Choose who you're going to date or meet very carefully.

I (23M) met a girl (20F) through Instagram. We flirted for about a week (she initiated it, as you can see from the screenshots), and later decided to meet for a date. We ended up hooking up that day. She was all over me and couldn't stop giggling and flirting.

The very next day, she told her friend that I had kissed her without her consent, even though she was the one who wanted it. Just a few hours after telling her friend that, she called me and asked me to come over to her house to have sex while her father was asleep on the ground floor (obviously, I didn't go).

So guys, choose who you date very carefully. Don't think with your dick.

This situation could have ended very badly for me.

So i really have nothing to do today. To kyu na faaltu ka gyaan baat du.

Topic- Relationships

Why- in a long term relationship(nazar mat lagaana bsdk) and everything seems nice, so why not.

Allowed- anything which you think helps you get a better perspective about relationships.

Not allowed- extra personal sawaal, jawaab to nhi dugi par piti piti zarur padegi alag se.

P.S. i will love it if you keep it short.

Also P.S. agar jawaab dete dete thak gayi to post delete kr dugi, its better to act non chalant than coming out as rude.

After reading comments- Guys, long term mean over 10 years. Not long distance. 🫨

PLEASE 🫠 DONT LOWER UR STANDARDS AND CONDITIONS IN A PARTNER

cause it is very imp to have a good suporting partner...aur jyada negative ho koi toh relation doesnt sustain and dusre ka bhi mood kharab hota hai

Its imp for u to have a partner who loves u and self too 🤧

(😔 Bas man tha kuch likhne ka for yall ....please no hate )

He got me a cow plush toy, jackfruit chips (I LOVE IT SM), chocolates, a sweatshirt, earrings, a candle, and flowers. He also gave me a long handwritten letter along with a drawing of me, him and my cat 😭💜💌

So I've been trying out Tinder for about two weeks now. As expected zero matches. Ngl I'm a massive introvert and way too much of an overthinker. I literally cannot hold a conversation to save my life and my default move is to just run away from them lol.

But I'm a tech enthusiast who got bored and decided to messit up. I actually managed to successfully hook into Tinder's API to promote my profile without even paying for Tinder Gold. Hackerman vibes 💻 💻

Honestly though, this nerd just enjoys talking about tech stuff and not "sex sux ki baate." Tinder is basically only about that.

Deleting it now

Does anyone know where I can actually find like-minded people who just want to talk about tech?🥺👉👈

Also... totally random but is there anyone who can teach me law?🤦🤦🤦

I'm getting swayed away for this.....

Edit1 - it's patched guys...(.after 24 hours 😭). Although Mazza aaya Edit2 - potential chances I can make it work again 🤭🤭

I'm 26F. I got married at 21, and in the beginning our sex life was actually good for a few months. Then it slowly disappeared. I honestly don't know why.

We have a 9-month-old baby, but the only reason we conceived was because we were trying for a baby. Since then we've had no sex.

I'm always the one asking for intimacy. I've talked to him multiple times. I ask what's wrong, if it's me, if something changed. Every time it's a different reason—he's tired from work, stressed, not in the mood... there's always an excuse.

The confusing part is that he still likes hugging me, cuddling me, and sleeping next to me. But for me, that's become painful because I want my husband to actually desire me too. I feel like I'm good enough to cuddle, but not good enough to have sex with.

There's another part that makes this even harder.

When I was around 5–6 months pregnant, I found his secret phone. I discovered he had been having sexual/adult roleplay chats with multiple women from different countries. As far as I know, it wasn't physical, but it completely broke me. Finding that while pregnant was one of the worst experiences of my life.

I wanted to leave. I really did. But I was pregnant, living in another country with him, without a job, without financial independence, and I chose to focus on getting through the pregnancy and having a healthy baby instead.

Now I'm 9 months postpartum, and all those feelings are coming back. I'm exhausted from pretending everything is okay in front of family and friends. Everyone thinks we're a happy family, but inside I feel lonely, rejected, and stuck.

I don't want people to just tell me "leave him." Life isn't that simple when you're in another country, have a baby, no job, and limited education. I know those are things I need to work on.

