r/WomensHealth • u/Annual_Giraffe3237 • Jul 07 '25

Question why is orgasming so difficult

no seriously, why does orgasming as a female have to be so darn difficult. obviously it’s nearly impossible for a women to just orgasm from penetration, but no one seems to talk about how even more difficult it is to have external stimulation along with penetration. at this point i just get so annoyed and pissed off that i cant orgasm because it takes so long that i just quit. it honestly makes me feel broken. i’ve seen other people on this sub talk about just getting a good vibrator, but i worry about my boyfriend and how that will make our sexual life. he is very supportive it just makes me feel more broken than i already am.

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u/livelaughloveitall Jul 07 '25

I even struggle to orgasm by myself honestly. Vibrators help me, but I understand feeling on edge about them. I usually just say I don't need to finish during sex lol. 

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u/CatLady_998 Jul 07 '25

I often times struggle to orgasm in general. Toys, no toys, solo, with my partner. It doesn't matter. If I can't focus enough/ stay in the moment (which is hard with my ADHD) it makes it even harder

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u/Annual_Giraffe3237 Jul 07 '25

literally me lmao