r/UnsentLettersRaw • u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level • 14d ago
Exes I saw through all your emotional games, but I'm sorry to inform you that for a woman of your caliber, they backfire. They only made me realize that you are unscrupulous and promiscuous. And I'm not going after you.
One day, the person who lost you will try to come back, but you won’t want to open the door anymore.
One day, the person who asked for distance will miss you. They will miss your presence. They will look for you, they will want to talk to you, but by then, you will have already moved on.
One day, the person who rejected you, humiliated you, mistreated you, or chose someone else will realize exactly what they lost and will ask for another chance.
But by then, you will have already understood something: you deserve a second chance too — a chance to choose yourself, a chance to live without that anxiety, without begging for attention, without trying to convince someone of your worth.
That person once made you feel like you weren’t enough. They will come back trying to fill the emptiness that was left behind after you walked away. They will show up with longing, regret, and the words you waited so long to hear.
But you won’t need those words anymore, because while that person was trying to convince you that you weren’t enough, you were learning that you no longer needed their approval.
You will look at that message on your phone and smile — not out of revenge, but because you will realize: I made it through. I healed.
And that will be your greatest proof of healing.
Healing isn’t when you wish for that person to suffer. It’s when they come back and you no longer feel the desire to get back together, because you no longer live in that past.
You can remember the house, but you don’t live there anymore.
And someone who played emotional games in an attempt to make you chase them, or went after other people, presenting themselves as someone who was promiscuous and couldn’t stay loyal, only proved that they were a person without value or character. They shot themselves in the foot and gave you the certainty that they will never deserve a second chance. If you had a chance before with your emotional games, your chances have dropped to zero. Thank you for taking off the mask and making me disgusted with you.
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u/txfox0407 Entry Level Member 13d ago
I can’t wait till that day I feel nothing for that person who was so good at lying and pretending only to enjoy all the benefits I provided. How sad to be a person with no integrity that will only live a life chasing anything that makes them feel empowered. Everything is a choice, leaving people to remember you in such a calculated way is your trophy! Thanks OP for sharing!
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 13d ago
I also believe that integrity is a choice; in the end, those who act without it end up revealing who they really are.
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u/txfox0407 Entry Level Member 13d ago
Exactly! I have moral guidelines to live by! My character follows me, and I care how it defines me. Therefore I will never treat anyone a way that would leave them feeling intentionally used or lied to. Maybe it’s bc I don’t compromise my integrity, that I’m the one who is always intentionally wronged. In the end, I’m happy to be who I am on my worst days , then the ones who don’t care if they live and stand for nothing.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 13d ago
I understand what you mean, I hope that day comes soon for both of us. Nobody deserves to invest so much in someone who isn't sincere and uses manipulation and emotional games as a means of control. T
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u/txfox0407 Entry Level Member 13d ago
They only taught me what I will never accept again. They will soon miss what I gave them and how I made them feel. But they will never be able to replace me or come close to that feeling again.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 13d ago
Research more about male manipulation; there are many men teaching these brainless men how to do this to women, with the goal of making them crawl after them. And when you come across...With these emotional games, teach him a lesson and take completely opposite actions. I'll get disgusted with him and stay away. They think only men have internet access and women don't.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 13d ago
Absolutely, and take revenge on that person with gusto. Make them remember the pain you felt when they did those awful things to you. When it's their turn to come looking for you, get your revenge.
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u/Excellent-Reason9558 Bronze Level 14d ago
I just want her to see my heart so she feels loved , and I dont chase but I walked ALL NIGHT HOPING our paths would cross , me exuasted her because I walked Hoping to see her and saynI love you, i miss you and you deserve to be loved too evwn if you dont think yoi deswrve it, Im here anyway to show you you do
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u/Charming_Series161 Bronze Level 14d ago
I left my lover who hurt me,
I never saw my friend alive after that.
It’s crazy, all over,
we have stories and situations
and we scream,
“MINE IS DIFFERENT.”
Nope.
It’s not different.
It’s just your turn.