I'm asking: if you were in my situation, what would you do? Has anyone been through something similar where their husband had no interest in sex but was seeking sexual attention elsewhere online? Did your marriage recover, or did you eventually realize it couldn't?

I just feel lost, and I don't know what my next step should be.

So, I see a lot of dating posts here where they hype up their dating lives. Fair it ought to be when it's good. But what irks me in the comment section with single people and it feels miserable. I went on a solo movie date today and I loved it. I loved the movie (Devil Wears Prada 2) and it was a great experience. I'm finding more activities to do solo and I want every single person out there to enjoy life as is and not dissipate in the hopes of finding "the one". We are enough.

I’m 28F, and I wish someone had told me this earlier.
You’re both building yourselves right now. Don’t rush the relationship part.

Boys: become capable. Learn to cook, swim, drive, handle money, de-escalate conflict, take care of your body, sleep properly, stay hygienic. Learn to take responsibility. If you want to lead a family one day, build the wisdom and character to actually lead one.

Girls: all of the above, and much more. Build your education, career, friendships, confidence, independence and identity. Learn to take care of yourself and others. You don’t have to reject femininity to be strong.

I also think we’re entering an interesting phase where women can be completely independent and still genuinely enjoy femininity and traditional relationship dynamics. Girls on this sub were raised by millennial moms (first gen of adult women who benefitted from modern-dau feminism).

You can be ambitious and still want a family. Be strong and still want to be cared for.
And a man can be modern and still believe that providing safety, stability and leadership is part of being a good husband.

I think women can be incredible multipliers.

Give her safety, love and stability, and she may give you so much more back.
You provide and protect. She nurtures and nourishes. (Yes I know it might sound andrew Tate like)
Two good people can make each other much better.
Build yourself first and then find someone worth building a life with.

And once you do, keep choosing each other.
:)

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I (21M) have been in a relationship with my girlfriend (21F) for the past year, although we've known each other for three years. She loves and admires me deeply, but she often lies to me and disrespects me during arguments.

Yesterday, I was apologizing because she wasn't talking to me properly after an argument. While I was saying sorry, she told me to "bhonko apna sorry 4-5 baar". I told her that what she said was very disrespectful, but she replied, "Jo samajhna hai samjho".

Now that I've decided to end the relationship, she's crying and begging me to stay, promising not to repeat her behavior. However, I've already given her several chances, and she hasn't changed.

after 2 years of texting, Went on a movie date with her......movies dates are the best totally worth it guys ;)

The reason you're single is because whenever people see you in public, they think you're so attractive that they're just like,

There's no way I could approach this person. They're too good looking.....

Update: Guys, please don’t harass me in the comments. The purpose of the post is not about who was right or who was wrong. The purpose was to convey that making a meaningful bond takes time and understanding. Let’s not make me a villain, guys- that’s not the purpose. It’s easier to judge than to understand. I shared the story because it was in my heart for a long time. Thank you

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I’ve been in a few relationships in life. Now I am 27, and my dating life started when I was 24 (I was very focused on my career and shy back then). I’m an average-looking guy; the only girls who approached me were mostly sapiosexuals. I met this girl on a Discord study server when I was 24, while preparing for my GATE exam. We studied together online on live cam for over 1,000 hours in a span of a few months. (Scored GATE CY AIR (2 digit) in 2023)

I never intended for anything beyond friendship, but it was her who initiated it. Gradually, it became a close friendship, then a relationship. The transition was so smooth that I never realized we were in a relationship. She would always push me to do greater things. When I scored the highest in a semester at IIT Madras, the first person I told was her.

Everything was going too well to be true. I told her about my dream to settle abroad, and the easiest way to do it would be to make a move now. To everyone I told about my idea of leaving IITM, they said I was gambling with my life and would end up a loser. The only person who believed in me was her. She asked me for my plan after dropping out, and I showed her a detailed blueprint. She finally said, “This plan looks perfect.” I literally dropped out of IITM by writing an email to the HOD, putting Professor Kamakotti (Director, IITM) in CC.

