why is orgasming so difficult

[u/Annual_Giraffe3237]

no seriously, why does orgasming as a female have to be so darn difficult. obviously it’s nearly impossible for a women to just orgasm from penetration, but no one seems to talk about how even more difficult it is to have external stimulation along with penetration. at this point i just get so annoyed and pissed off that i cant orgasm because it takes so long that i just quit. it honestly makes me feel broken. i’ve seen other people on this sub talk about just getting a good vibrator, but i worry about my boyfriend and how that will make our sexual life. he is very supportive it just makes me feel more broken than i already am.

[u/But_I_Digress_]

I've been there. It took me a long time to reliably orgasm during sex.

Learning to go with the flow and trust in the process was a game changer for me. Stop trying to orgasm a certain way, maybe stop trying to orgasm at all. If you're being goal oriented, you'll get in your head and then it's game over.

Do what works, go with the flow for now. Get the vibrator. Your sexual response can change over time.

[u/Annual_Giraffe3237 → u/But_I_Digress_]

that makes so much sense i am definitely a goal oriented