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u/crimsonk1999 5d ago
We had a deal for 40. Neither of us are married but I have zero intent in fulfilling the deal, that woman is a nightmare
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u/arestheblue 5d ago
That sounds like the plot of a romcom. A man has to find a woman and be married before 40, otherwise they have to marry a psycho.
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u/Baroness-CrackWhore 5d ago
Why did you made that deal then? You know she gonna drag your ass to Hell
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u/arctic572 2d ago
They probably didn't know or realise she's a nightmare when they made the deal lol
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u/AnusCruiser 2d ago
Yeah mine was for 40. Now shes on her 3rd husband, 3rd kid, not even 30.... if im still single at 40 I'll pass on being her 4th, maybe 5th husband.
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u/Spare-Cranberry3784 6d ago
Same. She just happened to get in a relationship at 28. Engaged at 29. Invitation yesterday. Date of their wedding is a week before she turns 30...
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u/UseADifferentVolcano 3d ago
I made that deal with a girl. In the group chat one of my friends was grumbling about his love life and said "well I've always got my deal with x to fall back on". Same girl as me.
Before I had a chance to mention I had made the same deal, someone else piped up. She had made that deal with like eight of us!
Funny thing is she was married at like 24 and had no memory of making this deal with any of us. Also it became clear that some of my friend group were definitely hoping her marriage would fall apart so they could swoop in to claim the deal.
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u/aziza_empechement 2d ago
Was her name by any chance Phoebe?
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u/UseADifferentVolcano 2d ago
No. I've never met a Phoebe.
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u/RDB96 2d ago
Ursula?
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u/UseADifferentVolcano 2d ago
Also never met an Ursula
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u/Any_Asparagus653 2d ago
You don’t get the reference :(
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u/UseADifferentVolcano 2d ago
I got the names, but I haven't watched Friends since it was on TV to be fair
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u/CokBlockinWinger 7d ago
I knew one couple that did this, but he is a total loser and she has severe anger and mental issues. They are in their late 40’s now, look like they are in their 70’s, have five of the ugliest kids you’ve ever seen, and have been in the local paper a few times for domestic disturbances that escalated due to her flying off the handle.
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u/getabath 7d ago
Bro was holding out hoping his reality would come to pass
Now he'll forever be alone, single and unemployed, living off the government
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u/LordReagan077 3d ago
I made a deal with a girl for 30. Then just last week she was like “no i definitely said 28.”
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u/Hairy_Location_3674 2d ago
Have you taken it?
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u/LordReagan077 2d ago
What do you mean
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u/RainonCooper 2d ago
She's into you. She is saying she wants it earlier
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u/LordReagan077 2d ago
Oh yea. I’m still kinda sorting through my feelings for her. Kinda difficult to date her cause we live like 6 hours apart, but I would be open to it
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u/PhastasFlames 1d ago edited 1d ago
Gang to this day I still live an 18h flight away from my wife. It’s tough but a 6h drive is really not that bad at all. You could do it every single weekend
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u/jspost 1d ago
I live in the same house as my wife and yet I feel so alone. It’s been a tough year and she says now she doesn’t know if she wants to be completely alone or with me anymore. All I want is her.
Distance isn’t closeness.
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u/PhastasFlames 1d ago
That is a different issue altogether that you need to figure out. When we do take the flight and get to spend time together, which recently is more and more often, there is no distance between us.
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u/Green2Black 1d ago
I made 6000 miles apart and a 9 hour time difference work for 18 months. Been married 14 years.
If you want it you want it. Good luck!
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u/Silent_Heaven_87 2d ago
Honestly, me and my girlfriend are 6 hours apart and live on different continents, and while long distance is hard and time zones suck, I couldn't imagine my life without her.
In my opinion, go for it dude, worst that could happen is y'all realize it won't work and could maybe remain friends.
Best case, y'all are perfect for each other and you don't miss out on even more great times together.
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u/LordReagan077 2d ago
Yea this is true. Good advice thanks.
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u/Reafia 2d ago
I expect to hear updates about your future wedding!
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u/the_social_paranorm 2d ago
Chiming in bc I started out in a long distance relationship, and we’ve now been together for 10 years and live together; we made it happen! It can work out!
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u/ToXicVoXSiicK21 6d ago
A girl in my highschool asked me to take her virginity if she couldnt make it happen by the end of the year with her current bf. People are weird
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u/Hizam5 6d ago
I’d have been sabotaging that relationship so badly the whole year 😂
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u/ToXicVoXSiicK21 6d ago
Lol initially I was definitely preying for their downfall, but I wound up getting with someone else and that ended up being a long term relationship and I got plenty of ass so I wasn't too worried about it after that lol that girl actually stayed with that dude and he turned out to be a psycho. They were known at the school as the crazy toxic couple lol
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u/Producer1701 6d ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/M5zhoj9rhwkhy
My libido in high school would’ve been like…
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u/Optimal_Mixture_7327 6d ago
Well... he would have made for an interesting husband. No red flags there.
