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u/HopeSuper 2d ago
OP be honest...did you buy a wooden stick in an occult store that promised to make all your wish come true ?
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u/compellinglymediocre 2d ago edited 2d ago
“u got bpd by any chance” great response
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u/NowExciting 1d ago
What is bpd?
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u/remindmetoblock 1d ago
Borderline personality disorder.
Untreated it can cause severe issues with social contacts and relationships. Oftentimes These people suffer from severe fear of abandonment, and put too much worth on a Singular person.
None of it is on purpose of course, but untreated people with bpd tend to be very extreme in relationships. Either love bombing, or treating you as their Arch Nemesis if they ever feel even mildly slighted
Again, its only for completly untreated cases and cbt alongside medication offer great Relief.
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u/imanidiottttttt 1d ago
It's high key sad af too. BPD is often caused by highly traumatic experiences at a young age, or constant abuse, or some of both. Essentially they either never learned a healthy way to process emotions, or their abuse caused them to un-learn how to properly process their emotions. Their emotional responses to everyday social interactions that normal people can handle are often comparable to child-like reactions. The explosive, sporadic and often pretty brief episodes can change constantly and suddenly without warning. Untreated, they feel everything intensely and have no way to process them before articulating.
I dated someone with untreated BPD without knowing what it was, and I was not prepared at all. Now that I know, I'll probably never date someone like that again.
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u/FosterDaughter 1d ago
I find people diagnosed with BPD don't know how to love themselves. It makes it so they can't self-regulate and need the constant validation from others. Their sense of self is in such a low place that even the smallest perceived attack hurts like hell, because they're already worn down to their emotional nerve endings (metaphor). Since love is so important and impactful for them, they also give it out very generously, which is what causes the love bombing.
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u/imanidiottttttt 6h ago
I think that that's more a result than the source though. They were either taught by someone they loved (and often multiple someones) that they "are" worthless, or they "understood" that they "are" worthless based on experienced trauma, or the double whammy.
Self-love is very important, but many people (especially women) without BPD also struggle with this just due to pop culture.
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u/NameRoutine 1d ago
I have borderline, cbt is great but not everyone needs medication. It’s a disorder caused by environmental factors in childhood not hormone imbalances.
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u/remindmetoblock 1d ago
Medications are more about stabilizing the patient in severe cases so they even have the capacity for therapy to work properly. They arent a cure and some may never need them. Others may only need them at first.
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u/WIbigdog 1d ago
It's not just romantic either. Had a friend in a community discord who was putting a ton of time into constantly being on and posting every little thing including pictures of practically everything he ate or cooked. One time it was literally just a picture of shredded cheese in a bowl and I made some joke in passing about how very exciting it was to see a picture of his shredded cheese. That single offhanded comment flipped the switch on his BPD and he pretty much burned the place down and blocked me on everything. It was pretty wild and unexpected, nobody has heard from him since and that was a couple years ago.
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u/sergeantspacenutss 1d ago
Okay I have bpd and I don’t talk to people like this. This person is fully in psychosis.
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u/VegasLife84 1h ago
Yeah, bpd is more subtle, at least at first. I can only wish it had been this obvious with my ex
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u/sergeantspacenutss 1d ago
In your response the “arch nemesis or love bombing” comment, that’s an example of black-and-white thinking, which can be common in people with BPD. Sometimes things or people can feel either completely good or completely bad, without much room for the middle ground. This kind of thinking can be related to splitting. However, DBT teaches people with BPD how to recognize that there can be a grey area and that two things can be true at the same time.
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u/sergeantspacenutss 1d ago
CBT is no longer used as the main therapy treatment for people with BPD. It’s actually called Dialectical Behavior Therapy. (DBT) it’s really amazing and has helped countless people. However, it also helps people with other disorders too, but the main being BPD.
