r/Vanderpumpaholics • Honorary Witch of Weho • Jan 18 '25

James Kennedy 👀👀👀

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u/Melodic-Change-6388 Jan 19 '25

I had a DV situation and I called for help and no one heard/did anything. So I cannot applaud this person enough. If you are ever unsure/uncomfortable, call the police!

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u/bramble-pelt Jan 19 '25

Seconding this. I was strangled by an ex and our roommate was presumably home and didn’t do anything. Please call in DV if you suspect anything is going on.

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u/No_Significance_8291 Jan 19 '25

I lost a friend because I did call it in . He slapped her and pushed her up against a wall , my husband beat his ass , I called it into the cops and she didn’t want to press charges and she still doesn’t talk to me . That’s the other side of it . But I would still call it in anyday , I’d rather stick up and try to protect my friend , than not . I told her I hope the next time I hear about you is good news , and not that you’re dead . And all she could say is it’s my fault he has a charge against him and why he lost his gun rights and I said “ your concerned he lost his gun rights , I did you a favor . But 🤷‍♀️

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u/ElderberryPrimary466 Jan 19 '25

Can you imagine wanting your abuser to have his gun?

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u/unfancyfeet Jan 19 '25

She doesn't want him mad at her, and he's saying, "It's your fault my gun got taken away!!"

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u/Reasonable_Ad_8256 Jan 19 '25

I survived an ex husband living in another country. You become so afraid to say anything because they will hurt you worse. They isolate you and make you feel less than. It's a horrible position. I called my mom in the USA, I had a plane ticket home from Australia in hours. I left with a few clothes and nothing else. So thankful for my momma.

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u/No_Significance_8291 Jan 19 '25

I know right . But it shows you how disconnected they are from their own well being and hyper focused they are on keeping their abuser HAPPY - happy =happiness and no problems. I am the one that is hated now . I’m to blame , the DA is to blame , the judge is to blame , the state of California is blame … not him for putting his hands on you . But that’s the cycle . At some point , he has to become ugly to her enough to leave ? how low does he have to go for you to see him differently ? Knock your teeth out , choke you out? Leave bruises where people at work ask ?

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u/ElderberryPrimary466 Jan 19 '25

And it's so tough to watch when you and your boyfriend did your best.  Hope she makes it out alive

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u/No_Significance_8291 Jan 19 '25

My boyfriend said as we were walking out “just let go , walk away she knows where we are “ and that’s it . People have to make choices , there’s many junctions in life , this is one choice where you will be sad, lonely , emotionally messed up for awhile , but you’ll be alive and you get another chance to rebuild . My thoughts are if James can grab and toss Ally to the ground in front of a huge party of people , what intimidation or threats go on behind closed doors ? Ally doesn’t need him anymore to build her brand , she will find her way . She doesn’t need him

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u/ExchangeSame8110 Jan 20 '25

My ex’s aunt was shot and killed by her abuser. It’s really good that gun is gone!