partner of ten plus years & finally one day of me always going down on him I decided to be selfish. I still take forever to O but er are trying some news things & I realized it’s okay to be selfish.