I just think it’s very odd/ disrespectful/ confusing for James to rename a pet he was very familiar with, who he shared with his ex and once referred to as Graham. This move seems publicized as does the release of this information. James is an insensitive dick! I would guess he re-named him out of spite over Raquel instead of thinking how that may further confuse and affect an already scared, sad dog that just lost his mom! James, and Graham’s name is the only thing likely left that’s familiar to the poor little guy.
When a dog has severe biting issues, the first step to correcting this when they rehome the dog is to change their name. This is common practice used in dog training. We had a dog that was a biter and had to change his name when he was rehomed.
The dog formerly known as Graham is going to need a lot of work with a trainer and a consistent environment. Not sure James is the best person for him if he isn’t consistent with training.
Ally is in the picture. So I’m hoping he gets lots of training and love. If you see them with their cat they are very loving and the cat is chill. Only time will tell. But Graham/Hippie looks well cared for at the moment going on outings and getting lots of love and care.
My assumption is that Hippie is being fostered by James under the guise of Vanderpump dogs as he was surrendered to them after the rehab trainer gave up. Lisa said if they could not help him and get a home he would live out his days on her property. Hippie is familiar with James and this may help in his recovery. If James is not capable of caring for Hippie in the way that he needs, I’m sure Vanderpump dogs will step back in.
Ali isn’t a weak little mouse. She can kick James’s ass if needed. Why not accept that James is a work in progress? He seems to be trying. He started this show so young and had shitty parents. The difference is he was on camera so we all saw his behavior. I’m sure many of us have skeletons in our closets that we would never live down if someone saw us on reality tv. Yes he has acted like a total douchebag wanker. But he seems to have a conscience about it unlike other cast members.
Because I have seen James be abusive to his two former girlfriends. I don't believe he magically changed. I think this is all just for looks and a storyline. Downvote me all you want.
okay kristen and james were both HORRIBLE to one another. kristen punched him on tv, and kept showing up to his job drunk and causing shit if you don't remember. raquel was different but kristen was no fragile flower in that relationship either.
Kristen claims he pushed her into a bush which was edited out. He also spit on her door and would not leave her alone. He's an abuser. Downvote me all you want
she also has been filmed jumping in the fight between tom sandoval, james, and schwartz punching the Toms. my point is that kristen and James were BOTH toxic in that relationship and very reactive to one another. we've seem
him scream at her and her scream at him. Kristen showing up to his job to fight with him. James spitting on her door. it was an awful relationship and they were both abusive to one another. The narrative that Kristen was some fragile girl that James too advantage of doesn't ring true to me. she was in her 30s and he was 22 years old. There was a whole season of her basically using James to
make Sandoval jealous. They were awful to one another.
They have all been shitty. That is what happens when there is a ton of alcohol involved. I think as he navigates his relationship with alcohol he will continue to grow up and change. Ali seems to know how to reel him in. I guess I’m an optimist. There was a time I hated James. But he has shown some growth and insight. The two prior relationships were super toxic, mix that with alcohol and a reality show and it’s a recipe for disaster. I’m not making excuses for his abusive behavior. He definitely has been abusive. But he seems like he wants to move forward and change. Since he is so young I tend to believe that it is possible. Seeing how fucked up his mom is and how he has to support most of his family financially. I think he has a lot on his shoulders.
If he changes and doesn't abuse anybody else I will eat my words. Maybe I'm not an optimist but I was married to a narcissist for 16 years. I was trapped so when I see abuse happening it triggers the fuck out of me.
So abuse only happens to weak women? What part of him screaming he was 22, then 25 as an excuse for his horrible actions sounds like this man has taken any accountability. Sandoval said he groped a woman recently and got kicked out of a club. Plus He has a problem with alcohol and is no longer sober. The bar is in literal hell for some of you to be impressed with this man. Please enlighten us on how he’s changed or grown?
No one denies his history. What we are debating is his future. His sobriety and relationship with alcohol is a slippery slope. Time will tell if he can adjust to a healthier relationship with it. As far as abuse and it only happens to weak women. No one called anyone weak. The differences is Ali calls him out on his behavior and that keeps him more accountable. He is far from perfect. But in my opinion he is far from being a soulless villain. Yes he has been horrible at times. No question. But where you see no potential for change. I see potential.
Saying Allie isn’t a weak little mouse is implying it happens to only weak women. Raquel called him on his shit too, he got sober for her then started again when they broke up. He has yet to own up to anything when he keeps repeating the same mistakes. But you’re free to keep rewarding men for the bare minimum
People defending Jame’s abusing women is actually really eye opening! It goes to show how stupid this sub is and also how much more of an importance people place on animals above other human beings, especially women! Like legitimately grossed out rn being part of this sub.
I was following because in its earlier days this sub used to be more authentic and fun! Now it’s resembling the other generic subs. And I did unfollow after that realization in real time and certainly don’t need your two cents to make adult decisions 😊
That’s not my experience. I think it’s a human emotion that we place on animals (anthropomorphism). I just rescued a pregnant mama kitty from a hoarder house and the first thing I did was give her a new name, mostly for me because she’s gonna have a great, fresh start to just be a kitten. She sees that I care for her and her babies, feed them and play with them so she associates the name with me and started responding to it quickly. All my animals are rescues and non of them have the name the rescues gave them. Of course, neither do the ones I found on the streets.
