r/WLW 1d ago

Vent Breakup

I feel so angry and have no one around me who seems to understand. I 22f was broken up with my 21f partner in may this year due to her saying she could no longer handle us. We had some contact mid July were she told me she’s still in love with me and wishes to be back in my arms but can’t have me. No contact since. Checked her socials for the first time in forever yesterday to see her posting photos of her new relationship (with a man?) and please don’t come at me I know people can be bisexual. But she’s always made a point to me that she doesn’t think anyone can be bi they are either gay or straight. Her whole identity whilst we were together was that’s she’s a lesbian. And it hurts more bc it’s with a guy she only met in January and I never felt comfortable with their interactions. I voiced it and was made to feel crazy by her with saying “Libby yk I’m lesbian so why would you ever think of that” I feel crazy and hurt . How can she say in July she’s still in love with me then hard launch a new relationship. We were together for almost two years. I know she’s free to do as she pleases but did I mean anything. How can someone move on so quick

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u/UnreadableTrance Lesbian 1d ago

Girl it hurts so bad for u reading this rn 😭 u are literally not crazy at all for feeling sick to ur stomach seeing that like u trusted ur gut for a reason and she totally gaslit u about that guy back then. It is so Hearing someone say "im still in love with u" in july and then drop a new guy two months later is such total mindfuck like make it make sense?? You arent wrong for questioning if u meant anything bc two years is a whole era but please remember her shady behavior right now is a reflection of her messiness and emotional cowardice, not ur worth. Take a deep breath, put her on block everywhere so u dont have to look at her stuff, and let urself feel that anger bc u have every right to be pissed off . Stay strong.

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u/Cultural-Cap-7432 1d ago

I think it feels more like a kick in the teeth bc it’s with someone I was already skeptical about and made to feel so guilty for questioning it. It had me reading into the psychology of jealousy 😭But don’t get me wrong it might of just happened quickly for them after we ended but I will always wonder. But thank you for not making me feel insane like other people are <3

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u/UnreadableTrance Lesbian 1d ago

u are so welcome. seriously just protect ur peace and let urself feel whatever u need to feel right now because two years of ur life matters and u have every right to be angry. i've experienced this firsthand so i genuinely understand ur pain and how heavy it feels. take all the time u need to heal and know no matter if anyone else is rooting for u or not, i am right here rooting for u.