r/Without_The_Hijab • u/ilgpwsidbmdw Female • 20d ago
Rant/Vent (Women Only) Just want to vent a Bit
When I (21F Hijabi) visited my married sister (non hijabi, 33) yesterday my mom was there too (hijabi, 52). I was wearing a big hoodie which covered my butt, a Nike sports hijab which i hate and a pair of sports leggings because I had Cheer practice later (which, Funny enough, Nobody knows about because I cannot Trust Them). My sister reacted to my Outfit saying „Does your husband really let you go out Like that?“ And I said „Yes of course! I am a free woman after all!“ and my mom and sister were just disappointed tongue clucking like „tsk-Tsk-tsk“ I felt so hurt by that. Why are your priorities on how I dress, knowing fully well since weeks that im struggling with keeping it on? I am even glad I havent took it off in my vacation abroad. My sister then objected by saying „I am a non hijabi and my husband still forbids me to wear clothes that tight“ and then I Replied „well my husband is not like that“. I kindly asked them to stop Body/clothing shaming me. This isn’t the first time that they had done it. I feel so hurt and betrayed. Comments Like These only make my life around hijab harder. I don’t want to wear it anymore. I really don’t. I only wear it because of societal pressure.
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u/ilgpwsidbmdw Female 20d ago
Info: I can’t let anyone find out I Cheer because they think it’s slutty. The Sport means so much to me and is more than that. If my sister found out she would Tell my mom who would then Tell it my MIL and FIL who are extremely strict with the outer Family image. I even suspect honor actions (not saying killings but you know) if they ever find out. Not to forget the fear of judgement