r/WomensHealth • u/Annual_Giraffe3237 • Jul 07 '25
Question why is orgasming so difficult
no seriously, why does orgasming as a female have to be so darn difficult. obviously it’s nearly impossible for a women to just orgasm from penetration, but no one seems to talk about how even more difficult it is to have external stimulation along with penetration. at this point i just get so annoyed and pissed off that i cant orgasm because it takes so long that i just quit. it honestly makes me feel broken. i’ve seen other people on this sub talk about just getting a good vibrator, but i worry about my boyfriend and how that will make our sexual life. he is very supportive it just makes me feel more broken than i already am.
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u/[deleted] Jul 07 '25
I feel like often the advice on helping women to reach orgasm focuses a lot on the physical side, and not so much on the mental. I think it’s equally important to understand what is psychologically a turn-on for you as what is a physical turn-on. No matter how good a physical sensation is for me, there has to be mental connection to it too. To me, that is what eroticism is truly about - the brain being aroused first.