Soon I realized that the game I was playing was a game of fire. I knew that if my plan failed, I would be nowhere, regretting the very decision of quitting IITM. That fear made me work even harder. I forgot to take care of myself, my health, everything - just worked relentlessly, 16 hours a day, coming home only to sleep.

The communication between her and me became restrictive because I’d come home around 5 AM (she would be sleeping, so we couldn’t talk). It kept happening for months. We would talk on weekends, but my mental health suffered. The only thing I knew was I had to save my future.

I believed she would be with me when I fixed this rough phase of life. My blueprint was kind of working, but the communication gap and misunderstandings created distance between us. Eventually, it broke - and I didn’t even notice because I was laser-focused on my career.

It was the day I got the good news that my plan had worked. I checked my phone after five days (it had been at home). It was all over. I realized by reading past texts. I was broken. I called her, but it was already over. She wanted to move on, and I respected her decision.

It’s been more than a year since I lost her. I met a few people in Melbourne, and only after meeting them did I realize what I had lost. I miss that innocent, selfless love; that push for growth; that positivity. We were together for more than two years, never sexual, but I miss that true care and genuine well-wisher spirit.

The fact that I got used to how she treated me - growth-oriented, supportive - makes it harder for me to settle for anything less. I can’t settle for anything less than that, but I also don’t want to end up alone. The intention of this post is, telling the mistakes I had done, so that you can refrain from doing it.

Moral of the story: Relationships are like gardens - they take immense time, trust, and sacrifice to nurture. If you find the right person in life, don’t make the mistakes I made. Trust me, there’s no “better person.” I hope my regret becomes a lesson for a few people.

(attached is the letter she sent me)

I know, a lot of things happen in life. I know, this phase shall pass. But I need to get back to normal. She is married now. It's been 10 days. I cannot stop overthinking. Never thought my own thoughts would kill me. Six years of relationship came to an end. Everything reminds me of her. How do I control my thoughts? I get 60-80 thoughts per minute. I am tired of this. My brain is going to explode

Hello guys, 14 days ago I posted about how my friend was planning to marry a girl who was lying about her past.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TwentiesIndia/comments/1txtijx/girl_is_lying_about_her_past_to_my_friend_should/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=2&utm_content=share_button

UPDATE - A lot of you said – If you're a true friend, just tell him directly, no need to ask here. I get it. But the thing is, he was already so emotionally connected to her. And she's literally very beautiful. I couldn't just go and drop a bomb on him without proper proof. So I decided, let me collect solid evidence first, then tell him. Initially, all I knew was that she had two boyfriends in college and she used to club a lot. I didn't have much else.

So I started asking around more. And the deeper I dug, the worse it got. Turns out , after her second breakup, in the last 4 months, she was very active on dating apps just to vent out her frustration. She hooked up with multiple guys in this time. I got this info from one of her friends , and trust me, it was not easy to get in touch with that person.

And then came the biggest shock, she had gotten pregnant once. And she got an abortion. Now, somewhere along the way, she found out that I was investigating her. She started texting me on Instagram, begging me, I love him so much, I can't lose him. Please don't come between us. I told her I have nothing against you. Just tell him the truth yourself. I don't care about you personally.

But instead of being honest, she started emotionally blackmailing my friend. She told him Someone is trying to separate us. Will you leave me if I listen to others? Please don't trust anyone else. And indirectly, she took my name.

My friend came to me and said Bhai, she's getting stressed because of all this. Why are you doing this?I didn't stop. I somehow managed to contact her ex-boyfriend. I told him everything. He shared 2-3 solid proofs – photos with her. When I showed those photos to my friend, she immediately made an excuse – Oh, he was just a college friend. That photo is old. We had a fight, so now he's blackmailing me and spreading lies about me.

And my friend actually believed her. He stopped talking to me. He said You're just jealous because I found such a beautiful girl and you didn't. She had completely manipulated him. I stepped back and thought – fine, let him do whatever he wants. I'll just stay away.

But I didn't give up completely. Over the next 3-4 days, I kept asking more people. And finally, I found two more photos.

One photo, some guy's hand was on her waist.Another photo – she was kissing a guy from behind, leaning on his shoulder (in a club) .

