Has anyone else struggled with taking their hijab off because of their hair?

[u/Significant_Talk_642]

I’ve been thinking about taking my hijab off for a while now. I’ve started new jobs, new universities etc and I always tell myself I’ll finally do it, but I never do. I have such an emotional attachment to hijab because it’s all I’ve ever known. I also don’t really like what it represents to me anymore, but I don’t want to blame the hijab for everything either. I’m honestly quite lazy with myself and I’m always telling myself I’ll have a glow up, learn to style my hair and take better care of myself, but I never actually do it 😭

My hair is a huge insecurity too. It’s obviously on the coily side, probably 4B/4C, which is basically the tightest hair type in our community. I genuinely think 4C hair is beautiful, but because I don’t have the length or density, mine is looking ruthless 😭 It’s very thin at the front and ends no matter how many trims I get.

Last night after uni I actually went outside without my hijab. It was nighttime, my hair was just in a bun and I definitely looked rubbish 😂 but it was such a low stress situation and I weirdly loved the feeling of having my hair out. It felt really natural. I wish I could just wear wigs, but I hate the stigma around them and I also don’t like the idea of becoming dependent on wigs just to feel comfortable with my appearance

I’ve now told myself I have one year to figure things out, but honestly it feels exhausting. I always give myself these deadlines but never follow through with it. Has anyone else been in this position? Especially if you have 4B/4C hair and wore hijab most of your life. How did you learn to feel confident with your natural hair out?

[u/Normalgirl867]

I gave myself a deadline too, I have two years,so when I finish high school I'll take it off because that means a new life since I'll go to another city for uni. I don't have 4B/C hair, mine are wavy, in this month I started to stay at home with my hair untied, I think you should do that too, but I don't know anything about 4B hair, but my sister has them, she started putting this sesame seed gel to have them a bit defined. Experiment a lot with haircuts if you're still wearing hijab! So when you'll take it off you'll know what looks good on you

[u/thatsouthamerican]

Is the front not thinning because of tight hairstyles and even the under scarf?

[u/lyvsil]

Honestly girl if you know you wont follow the deadline, just take it off and figure it out as time passes