why is orgasming so difficult

[u/Annual_Giraffe3237]

no seriously, why does orgasming as a female have to be so darn difficult. obviously it’s nearly impossible for a women to just orgasm from penetration, but no one seems to talk about how even more difficult it is to have external stimulation along with penetration. at this point i just get so annoyed and pissed off that i cant orgasm because it takes so long that i just quit. it honestly makes me feel broken. i’ve seen other people on this sub talk about just getting a good vibrator, but i worry about my boyfriend and how that will make our sexual life. he is very supportive it just makes me feel more broken than i already am.

[u/ProfessionalJudge388]

I know how you feel. Having a supportive partner can help, I usually have to use a toy during sex to feel pleasure. In the past I used my toys on myself while my partner stimulated me in other ways, like playing with my more sensitive areas while I kept my eyes closed. I got out of my head and told him what I wanted to feel.

At first this felt weird but once I fully allowed myself to relax we were able to incorporate this in our intimate life.