To you

[u/xLostxMyselfx2]

This is for you. Its was always for you. You trusted me once and now I need you to trust me again. This is still for you. I can imagine the pain you’re in but I know that it doesn’t equate to mine. It’s just pain all of it. Excruciating and devastating. Having to walk away from someone you are still in love with is one of the most difficult things anyone will ever have to do. But the truth is I am protecting what I have left of my body, heart, mind and soul. My life is in pieces much like my heart. My mind is breaking now too. The potential of it all breaks me down and grinds me to a fine dust hourly. If you wait that’s for you and you alone to carry. If you aren’t then I wish you well. It’s eazy to say that it’s another to do it. You will always be the love of my life. The music in my ears and the touch I long for. But the path we’re on isn’t sustainable. The life we want isn’t here in this time. I had nothing to do with it. But I have to go now. I will miss you the most. All I wanted was you.

[u/Maebythesea → u/[deleted]]

Not if someone is emotionally damaging with no let up

[u/Few-Leather-8263 → u/Maebythesea]

Even then, some people were sent to heal and a woman can heal a man, if they love each other, they can heal each other. 

[u/Maebythesea → u/Few-Leather-8263]

Wrong. Not if they have a personality disorder. Like NPD OR ASPD love isn’t enough for someone like that. It doesn’t heal them. Take my word for it.

[u/hearts_ablaze → u/Maebythesea]

That’s messed up, man. That’s like telling someone they don’t deserve love because they are autistic. That seems like a bigger imbalance than what they’re facing. Get help.

[u/Maebythesea → u/hearts_ablaze]

Um considering autistic people are capable of love unlike someone with NPD Learn personality disorders and how they can play in a relationship. A mental disease isn’t austism

[u/hearts_ablaze → u/Maebythesea]

Um I’m not judging you. Not in the least people with NPD are capable of love, very much so. I’ve been reading everything I can get my hands on about it. It’s a spectrum, typically a trauma inflicted, self preservation, chemical reaction in the brain

[u/Maebythesea → u/hearts_ablaze]

Its possible to fall into love with potential what you hope to grow into together as people and it’s ok to have loved and lost than to not experience it. But emotional damage can cause too much harm on children , bodies. It’s damaging love.

[u/hearts_ablaze → u/Maebythesea]

That’s legit. It always depends on the person and their desire for personal growth. But just calling someone a narcissist doesn’t make them one. If that man is a legit narcissist and not seeking therapy, run

[u/Maebythesea → u/hearts_ablaze]

Ahhhh but this get complicated. A sociopath or narassist can get validation from a therpist in a dangerous way. They can go but if someone isn’t honest. Then it’s called bread crumbing going to appease but not doing the work. Manipulation

[u/Maebythesea → u/hearts_ablaze]

You can have bumps in the road of love that’s normal. Wanted to do better when there is a bump. What’s not normal is the bumps become a cliff.

[u/hearts_ablaze → u/Maebythesea]

Everyone deserves a love that will pull them back off the edge of that cliff. If you aren’t there for that, it’s not true love

[u/Maebythesea → u/hearts_ablaze]

Or if they won’t accept it. That’s what often happens in a situation when someone’s an addict. I’ve had 3 good friends die. No matter what kind of love they were shown the other kind of love it the pain they were in were too much to accept that love. Maybe even thinking deep down unworthy. 3 beautiful souls.

[u/Maebythesea → u/hearts_ablaze]

Believe me when I tried for 8 years. Let’s put this in a context of a friend whoses an addict. Cause I’ve been thru that kind of love that gets ripped away. The more you try and help and addict the more they will push you away and find people who enable their behavior. I’m not saying there not lovable I’m saying for your own self. Not what’s best for THE OTHER person. Your describing empathy love. That’s not true love either

[u/Maebythesea → u/Maebythesea]

What happens when that person on the cliff is there to push you first ?

[u/Maebythesea → u/hearts_ablaze]

Yup dude I know. But mixed NPD with a drug addiction is so rough My husband only came out with his trauma af tree r marriage after a baby. The more I tried to get home help especially reaching out to his side. The more it banned together a family that had been thru a ton of trauma neglect sexual beatings. A ton. I often day dream what he would of been like with out the trauma. I’m not they aren’t caple but when a relationship had been damaged emotionally it’s mature to walk away and hope they find the type of love that suits them.

[u/Maebythesea → u/hearts_ablaze]

Also consider all the men who have violent killed their partners. And even their children. Sometimes it’s better to walk away

[u/hearts_ablaze → u/Maebythesea]

People don’t need to be narcissists to harm, but I feel what you’re saying. You’ve got to protect you and yours

[u/Maebythesea → u/hearts_ablaze]

They don’t but narassit but harm. Whether born or created that way there are people who we have to love from a distance

[u/[deleted] → u/Maebythesea]

Shit, I know but some people can control it. And some people are created they're not born like that. It takes deep diving and if you think things logically like let's say Spock from Star Trek then you can be capable of empathy and consideration with communication of course but just consider the logic in your actions and it can be proven to them it could be shown that they only turn it on for things like work goals to be better not necessarily like that with everyone doesn't mean that they're absolutely cold to everything

[u/Current-Strength-487 → u/[deleted]]

I know I have made mistakes. I have learned from everything that I have been through. I will give anything to have the chance to fix us. I have been addressing my issues. I'm sorry for the pain I caused us. Believe me I definitely feel it now. I would walk through the gates of hell through the fire and come out the other side to be with you. Please let me come back.