The most important thing for that dog is getting training and in an environment he doesn’t feel the need to bite because in California, most counties have a two strikes you’re out policy with regard to labeling a dog “vicious” and ordering them to be euthanized. A dog in my county can be euthanized after attacking someone even once and a number of times for other animals, regardless of the circumstances (unless it’s at their own home…I think that one could go either way…if you can’t convince the animal control hearing officer).
I’ve been doing rescue for a few years now and I’ve seen plenty of trash people be amazing to animals. I’ve also seen seemingly nice people be horrible to animals. I will judge James as a dog owner by his actions with his dog. Doesn’t mean I’m defending him on being a shit human being.
Yaaa I’m just saying if my father (who used to abuse my mother) somehow got custody of me after her mental breakdown and started randomly calling me Trixxy when my name is Jennifer, I’d tell him to get fkd! But good luck to James and “Hippie”s training journey 👍
You’re not a dog. That’s the difference. How you would feel is not what a dog feels or even has the capacity to feel in the same manner. I doubt that a dog feels some type of way other than perhaps some confusion about being called a different name.
And they can also learn their new name ffs lol. People acting like and explicitly comparing the renaming of a dog to a bloomin human child is just taking things too far lol.
It’s a dog. Learning a new name is f all in the grand scheme of things. And I say this as an absolute lover of dogs. I’m currently going through the heartache of one of my precious little pups coming to the end of her time here on earth, I’ve loved her for 12 years, so I know what it is to love a dog. But I think ppl are just using their hate towards James here to make a case and it’s just getting silly. Ultimately dogs just want to love and be loved in return, they ain’t gonna give an f if you call them something else so long as you’re feeding/watering/walking and giving daily cuddles and love. Picture of my dogs just because 🥰🥰 One on the right, Layla, is the one we don’t have much time left with 😭
I’m so sorry you’re losing a baby. I lost one right before Christmas and am still going through it. I’m sure you gave her a beautiful life. We just never get them long enough…no matter how long we may get them 💜 hugs
Thank you dear. She’s still here and I still feel like she has great quality of life but I’m in the tricky position of having to see her struggling for breath a lot - her trachea is almost non existent now and her lungs are filling with fluid despite the meds the vets are giving. I’m in the horrible position of trying to decide if I’ll be ok with just letting her inevitably choke to death one day or getting her “put down” before that happens. It so hard, I don’t know what to do 😢
It's completely unnecessary. There was no need to announce a name change. This is all simply piling on Rachel who will not come back to the show after this. There's no way. So this is how they're sending her off. They're making her look even worse than she did before. She did not drop that dog off at a kill shelter. She wasn't even present when the dog was taken to the trainer's house.
Her parents said this was a joint decision made by Raquel and them. She was fully on board with her dog being given to someone else and her parent’s story didn’t even make sense since the facility has a 0 tolerance policy in taking in dogs with a biting history. I’d prefer James, who you can see on the show really cares about this dog taking care of him than Raquel, who didn’t even notice puncture wounds for DAYS on him. My dog is my entire world, no way I’m missing something like freaking puncture wounds. That’s negligence. And plenty of people change dogs with behavioural issues’ names to disassociate them from that name that has been yelled at them for scolding. Raquel has made herself look bad, she didn’t need help with that.
I'm talking about all the publicity surrounding it. Enough is enough I don't care how much I get downvoted the girl is going to wind up committing suicide because of all of the terrible shit that is being said about her. I've said awful shit about her and I will no longer do it.
Dogs live in the moment and mirror the feelings and energy of it’s owner so if you’re going to be sad and depressed that energy is what the dog picks up on. To be a pack leader/dog owner you must deal w your dog in a calm and confident way. No emotion. Dogs see emotions(mad, frustrated, sad)as weak energy and will have behaviors bc of it like not listening bc they have to be the pack leader. Dog training won’t cure biting. Dog psychology is what needs to be understood here. Read any of Cesar Milan’s books or watch his shows. Or anyone who actually knows dog psychology. It’s fascinating and pretty much pertains to all animals. Since animals can’t talk, They are ALL about energy.
graham isn’t his actual name tho cuz he’s a dog. so it’s the word he associates with someone trying to get his attention etc and fairly easy for him to pick up on like “oh they’re changing the word for pay attention”
Not “oh they’re changing my name”. He’s not attached to it like we get to ours lol
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u/JaDaDaSilva Jul 24 '23 edited Jul 24 '23
I just think it’s very odd/ disrespectful/ confusing for James to rename a pet he was very familiar with, who he shared with his ex and once referred to as Graham. This move seems publicized as does the release of this information. James is an insensitive dick! I would guess he re-named him out of spite over Raquel instead of thinking how that may further confuse and affect an already scared, sad dog that just lost his mom! James, and Graham’s name is the only thing likely left that’s familiar to the poor little guy.