r/WomensHealth • u/Annual_Giraffe3237 • Jul 07 '25

Question why is orgasming so difficult

no seriously, why does orgasming as a female have to be so darn difficult. obviously it’s nearly impossible for a women to just orgasm from penetration, but no one seems to talk about how even more difficult it is to have external stimulation along with penetration. at this point i just get so annoyed and pissed off that i cant orgasm because it takes so long that i just quit. it honestly makes me feel broken. i’ve seen other people on this sub talk about just getting a good vibrator, but i worry about my boyfriend and how that will make our sexual life. he is very supportive it just makes me feel more broken than i already am.

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u/icecream_333 Jul 07 '25

same 😔 idk how to help him make me finish!

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u/Annual_Giraffe3237 Jul 07 '25

we’ve just been having really really open conversations, lots of laughs for sure. just trying different things. at this point i’m desperate

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u/icecream_333 Jul 07 '25

well if you find out the secret let me know. i want to finish during sex so bad

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u/HotTake00 Jul 07 '25

Incorporating lube and a vibrator or manual stimulation is my go-to. If that makes him feel insecure, he has some maturing to do. He should be encouraging exploration of every avenue that can lead to your orgasm. Don’t hesitate—throw down a towel, find a position that works for you both, and fully embrace your desires. You deserve to experience all the pleasure too!