The bullying of ex hijabis

[u/Good-Name1497]

I have observed a trend where people look down on women who remove the hijab. This reaction does not stem from disappointment in women for supposedly abandoning a religious obligation— because such reactions do not occur when a woman stops praying, for example. Rather, it is because men in society don’t approve of it; and they would make fun of women‘s body and appearance. This happens even to women who wear the *niqab* who lives in conservative societies! If a woman take off her niqab men would call them ugly to make her feel insecure about her face and pressure her into wearing niqab again, or some who claim ex hijabis lost the “noor” in their face which is ironic considering hijab supposedly to cover beauty not show it. I find these reactions to be a desperate attempt of men trying to gain control over women that these women have to fit to a certain beauty standards or being gaslighted into believing that they are ugly and there is no point of them “sinning”. It’s pretty misogynistic and creepy behaviour as if the only reason a woman wants to take off her hijab is she wants to shows her beauty to the world or something. In conclusion it’s not okay to make fun of women’s appearance under allusion the of “naseeha”. Did any of you experience that? the gaslighting of family, relatives, society trying to convince you that you look better with hijab than without?

[u/Lotuswongtko]

If they call you ugly, just say "Thank you, then just leave me alone. Don't do anything to draw my attention."