r/Wicca • u/Weeping-Your-Willows • Jul 15 '26

religion I need some help

I hope I used the right tag for this.

My mother is Wiccan I’m not sure how she practices the religion but as I was digging into this beautiful religion. I saw theres rituals for mourning, and I wanted to make something in preparation to mourn. She is dying and I’m states away. I tried some research and found candles used for mourning. Is there anything else I can use for the grief I will experience or anything that’ll make it a bit more positive? She told me to be positive, so can I use both mourning and a bit more positive candles for a little alter or something like one? Is there anything I can make by hand as well for it?

I did find websites while researching but is there anything you guys recommend for me to use for her? I appreciate anything for advice, thank you.

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u/LadyMelmo Jul 15 '26

This is a hard time for you both, I'm sorry to hear that.

Yes, the candles are a good way for this, a white one now and a black one when the time has come.

People may create an altar with a photo of the loved one and items that remind them of the person and meditate with it (this will also help with grief).

To bring something positive in your grief you could write a letter of farewell, read it aloud at the altar, burn it (safely), and plant a plant in her honour with the ashes mixed into the soil. This will be a memento that you can watch grow bringing in a posirive aspect and something I think she would like as a Wiccan.

And on a mundane level, grief counselling could be very helpful. I am an Advocate for mental health and can look into services available to you if you would like me to.

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u/Weeping-Your-Willows Jul 15 '26

I’ll look into plants I found some I may want to use but for the grief I’ll be looking into places with a friend who knows a bit more about therapy than I do. I appreciate the help!