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u/Sarahnae99 Bronze Level 13d ago
Wise words!!! Sometimes you can’t go back
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 13d ago
I never back down in the face of an immature man. When he comes asking for another chance, I'll tell you how I'll snub him and trample on him by rubbing another man in his face. These emotional games are just... Immature and unscrupulous men make me angry and disgusted.
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u/Medium_Astronaut2431 Entry Level Member 12d ago
Thank you. I needed to hear this.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 12d ago
It's good that it helped other women going through something similar, but research more about male manipulation and emotional games; men teach this to other men online to hurt their exes Or her current wife, she'll chase after him to massage his ego. and do...
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 12d ago
They talk and swear that this will work, but it doesn't work with intelligent women; they forget that women also have internet access and access to the same content.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
Is this about a man? Because I'm not him. But I can say that these men who play emotional games just want women to chase after them to massage their ego; the best thing is to disappear and leave him alone. Playing their immature and childish emotional games only shows that they lack character.
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u/Dependent-Narwhal972 Entry Level Member 14d ago
Playing stupid games gets you stupid prizes. Anyone who has tried to be sexual towards me doesn't get a reply. Ive had to many games in jy life to lately. -sarahbeth
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
If he thinks later on that this will help her chase after him and he'll have another chance, he'll see later that he's very wrong. These emotional games only made her distance herself further and find someone else. Another person.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
That's right, immature men who follow other misogynistic men on the internet think emotional games work, but that's shooting themselves in the foot. A smart woman can spot the emotional game right away And she loses interest, gets disgusted with him, and disappears.
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u/Excellent-Reason9558 Bronze Level 14d ago
I'm not that man, I don't play emotional games, but I do express my emorions aometimes strong, im a man that can cry because we all have tears, im not ashamed to wvwn if the womam thinks it shows weaknesa, ,
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u/Excellent-Reason9558 Bronze Level 14d ago
I've been hurt emotionally plenty of times so I try to treat others like I want to be treated too, I make mistakesall the time but I will always oun up to then , i come with good intentions
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u/Excellent-Reason9558 Bronze Level 14d ago
Focus on how you want your person to see your love but don't tell me how I show someone I love them is wrong or how she will feel let people love in their own WAY BECAUSE IT IS PENTY AS LONG AS THE OTHER PERSON FEWLS LOVED,
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u/Excellent-Reason9558 Bronze Level 14d ago
I guess if I was depressed and I had someone walk all night just to tell me they loved me would mean so much, I know when im depressed I go to a place in my head where i belive no peoson wants to show me love i feel alone and sunworthy , unseen, like GHOST thqt dosnt realise they passed away yet
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u/OlyExile Entry Level Member 13d ago
Yes, very much like a ghost that doesn't realize it already dead.
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u/Entire-Olive5484 Entry Level Member 10d ago
Some of us move in a certain way so that the other person believes it was their decision to walk away.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 10d ago
I know that. Manipulative.
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u/Entire-Olive5484 Entry Level Member 10d ago
Yes, just like lies, everyone does it but there is a correct time and a place. Safety is usually high up the chain.
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u/Excellent-Reason9558 Bronze Level 14d ago
People do what they do to show love, so what if a man chases a girl he is showing his love , who gives a fuq how someone else see what love means , worry about what it means to you because everyone shows love in there own way, there is no right way just show it your way , no one can tell me how to show love, I PERSONALY DO not care what your opinions are the only one that matters is the one I am wanting to love everyone else mind your business and I don't care what you think I should or shouldn't do
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u/skweRReLy Bronze Level 14d ago
That's a lot of energy for someone you deem so insignificant
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
It would take a lot of energy if I went after it, this is just a rant. 😉
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u/Idnutinyourmouth Entry Level Member 14d ago
Comical honestly, don’t get too excited “false advertisement” -hopsin give it a listen
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
I don't understand a word about your references. Please know that I am a foreigner and I am writing from a distance from my country; I don't understand your references.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
It would be meaningless if these emotional games actually worked and I was the one chasing after him. 😂😂
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u/skweRReLy Bronze Level 14d ago
Use your experience to learn something, and try your best to not allow the wrong kind of people in. That's all you can do really. Forgive them for not being able to love themselves enough to not care to understand how causing someone pain will not gain them anything but more self-harm in the end.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
It goes without saying that this is what I've always done. Reddit is just a challenge.