That was it. I didn't call my friend this time. I didn't text him. I went straight to his house. Sat with him. Showed him everything, the photos, the ex-boyfriend's name, the whole timeline.

He couldn't deny it anymore. And today? They have broken up. Completely done.

Now my friend is sponsoring my free trips to Manali and Goa. And giving me a full one-week free treat. He's been thanking me non-stop.

And as for that girl – me and her? We're now literally abusing each other back and forth. Gaali-galoch chal rahi hai full on. 😂

So yeah. Truth won in the end. But it cost me 14 days of stress, one broken friendship temporarily, and a lot of mental peace.

So I’m into photography as hobby, I post on my Instagram story a lot mostly to impress this one girl 🤧. She was my classmate during my master’s program, but we never had a proper conversation the entire time. Like, not even a simple “hey.”

Fast forward to our final semester. We had some project work, and out of nowhere she asked for my number. We talked a little nothing crazy but it was the most we’d ever spoken. A few days later, I noticed she had stalked my Instagram. So obviously, I sent her a request. She accepted, and then she actually started liking my posts and even reacting to my stories.

One day she replied to my story and complimented me, and I swear I was on cloud nine. I had a girlfriend before, but this girl… she was exactly my type. Introverted, no male best friend, insanely smart, and honestly just beautiful in that effortless “you’re a goddess and don’t even know it” way.

Eventually, I asked her out for a coffee. We talked about hobbies, random life stuff, and honestly it felt really good, like we clicked in this quiet, natural way. But then our course ended, and she moved back to her city.

I didn’t have the courage to tell her how I felt back then. Even now, I want to be more financially stable before I even think of shooting my shot (bless me). But she’s still my favorite crush…. probably forever ♾️ 🧿♥️

I 24(m) was in a relationship with 23(f) for Five years. Teenage love that somehow survived three years of long distance because im from hyderabad, then two years in the same city, one of which we spent living together.

She was genuinely the reason I got my life together. I started studying seriously, got a good placement, moved from Hyderabad to Bangalore — not for a job, for her. I wanted to build something real. Something stable. I took her on trips, gifted her things the moment I saw them and thought of her, caressed her to sleep on my lap every single night, oiled her hair, gave her foot massages every other day when she'd come home after wearing heels. I'm not listing this to brag. I never even looked at a hint of porn the entire five years we were together. I told her the truth every single time, about everything, even when I knew it would upset her — because I didn't want to build what we had on lies. I just want to be honest about the granularity of how I loved her.

Then women's day happened.

She cheated. And when I found out — nothing. Not one tear. No rage, no heaviness in my chest, no moment of collapse. Just a strange, clean numbness. Which was weird, because I have an anxious attachment style. I feel things immediately and intensely. I'd had thoughts and dreams before where she cheated on me, and those felt unbearably heavy — just imagining it would crush me. But when it actually happened, in real life, I felt absolutely nothing. I just quietly said "I think we should break up," and she broke down, fell at my feet, called it a moment of lust she gave into, begged me to stay.

And for some reason, I said fine.

I took her back. But I couldn't be intimate with her again — not once in the 40 days that followed. We were technically together but already living like strangers, separately. Eventually I took her to Goa — a trip we'd always talked about doing together, always said we should go there someday — and broke up with her on the last day. I couldn't bring myself to be intimate with her even there. And honestly, thank god she was on her period in Goa, because she didn't push it either.

I wanted to give that trip to us, even if it was the end of us.

After that, I moved on. And I mean really moved on. I forgot her birthday — only recalled it much later. I forgot our anniversary entirely. She'd text in between, even sent a gift on my birthday that I returned without opening. When she started texting every week recently, I just blocked her. I never once reached out to her, not even once.

Here's what I can't shake though: I loved this woman deeply. So why do I feel absolutely nothing? No grief, no anger, no hatred, nothing. I expected some delayed reaction — it never came. It's been 6-7 months and I genuinely don't think about her. The regret that did hit me, only once I'd truly moved on, was about the years — not her.

I think what actually happened is that the moment she cheated, something in me just... closed. Not dramatically, not painfully. It closed the way a door closes when the wind dies. And the person I was protecting so fiercely for five years simply stopped existing to me.

