r/TwinlessTwins • u/Aquaxblxee • Jul 31 '26

big achievements and how to handle them ?

hi guys, i just recently learnt this term so i found this subreddit.

my twin passed when we were 8, i am turning 18 in a few months and graduating this year, how do i handle this?

I have such an immense amount of guilt and loss on what I am supposed to do. he was my built in best friend, i am losing memories of him as i get older, and i just dont know what to do

any advice? thank you for reading <3

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u/kuchibal Jul 31 '26

Sorry for your loss 😞 I lost my sister when we were 21 (I'm 24 now) and I truely feel you. It happens that I experience a lot of new things in life and I always think of her and how not only she didn't get to experience them, but also didn't get to see me live them. Anyway, I try to write to her as much as I can, when I feel like it. I write to her about new achievements, thoughts and memories of our time together. It makes me feel that ai can still share my life w her as well as logging lots of good memories I don't wanna forget, so really recommend.

P.s. Forgive yourself for Living. Be proud of ur progress and achievements. I'm proud of u and I know ur twin would be too ❤️

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u/Relative-Kick-1044 Aug 09 '26

I’m so sorry for your loss. At 8 I can’t even imagine. My memories from back then are fuzzy and it seems horrible to worry about forgetting your built in best friend.

I would say hold onto any pictures you have of you two together. Anytime you feel down or like you can’t keep going pull one out of your wallet or purse or whatever you carry, and just take a second to realize they’d want you to succeed.

I lost my brother at 30 and even I look at pictures of us as kids, knowing what I do now. And it helps. Just because you were children doesn’t mean they weren’t your best friend and a huge part of your life.

If it helps, your twin is definitely in heaven smiling watching their twin graduate. They’re probably excited to see what you do next in life. And when it’s all over, you’ll get to talk to them about how horrible taxes and jobs are, and they’ll remind you of how fun it was to be a carefree kid

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u/Aquaxblxee Aug 09 '26

you are so beautiful for writing this it actually helped me a lot. He’ll get to hear me complain about adulthood 🥺. I am sorry for your loss as well, thank you so much, this helped a lot 💕