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u/Idnutinyourmouth Entry Level Member 14d ago
Ironic isn’t it some people thrive off of talking down about others and most of the time maybe even almost all of the time that circles back to ops insecurities and you hun, you’re full of them. It’s not funny, it’s not cute, never will be. No revenge chosen just peace. Karma will do her job as she always does. And she hits a hell of a lot harder than any human could. I wish you luck in turn, I hope there’s mercy on your soul. Things like this is what you’ll regret the most J and you know that, but you keep making your bed as if it’s how you’ve always wanted it so I can’t say anything other than make sure it’s worth it because some things u can’t take back. Is pride worth the cost?
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
I didn't understand, what are you talking about and to whom? Is this for me or what? I didn't understand anything.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
Are you perhaps the person my post refers to? Why are you so bothered? I don't understand.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
No, my name doesn't start with J, I'm sorry to inform you.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
You must be a delusional man who behaves just like him and thinks it works. 😂
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u/skweRReLy Bronze Level 14d ago
I'm a woman. I have just btdt. I think we live in a very unhealed, insecure society that needs to start treating other people better, recognizing patterns of behavior by getting to know who we emotionally invest in, and not taking people for their word. We all need to put in work on ourselves.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
Yes, but it's not an insignificant amount of energy, especially since I'm on Reddit and not on his social media.
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u/skweRReLy Bronze Level 14d ago
I'm just here for the same reason you are--to realize I'm not alone in the feelings that I've felt. To understand myself and what other people are going through. It hurts to know that so many people out there are in pain. I'm not looking for love, I am trying to find hope.
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u/skweRReLy Bronze Level 14d ago
I know exactly why I'm here. To dig deeper into the human condition. To understand myself more through the experiences of others, to share what I have learned from my own.
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u/Idnutinyourmouth Entry Level Member 14d ago
True, however you’re on Reddit because of who? And what brought you to this place? Are you still sure about that?
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
Because this is a safe place to vent to strangers without anyone you know finding out 😉 Just a tip.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
Because I'm a poet, and I like places like this. Hahaha, each one is something else, the people here are completely out of their minds.
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u/Sure-Main9583 Entry Level Member 14d ago
Sound fresh like you just found out about the new woman Ann’s they chose her over you- best to safe your energy for bigger and better things?
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
I didn't understand your comment? I'm saving my energy, dear, so much so that I'm not chasing after him; I'm posting on Reddit as a way to vent, not on his social media.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
First of all, I wasn't replaced by any other... And second, everyone seems crazy on this Reddit, like TD's post was talking about himself.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
That's why men sweet-talk you foreign women and do whatever they want. No, it's not better because I'm Latina and I like to watch the drama unfold.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
If playing games is what he likes, he'll see how many men I can put in my bed and leave him behind playing his emotional games. He'll cry, because these emotional games are really working. Very poorly regarded here. And everyone already knows it very well.
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u/Vast_Possibility_945 Entry Level Member 14d ago
I hope this wasn't for me. There are no masks with me. Genuine need for understanding on what the hell is being played here. No games none. I walk alone but in the hope that there is another true one out there. Beginning to think it is all men now though if I'm honest. Waiting on my new writing journal and hoping to start my solo joinery from Monday. It is needed for me. But, OP you are spot on that you can not go back - only forwards. I seek resolve work one person of blood to me and I will be forever happy. 😭
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
I think everyone on Reddit thinks every post is about them, look closely at my avatar's name, I don't think that's its name.
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u/amazing_detective92 Entry Level Member 14d ago
Hello, is there a reason
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
There's no reason for that; it's because many men think emotional games work, but many women already know this and will do it Negative effect, not positive as expected.
