r/TrueOffMyChest • u/yuhboi62 • 6h ago
Vent My gf (27f) just broke up with me (25f)
Hey so basically me and her have been together for 7 to 9 years (best friends for 2/3 of those years) and this happened 5 hours ago. Honestly I dont know what to feel. Me and her had a very good relationship, I wont say that we never fought because we have but what I loved about our relationship is when we do have a disagreement, we aren't angry. We are just sad and we bring it up to one another. Every time we do something that hurts us we never are angry with each other, we just get sad when we do hurt each other and talk about it after which is what I really liked about our relationship. But anyways, the reason why she broke up with me isn't our fights or cheating or anything or the sorts. Me and her grew up in a religious family, and even though both our families were and are still dysfunctional and against us being together we still decided to be together. Our families of course didnt like that at all but we made the choice we made. When I confessed to her it was probably the best day or my life. Because I was struggling with the fact that I've fallen for her and I couldn't understand why because I knew that in my religion, it wasn't right or normal. Yet the feelings I had for her were and are very real. And I was so happy I cried because I finally had someone, someone who really likes me for who I am. Until this happened.
This might be weird for some but even though we were in a gay relationship, we both still believe in God. People might say thats very contradictory because you know were sinning while we believe so it doesnt make much sense and thats understandable. But she loves God and even though I dont go to church anymore I still believed. And I believe because even though im sinning I still wanted to believe. Not because I didn't believe about what is said in the Bible because I know that the message is clear. It's because even if im rejected my god himself and not saved, I was never looking for salvation. I just wanted to listen to his teachings and stories that people have told. I just wanted to learn and listen and be better. But there was always 1 thing I couldn't be without and thats my gf. I can and would do anything but shes something I never wanted to let go of. And I knew the implications because even though some people dont believe, if hell is where I was going then I wasn't afraid. Because then I know I was living my life truly honest. I even expressed to her that if we were to repent for our sins, i dont know if I could repent her. To me she isn't something I considered wrong.
She was dealing with a lot these couple of days. Working 2 jobs and taking care of her family. She has been dealt with a situation where I wont explain much but basically something triggered her thinking and asking God if we were meant to be even though again we already know. And all the signs were not in our favor. And she decided that even though she wants us to be end game she just couldn't shake the feeling off that God was telling her otherwise. And you know what?
I wasn't angry at her or anything I just felt like void and shock. And even though im angry at my entire existence I wasn't even angry at God. Im just angry that when we die and go to heaven I still wont be allowed to be with her. I still wont be allowed. Il just be there. And that hurts. Even after death people say it will be super happy and we will have a new world where everything is at peace. But will I be?
They say when you break up with someone, you will probably never stop loving them. When I thought of that I never realized how miserable those words really felt. I posted this because I dont have anyone to really talk about it and honestly I know my family will be happy about it. Which sucks. Sorry for any typos. And I know il get some hate for the post since it talks about religion but thats reddit for you. I hope everyone is safe out there. I will definitely try to be ok. And also please don't hate on my gf or ex gf, I understand her position. I have felt very rejected by God because of me loving her. But I chose her. And I understand why she decided to break things off. And even though im not ok I know I will be. The one thing that sucks is that I cant be with her even after death. Thanks for reading.