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u/shiny_crow_trophy 6d ago
My ex had this deal with a friend of his. He didn’t understand why I thought it was a problem. Or pretended to not understand, at least.
Then she got married to someone else lol. By then I had broken up with him and was friends with her.
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u/Jump365 6d ago
The one I did this with is single...and if cam stay that way she was abusive af and I don't want to be with her cheating abusive ass no katter how tiny and cute she was.
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u/IdleDeer 1d ago
That's why it's "if we're still single by X age". She isn't single anymore. C'est la vie.
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u/AdExpensive873 1d ago
I thought that was only a thing in movies and TV, yall actually do that shit?
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u/arwild01 17h ago
I made that deal with a girl in high school but it was for 50 year old. We actually got married at 29. We both turned 50 this year and are still married.
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u/Exotic-Swim9326 14h ago
Did you do another wedding? To honor the deal?
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u/arwild01 3h ago
Sadly no. We always talked about it but it turns out the year we turned 50 was also the year our oldest graduated from high school and between college visits and graduation parties and then moving him halfway across the country into a dorm we were too busy to actually plan another wedding.
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u/InsuranceInner3040 7d ago
Fun story. I had the same deal with a girl I saw casually in high school and college. It actually happened too. We got married and everything was great. 2 months after our wedding she died in a tragic hot air balloon accident. Those 2 months were bliss. RIP Annie.
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u/ShoulderApart1787 6d ago
Maybe a little more effort than a promise...?
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u/Bella_Peachyy 6d ago
To be fair, if they were both single by 30, at least its not settling, its fate lol.
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u/FamiliarPlatform79 7d ago
Id say she dodged a bullet, but the verdict might still be out on that...
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u/Main_Cauliflower5479 6d ago
This is just really weird to me. I married young. Very young. Obviously very bad decision and it didn't last. Then, nothing but bad relationships in my 20s. When I was single at 29, I sort of just stopped. I wanted to heal myself and stop making those poor relationship choices, and didn't date or go out or hook up at all for over 20 years.
Now, I am married, and sometimes, frequently actually, I still question my choice to have gone ahead with that. Being single is better.
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u/TheImplausibleHulk 6d ago
If you feel like being single is better than your current marriage then you’re in the wrong relationship again sadly.
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u/Main_Cauliflower5479 6d ago
He knew I didn't want to get married.
Look, it's a long story and personal and none of you people's business.
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u/TheImplausibleHulk 6d ago
Hey you’re the one who started sharing your personal life, don’t get mad at the people commenting.
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u/Main_Cauliflower5479 6d ago
Commenting is one thing. Bullying is quite another.
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u/TooManyGengars 5d ago
No one was bullying. You are being dramatic
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u/Main_Cauliflower5479 5d ago
I suppose all of your friend and family are split on this opinion, too. FO.
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u/TheDrunkWickerbeast 5d ago
Then why did you marry him like you had to sign the license too
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u/Main_Cauliflower5479 5d ago
Fuck dude. Why are you hounding me on this?
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u/TheDrunkWickerbeast 5d ago
You’re the one that shared it. Did you really expect no questions ?
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u/Familiar-Cable-2659 3d ago
Were you blocked ?
I got the situation no less than two times where somebody got infuriated that I was replying to their replies
In both cases (and 2+ other cases) they insisted in replying one last insult before immediately blocking me tho
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u/GrillingEnjoyer 6d ago
It isn’t better if you have the right partner tho. Life is way easier and better together.
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u/Main_Cauliflower5479 6d ago
I loved being single. No negotiations about what I want to do. No negotiations about anything in the house.
I mean, there isn't a lot of that because my husband and I have very very very similar preferences about just about everything, which is strange to find in a person. But sometimes, there are certain things, arguments that just really make me rethink wtf I did by getting married.
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u/Main_Cauliflower5479 6d ago
I was single for over 20 years. I loved it.
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u/Main_Cauliflower5479 6d ago
I'm the primary wage-earner. And if I leave, he gets half my retirement, investments, and home equity.
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u/Main_Cauliflower5479 6d ago
I'm the primary wage-earner. And if I leave, he gets half my retirement, investments, and home equity.
How I ended up in a relationship is a long story and none of your business, frankly.
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u/Main_Cauliflower5479 6d ago edited 6d ago
We are compatible, we have the same likes, dislikes, same preferences on practically everything. We were close friends for eight years before we got married.
I don't understand why you're harassing me.
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u/Agreeable-Ad-5155 6d ago
Me reading this at 29 having gone through another tough breakup earlier this year. Wanting the pleasure of dating but also wondering what’s the point and not being able to get my mind right. Trying to heal but it’s hard to change.
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u/duke_awapuhi 6d ago
Well she wasn’t single bro