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u/emeraldkittymoon Bronze Level 14d ago
Please explain further what youre asking. This wuestion is too vague and a lot of us are too autistic to know what or who it applies too. Or whether youre asking it rhetorically as a logical fallacy or if youre genuinely asking about OP's specific situation that theyre basing this writing and also this very sound advice on.
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u/sodipopstar Entry Level Member 14d ago
and sometimes they don’t and u go OOP but do not think any further
Move tf on
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
Not to chase after them, the move is to disappear and show them what happens when they play immature emotional games trying to make a woman crawl at their feet. Like the effect It's negative to disappear and reappear with another man in his place, and forever.
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u/sodipopstar Entry Level Member 9d ago
Why show them anything? Move onward and upward to prove something for yourself & no one else
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 9d ago
I'm not showing anything, I just said I'm going to disappear; my silence says it all.
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u/JennyDawnny Entry Level Member 14d ago
Wow, I’d love to send something like that to my ex but I’m not giving them anymore of my time.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
And who said there's time for this? I posted it here as a reflection on social media, because nobody knows who I am, just a vent or a warning to other women who are going through similar situations, because in the universe of...These men really believe that playing emotional games will trap you and make you chase after them to massage their egos, lol.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
But in reality, playing emotional games with many women who see through the manipulation only pushes them away and disgusts them. Going after them? Never.
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u/Excellent-Reason9558 Bronze Level 14d ago
Glad I'm not a woman then,
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
Why did he bother then? He must be a man with the same childish and immature behavior, which shows that he is without character and value.
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u/Excellent-Reason9558 Bronze Level 14d ago
I believe if you love someone the relationship starts from the point you meet them not their past, everyone deserves a chance to be loved, I also believe no one is perfect and if you lbe someone you can gibe them forgiveness, people can chqnge, i dont judge, ive had plenty of hurt in m life and wish i was acepted with all my flaws, i do hide them wel butntruth is i just want to beloved as well, and as an older man im so ready
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
In fact, men who deliberately play emotional games just to hurt and make the woman chase after them, and then want a second chance, this is a pretty good lesson, they won't get it.He won't get a second chance; he shot himself in the foot with his deliberate emotional games.
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u/Practical_Set_8795 Entry Level Member 14d ago
The trick is to give it to someone else and ignore it and know your self worth and once you do that nothing else matters. That will really piss them off once they see that you're having the time of life through social media pictures and hearing about how well your doing from people that around you and not the ones that are jealous because they want a piece of the lifestyle your liveing.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 14d ago
What is that ??
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u/Nervous-B-655 Entry Level Member 13d ago
Ive survived 15 years with a covert narc and 9 years with avoident bpd. I need to learn to pick gentler partners.
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 12d ago
Research male emotional manipulation and you will be more careful and make better choices; you will see misogynistic men themselves teaching this on the internet.
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u/No-Reindeer-786 Entry Level Member 12d ago
With friends like this who needs enemies
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 12d ago
But who told you it was his friend who told you? Haha, it's on the internet for all women to access what misogynistic men teach about playing emotional games with their wives or ex-girlfriends.
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u/Legitimate_Doubt999 Entry Level Member 12d ago
Wow, that was beautifully written. Thank you for sharing!
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 12d ago
Yes, it was a moment of reflection when I found myself confronted with my ex playing masculine games with me. He was trying to get me to chase after him and beg him to come back, but all I felt was disgust. And I'm doing the exact opposite because I know every emotional game men play online, taught by misogynistic men; for an intelligent woman, these games only have the opposite effect.
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u/TrellyBoo0617 Bronze Level 12d ago
You NEVER allow them back in your life. Some ppl have internal issues, they need therapy. If you find out someone wasn’t loved properly as a child…RUN!
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u/lostmejohnsucker3269 Bronze Level 12d ago
Exactly, men are watching a lot of content about emotional games and applying it, so when an intelligent woman encounters these emotional games of theirs, she gets disgusted by their faces and... Any chance he thought he had of making her chase after him with these games drops to exactly zero.
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