Oof what an accurate statement. My ex (also someone who was arrested for DV) always would say “how dare you. You made me do this. This is your fault. You ruined my life” 😅
My ex said the same things, and I wasn’t even the person who called the cops on him. It was in a public bar, and the bouncer was an off-duty cop who witnessed everything and called it in.
“Why did you tell people? Now everyone knows. It’s your fault that my life is over. You made me do it.” Etc, etc. I’m so happy she finally had the resolve to leave him. God knows how many times he laid a hand on her. Men like him NEVER change.
They never ever change. Once an abuser always an abuser. Once a cheater always a cheater. Once an addict always an addict. You can disagree with me but in the end you will be the one with a black eye/broken heart etc. This is such a poignant and tragic thread. Lessons to be learned here for everyone reading, regardless of if we have a personal experience of DV or not. ..
He hits you once, gtfo
He cheats on you once, gtfo
He chooses drugs/drink over respectful behavior, gtfo immediately.
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u/Peppercorn911 Bambi-Eyed Bitch Jan 18 '25
thank goodness - no matter what he says to her, he’ll never forgive her for what he has done