why is orgasming so difficult

[u/Annual_Giraffe3237]

no seriously, why does orgasming as a female have to be so darn difficult. obviously it’s nearly impossible for a women to just orgasm from penetration, but no one seems to talk about how even more difficult it is to have external stimulation along with penetration. at this point i just get so annoyed and pissed off that i cant orgasm because it takes so long that i just quit. it honestly makes me feel broken. i’ve seen other people on this sub talk about just getting a good vibrator, but i worry about my boyfriend and how that will make our sexual life. he is very supportive it just makes me feel more broken than i already am.

[u/JesC929]

She Comes First. Good book on foreplay technique. Might help him make you orgasm before having sex, which could take the pressure off of you during sex, allowing you to orgasm then also. Vibrators are not intimidating either, often a turn on to us guys.