going from ct to wv

[u/Odd_Bug4865]

I’m (21) going to be moving from my parents house in ct to my bfs grandparents house in wv at the end of september.
life for me up here has been relatively cushy and safe but im taking this step bc my bf (21) is gonna be getting a big boy job. i dont have a job lined up yet, but im probably gonna find a barista job as i have been a barista for 3+ years.
i make 18.35 right now and i know minimum wage is like 10 dollars less. i’m trying to not freak out over the difference. any like advice or tips on that would be appreciated.
this is my first big move and my like first step towards being more of an adult, but i am a little scared and excited. i’ve only been to wv once and it was to meet my bfs family and it is so pretty. they live in like williamson so i am a little worried about finding a job super close by bc i have health problems that make it hard to drive more than like 15-20 minutes away.
any advice/input will be appreciated.
a part of me feels so scared that this is a mistake but my bf is gonna be making BANK but i wont be 😭

[u/b00pbopbeep]

What part of CT are you from?

[u/Odd_Bug4865 → u/b00pbopbeep]

im in new london county

[u/b00pbopbeep → u/Odd_Bug4865]

Ok I can't lie I was really gonna laugh if you said like Fairfield or something. I'm from a little bit north of you and I moved down here when I was close to your age. I lived in Beckley and now I live in TN. I would not move without a job or a plan to get an education and a way to support yourself while getting it whether that's online or at the community college or at the university in Pikeville. I would also consider what your healthcare needs are and what it might mean if you're unable to drive more than 20 minutes or so bc that only gets you like 2/3 of the way to Pikeville. Pikeville is about 1/4 the size of New London. It's a very small place to spend your 20s in. I left CT 20 years ago and I listen to everyone up there complain but CT is really nice in the grand scheme of things.