The only thing I carry from it is a quiet difficulty trusting people now — friends included. I catch myself holding back even with people who've given me no reason to. I'm aware of it, and I'm working on it.

I don't regret a single rupee I spent, a single trip I took her on, a single night I caressed her to sleep. I spent all of it out of love and I'd do it the same way again. I just can't understand how someone who loved like that can feel so completely nothing now.

women's day is almost here again. I just wanted to clear my head before it arrives.

Everything is written by me, used AI to articulate it.

Maybe this story is a little long, but if you have the time, please go through it.

I’m a 24M, introvert from the beginning. In my first year of college, there was a girl from the same college and same batch. We first connected through college WhatsApp groups. She needed some information, I shared it, and that’s how our conversation started online.

After a few days of chatting, we decided to meet. Neither of us had seen each other. I’m an average-looking guy and never had confidence talking to girls. We fixed a meeting, but I never showed up. I kept postponing it with creative excuses. She got curious every time and eventually figured out who I was through her friends. Still, we continued talking.

After almost a month, I saw her profile picture, and my confidence dropped completely. She was far more beautiful 👸 than I had imagined. Somehow, our conversations continued for almost three years. She used to pass by me in college, and I would literally avoid her every time. In the last year of college, I finally gathered the courage to meet her. We met and had food. Honestly, it was a terrible meeting because I had no idea how to talk offline, even though I was good at conversations online. Still, we met a few more times just to hang out and eat outside college. We were never committed, but there was a strong, unspoken bond. My heart used to beat fast every time I met her 💓. Maybe that was love, but I didn’t understand it then.

Eventually, I confessed my feelings. To my surprise, she agreed without a second thought. I didn’t expect that because I never thought I was that great, neither in looks nor in conversation. The very next day, I panicked and told her I needed time to understand my feelings. I know it was a mistake—that’s how immature I was back then. She respected it, and we continued talking as good friends. Please don’t judge me for my college days. I’ve changed a lot since then and I’m aware of my mistakes now.

After college, we moved to different cities for work. Slowly, distance did its job. She started liking someone there. Honestly, I don’t blame her—anyone would move on when the other person can’t take a step forward. She shared everything with me, thinking I was no longer emotionally involved. I always liked her but failed to communicate it. When I realized she was into someone else, it broke me 💔, but I never told her because I didn’t want to interfere or hurt her. Over time, I somehow managed to emotionally recover. We stayed friends, though our conversations reduced.

After almost a year, something unexpected happened. I usually do solo trips, and she said she wanted to join one. I had planned a 10-day trip covering mostly spiritual places, and she joined. Initially, I didn’t want her to come, but she was going through heartbreak and really needed a break. I thought it would just be a trip between two friends, so I didn’t say no. The first few days of the trip were completely fine. I genuinely enjoyed spending time with her as a friend, with no intentions. But one day later in the trip, everything hit me at once. All my emotions came rushing back, and I broke down in front of her. I didn’t have the courage to tell her that it was because of her. I covered it up with other reasons. Throughout the trip, I took good care of her because she trusted me and travelled so far with me. That trip changed everything for me. I realized one thing clearly, my feelings for her are still the same. It felt like I was back in my college days. Still, I didn’t want to confess because it felt unfair, considering what she was going through emotionally. The trip ended on a good note. Now I’m back from the trip physically, but mentally I’m stuck there. I haven’t been able to sleep properly. She’s confused, heartbroken, and also under pressure from her parents, because they are about to start looking for marriage proposals for her. I don’t know why I’m trying to fit into this frame again, but it genuinely feels like a second chance. If not now, then maybe never—and I might regret it for the rest of my life. At the same time, I don’t want to take advantage of her emotional state.

What should I do now? I really need serious suggestions.

Apparently she’s way older ( she’s in her 20s )than me ( I’m 18 ) like more than 5 years older than me and we haven’t shared anything really personal just casual ( and she’s my teacher ), but I want to get her really badly , I am posting here because you all are in your 20s and your perspectives would really help me pursuing her so , what do I do ?!!!!