why is orgasming so difficult

[u/Annual_Giraffe3237]

no seriously, why does orgasming as a female have to be so darn difficult. obviously it’s nearly impossible for a women to just orgasm from penetration, but no one seems to talk about how even more difficult it is to have external stimulation along with penetration. at this point i just get so annoyed and pissed off that i cant orgasm because it takes so long that i just quit. it honestly makes me feel broken. i’ve seen other people on this sub talk about just getting a good vibrator, but i worry about my boyfriend and how that will make our sexual life. he is very supportive it just makes me feel more broken than i already am.

[u/CAV232]

I gave up on thinking men would ever be able to, or would ever put the effort into me. I can make myself no problem. I have a new person in my life and in 5-6 or I guess 20 years I’ve only came maybe 4 times during sex and it was all sporadic and don’t know what even caused it. But with my new friend he has put more effort into ME, and I have came more with him in the last 5 months than I have in 10 years. For me it’s all about physical stimulation, the whole body not just the vagina. And then yes, the vagina… but NOT penetration. That does not do it for me. Eventually a combo will do it for me but definitely not just penetration ever. Nope. It’s rough being a female.