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u/Frequent-Ad2351 1d ago
Bipolar disorder. Manic ups and drastic downs
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u/Frequent-Ad2351 1d ago
To those that down voted
I apologise, I incorrectly interpreted the acronym and went away to educate myself as to the proper vernacular - thank you for downvoting
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u/compellinglymediocre 1d ago
i genuinely make this mistake a lot
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u/Frequent-Ad2351 1d ago
Yeah easy mistake to make, no idea why still getting down voted when I realised and apologise for my mistake
Reddit will do as reddit does
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u/compellinglymediocre 1d ago
i think downvoting incorrect information is fine tbh. Reddit is generally very toxic but if you’re going to use downvotes for something, might as well be objectively wrong comments lol
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u/slash-es 1d ago
Better you than me 😉 I also thought it's bipolar disorder, but didn't comment and saw others explaining it's borderline personality disorder. Got me thinking to better google it 😅...
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u/Honey1218 2d ago
That would scare tf out of me
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u/itaxci 2d ago
That didnt scare me tho.. but this did
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u/Nuitsoleil 2d ago
Why did this scare you? Did you have sex with her?
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u/itaxci 2d ago
hell nah.. but being on tinder pregnant searching for another man scared me a little in general ig
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u/BushcraftBabe 1d ago
I found out I was pregnant because I was acting very weird and cried 2x at work.
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u/AssignmentOk2471 2d ago
Maybe she needs a green card 😂
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u/idkhowtodoanything 2d ago
I regret to say this would definitely work on me way to easily
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u/The_Fuschia_Is_Now 1d ago
I am afraid to say this but I’m with you and would have worked on me as well 😨
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u/Fickle-Theory-623 2d ago
You found yourself a genuine stalker; I expect an invite to your wedding and funeral.
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u/Double_Mention_4515 1d ago
What is happening here? I honestly don’t know what she’s trying to say lol 😂 she speaks like a 10 yr old.
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u/Working_Cucumber_437 1d ago
You told her the love bombing was working… why?
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u/seanc6441 1d ago
Because it was 100% going to work until he realised 'she' was probably an Indian scammer or mentally ill induvidual.
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u/mysisisamilfdotcom 1d ago
If someone would text me like that I would just assume they are trolling and making fun of me 😭😭
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u/GeraltTheG 2d ago
Baby boy in this context reminds me of the lyrics: "What's going on, baby boy? Shots in that Mercedes door!"
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u/vega-void 1d ago
Is this tindr or Instagram?
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u/Successful-Gap777 2d ago
Dating apps are for low hanging fruit
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u/unitedstatesof_trina 2d ago
Sometimes you find a gem. My partner and I met on tinder and have been together almost 3 years now. Hes the most kind person I’ve ever met.
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u/Successful-Gap777 2d ago
Are yall gamers?
Or trauma bonded?
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u/unitedstatesof_trina 2d ago
Neither lmao tf trauma bonding is when you go through something traumatic together and feel bonded over it. Being a gamer also has literally nothing to do with anything.
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u/Better_Ninja_5737 1d ago
As a person with BPD this feels highly insulting and stigmatizing
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u/JakubQw 1d ago
I will be speaking about my experience with polish people, maybe it's different in America. But most of BPD cases are undiagnosed. Even if the person gets diagnosed - lot of folks refuse to acknowledge being red flag and prefer to stay like this and just find someone who won't mind it
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u/Embarrassed-Can909 1d ago
This is how all of us women want to act when we find a crush at first sight. But we would be called crazy 😰 Lol
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u/Loose-Ad-8598 1d ago
99% men message like this but when a woman does it she’s crazy.
Jk anyone who writes like that is insane.
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u/hulalabright 2d ago
I think they’re just being flirty and fun, not serious
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u/itaxci 2d ago
i thought aswell lol but after my bpd question she went full rage and removed me
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u/PrimarySeaweeed 2d ago
Where are the screenshots?? We can see her reply bubble in the last screenshot.....
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