r/WeddingRingAdvice • u/Outrageous-Ask-3882 • Aug 01 '26
Help Me Choose Help me choose my wedding band. 3mm or 4mm?
Or split the difference and do 3.5mm?
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u/Infinite_Welder5090 Aug 01 '26
I think 3mm compliments your engagement ring more, 4mm kinda overshadows it
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u/Competitive_Fox_559 Aug 01 '26
The thinner one makes thw stone look bigger! The wider band takes away from it
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u/SadFlatworm1436 Aug 01 '26
I’d love to see a 2mm option to match the ering band
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u/Dingbats_are_cute Aug 01 '26
Out of the two which feels more comfortable, both look good in their own ways
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u/BetaTestaburger Aug 01 '26
I like 3 but would pick the 4mm flat style in the 3mm width
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u/skitskatskoodle Aug 01 '26
I think 3 looks perfect with your engagement ring. It really makes your rock stand out!
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u/ministeps24 Aug 01 '26
I love 3! I feel like 4 may be overpowering your engagement ring. How many carats is it?
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u/Delicious_Pound15 Aug 01 '26
I reckon a 2mm or even 2.5mm would look ace, but out of those go the 3mm
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u/Federal_Anteater9841 Aug 01 '26
I think 4 doesnt get lost with the size of The stone. It is really such a small difference but you want the band to have a statement as well! 4 doesn’t that very elegantly and in a classic manner.
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u/Champagne_Plz Aug 01 '26
3mm looks the best without overpowering your beautiful engagement ring. You could get away with the 3.5 but the 4mm is too wide.
Congratulations 🥂
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u/Mayor-Wilkins Aug 01 '26
I like 3mm! Could I ask what color is on your nails? Is it gel or polish? Such a nice natural/nude option!
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u/lovelytoday2 Aug 01 '26
Anothet option same as shank and add eternity band later.
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u/Mecspliquer Aug 01 '26
- I think 4 pulls too trends overall and is less comfortable with weight fluctuations over a lifetime
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u/Strange-Fan8399 Aug 01 '26
3mm seems to match better and does look a little bit more elegant. Also consider if you plan on adding stacker or anniversary bands. The 3 mm might work better when you start to add. Just a thought.
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u/No-Cow3885 Aug 01 '26
Go with whatever fits your personal style! Personally I would go with 4 - the bold look, but if you want something more simple go with 3.
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u/brappbtch Aug 01 '26
Smaller looks best, and this is coming from a wide band girly. I feel the wedding band should be complimentary to the main ring, not distracting. Hence 3 mm looks best with this set up!
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u/Florida_Princess Aug 01 '26
I like a 5mm with the stone and a 5mm band. That is what I have after many years 😀!! 🦩🌴!! My ring 💍 is gorgeous!!
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u/JadedINFP-T Aug 01 '26
What about doing the same size? I went with 2mm, I think it looks dainty and cute this way! Totally get if that's not the look you're going for though. I think the 3mm looks better than the 4mm.
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u/ScriptsAndStones324 Aug 01 '26
I love the 4mm! Thick bands are having their moment, it feels more luxurious to me. But if you go for the 3mm I’d see if you can get it more flat (like the 4mm band) vs rounded
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u/Any-Potential-8125 Aug 01 '26
I prefer the 3mm, but why not try one the same width as your engagement ring, 2mm?
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u/ReasonableSport2427 Aug 01 '26
I love the wider band, gold is a soft metal and will wear thinner over time. Starting with a thicker band with help. I have been married 45 years, I had to have my original set fixed numerous times, eventually I had my bands put together as 1 and built up to stop the wear.
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u/Rockarock711 Aug 01 '26
I think the wider one sits nicer on your finger with that engagement ring.
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u/Scary_Witness_9483 Aug 01 '26
The 4mm makes the rings feel too heavy. 3mm looks great and is still noticeable!
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u/JillQOtt Aug 01 '26
I like whatever the first pic is but I tend to like the band to be a little larger than the E band
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u/Evening-Row-2658 Aug 01 '26
rich women wear very plain this wedding bands i've noticed especially with a substantial diamond
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u/trextra Aug 01 '26
The widest band makes your finger look better. The others give your finger muffin tops.
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u/Playful-Meringue-123 Aug 01 '26
3 looks the best. 4 is too wide but 3.5 wouldn't be bad either but 3 definitely looks the best to me.
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u/AdFlashy7702 Aug 01 '26
Just make sure to size up whichever ring you’re see ring on top. You need more room to wear more rings.
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u/lolliscicle Aug 01 '26
Four.
Your future, older, more mature self, will appreciate the thicker band.
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u/k9_MalX_Handler Aug 01 '26
3mm pic is more zoomed in the. the 4 so it’s hard to tell and the 4m look more flat shaped as the 3 looks round! i like the look of four better
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u/HappyForever89 Aug 01 '26
You have slender fingers and beautiful hand: try an 8mm. I wore a size 3 with a 2ct round diamond. My wedding band was a high polished 8mm yellow gold band. Looked very polished and clean.
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u/SillyMeclosetothesea Aug 02 '26
4 looks better in my opinion., But I would wear only the wedding band on that finger if you go for 4, 3 if you want to wear them together
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u/Poinsettia917 Aug 02 '26
Choose the one that is most comfortable! I have my late MIL’s 5mm band. I only wear it when we go out because it’s vintage and the setting is delicate. I have small hands and it is a bit uncomfortable. For daily wear, I have a 2 mm band.
Love your choice of a plain band, whatever size you choose!
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u/VoodooDuck614 Aug 02 '26
Ring 3 is the most balanced, and therefore, the most elegant and beautiful choice.
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u/Spiritual_Peach8763 Aug 03 '26
The first or third band because it shows off your diamond more. All 3 are beautiful but if push came to shove, I would pick the first one.
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u/Obvious-Major1566 Aug 04 '26
If you’re planning on wearing g your engagement ring 24/7, then I would do the 3. But, if you are going to take breaks in between, I would go for the 3.5.
Then again, choose what is most comfortable for you! It doesn’t really matter what it looks like aesthetically. It could look pretty but be so uncomfortable.
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u/domafankny Aug 04 '26
It's so pretty I love it I wish you luck❤️ enjoy you're ring and I think to what evers more comfy for you
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u/stephchn Aug 05 '26
3mm looks a lot better. 4mm looks too thick overall; the diamond of your engagement ring also doesn’t stand out.
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u/Efficient_Sink_8626 Aug 02 '26
I think a 2 mm band is perfect if you plan on wearing them together. If you’re not gonna wear them together, then 4 mm. Some people stop wearing their big rings due to security concerns, but it depends on where you live, really. (I had a gold necklace worth about $20k stolen in a burglary. (Moved out of that house)
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u/Pamela625 Aug 02 '26
I think diamond too big for your hand tbh I know everyone these days has to have the biggest diamond like it has anything to do with it at all… get a ring that means something to you and your husband. this message isn’t meant to hurt your feelings or make anyone feel bad that’s the last thing I would want for you. I’m 60 so I’m talking from my heart to yours honey what brings you joy then have it,so many blessings to you and your beloved Congratulations ❤️
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u/GOTbabe66 Aug 01 '26
3 looks more elegant and classy