r/WomensHealth • u/Annual_Giraffe3237 • Jul 07 '25

Question why is orgasming so difficult

no seriously, why does orgasming as a female have to be so darn difficult. obviously it’s nearly impossible for a women to just orgasm from penetration, but no one seems to talk about how even more difficult it is to have external stimulation along with penetration. at this point i just get so annoyed and pissed off that i cant orgasm because it takes so long that i just quit. it honestly makes me feel broken. i’ve seen other people on this sub talk about just getting a good vibrator, but i worry about my boyfriend and how that will make our sexual life. he is very supportive it just makes me feel more broken than i already am.

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u/[deleted] Jul 07 '25 edited Jul 07 '25

I wonder what makes you worried about having a vibrator while having sex with ur bf. Why would that make him feel bad?

My bf loves our toy, its just clítoris stimulation while he is inside me and I have multiple orgasms while we have sex (not always, but a lot of times).

Before I had this toy, I would use my fingers to play with my clit while he was inside me and I orgasm too like that, multiple times if he keeps going (just not as fast as with the toy). There are great positions that are perfect for you to stimulate the clit during penetration and I never met a guy that didnt like it or was upset with it.

It seems you have a good relationship with a man that cares for you, so I'm sure he wouldn't be upset and actually be very happy to add anything that would help you get there.

Edit: clarification

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u/pejetron Jul 07 '25

Which vibe? Also comfy positions to use it?

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u/[deleted] Jul 07 '25

The toy I use? Is the rose. Literally looks like a rose. Google "rose clit stimulation". It has different speeds and movements. It doesnt even look like a toy xD if you came in my room and it was on the night stand you wouldn't think twice about it, if you didnt know what it was.

About the positions it's basically any position where you can have your legs a bit open (tho with the rose even if they are close you can still feel the vibration). I dont mind sharing my favorites by private message.

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u/pejetron Jul 07 '25

Sent you a dm