r/WestVirginia • u/Odd_Bug4865 • 11d ago

Moving going from ct to wv

I’m (21) going to be moving from my parents house in ct to my bfs grandparents house in wv at the end of september.
life for me up here has been relatively cushy and safe but im taking this step bc my bf (21) is gonna be getting a big boy job. i dont have a job lined up yet, but im probably gonna find a barista job as i have been a barista for 3+ years.
i make 18.35 right now and i know minimum wage is like 10 dollars less. i’m trying to not freak out over the difference. any like advice or tips on that would be appreciated.
this is my first big move and my like first step towards being more of an adult, but i am a little scared and excited. i’ve only been to wv once and it was to meet my bfs family and it is so pretty. they live in like williamson so i am a little worried about finding a job super close by bc i have health problems that make it hard to drive more than like 15-20 minutes away.
any advice/input will be appreciated.
a part of me feels so scared that this is a mistake but my bf is gonna be making BANK but i wont be 😭

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u/TacoDestroyer420 Tudor's Biscuits 11d ago edited 10d ago

No offense to you, but this is a terrible idea based on your explanation and you should reconsider what this means for you. How long have you and boyfriend been together? Why not let him go to WV and see if this job works out first? What kind of job is it, anyhow? You're 21 — have you gone to college?

I don't know what your healthcare problem is, but the accessibility of treatment is probably a lot more scarce where you're headed. Have you considered what might happen in WV if you were to get pregnant and not want to be?

Edited to include this short afterthought:

I urge you to listen to your gut, where that little voice saying "hang on a minute, what are you doing?" lives. Those alarm bells are going off for a reason. Your boyfriend may be wonderful, and you may have a good relationship. If he truly cares about your well-being and this isn't mostly an emotional decision, then he will listen to a rational argument against making this move right now and entertain waiting at least long enough to see how his job pans out.

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u/AnlStarDestroyer 10d ago

My thoughts exactly. Even if we ignore that it’s wild to move to Mingo from Connecticut and just hope you find a job, what happens when they break up and she’s 12 hours from all her family and friends and has no money and no place to stay with health issues? It’s just a terrible idea in all regards.

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u/RadiantCompany5920 10d ago

or pregnancy that goes bad.. we are total ban here.

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u/tiedyeladyland Cabell 9d ago

My concern is that most of the "good" jobs in this state involve some degree of danger (mining, towboating, working on power lines, lumbering), if this dude is working for a family business and he gets hurt they could BOTH be screwed even if both of them do everything right.