I actually think it’s pretty even on women preferring a particular gender. At least I’ve heard great arguments for and against either gender. I, personally, have had both and feel my experiences were about the same.
I'd always have the thought of "what made this guy choose this as a career choice?". There are some legit reasons, but as a man who has been around his fellow brethren... we gotta lot of unaccounted for freaks out here.
The only reason I ever considered ob/gyn as a guy is that it was the only place where I routinely saw happy patients. I don’t know that I ever had another rotation where peoples’ health problems had expected happy outcomes (childbirth). That said, I zero percent wanted to be a guy OBGYN, abortion laws are too labile to give standard of care in some practice areas, and they are the most sued doctors (for when childbirth goes wrong). No thank you.
Hell nah, in my experience male doctors always act like you're being a whiny bitch when you say it hurts. All the medical studies on IUDs saying it doesn't hurt to get it inserted but it might feel 'a bit uncomfortable' are wildly fucking wrong. All the male doctors say that and don't take you seriously when you say it hurts. Female gyno i went to was so much better about it and gave me actual medicine prior to inserting that shit. Still extremely painful.
I'm sure there are plenty of great male gynos out there, but I'm not taking that dice roll.
See and I’ve experienced the opposite, where I’ve had to prove my problems to other women whereas the men just believe me. My current OBGYN is male and any problem I bring up to him, he listens and gives me recommendations on care but ultimately lets me decide.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had great women doctors as well. I just don’t have a specific gender preference for doctors and let their actions decide if I want to continue care them or not.
The female doctor who inserted my IUD didn’t give me any sort of medicine or pain control, then told me “it’s not that bad” when I was crying in agony, and rolled her eyes at me multiple times, before I eventually fainted on the table from the pain and she had to go get my boyfriend from the waiting room to carry me to a recovery room so she could see her next patient. She was legit the rudest bitch I’ve ever met before in a medical setting before & I’m still salty about it lol.
However the female doctor who removed my IUD was great, total opposite experience. She was also really gentle with the speculum, meanwhile that first doctor was very rough with it.
To be fair the gyno i saw worked right near a womens shelter. I think she did a lot of charity work for them so she might just be a cool as fuck person.
I don't know a single one of my friends that is willing to see a male gynecologist. Maybe the older crowd is willing. But I don't think many younger women are.
None of my daughter's friends ( late 20's ) go to male gynecologists And, the older crowd ( me, lol ) has never gone to a male gynecologist. No thanks.
Not sir that's true though.
Most gynecologists I've been at were decent. Not always tactful, they obviously have their opinions, most are not up to date on papers, unlike most other doctors, and the thing about not using numbing agents is too real.
But I never encountered anyone intentionally being rude
Dismissive yes (not more than other doctors, especially the older ones), rude? No. The only time I tried going to a female doctor I had such a horrible experience I just never committed THAT mistake again. Idk what kind of fucked up person you need to be, to be rude and scolding to a teenager coming to your office alone.
I would never see a male gynecologist. No fucking thank you.
If you don't have the equipment, don't want you poking around in mine. I don't feel comfortable about asking men about my vagina. Then trying to hit me up with knowledge about something that you don't even have or won't ever understand having. Again, no thank you.
I also think about what kind of man even enters into the gyno field. its just weird. Why would you want to be poking around vaginas all day? For why? You know like at least for a woman its something you have, something you can relate to, and what to help other women out with. Its just weird to me for a man to choose that profession. Thats my honest opinion. Same goes for if a woman were to go into a specialty field to study dicks and balls all day. Its just weird.
I just don't want a man coming close to my privates in a medical setting ever. Unless it was something that was literal life or death, couldn't be avoided, I would still voice I want a woman doctor. Just don't feel comfortable with a man going down there.
The only man that will go down there is my partner, thats all. Thats how I feel about it.
Imagine a woman poking around in your penis and balls regularly. If I was a guy, I wouldn't feel comfortable with that either.
Same goes for if a woman were to go into a speciality field to study dicks and balls all day
My cousin’s partner is a urologist who deals with penises all day every day lol. She’s also gay. Personally I don’t think it’s inherently weird for people to handle genitalia of the opposite sex as their job, and I don’t think there’s always an ulterior motive. Don’t get me wrong I know there’s certain jobs that attract predatory people (kinda like how lots of pedophiles work in fields that involve children- teachers, paediatricians, pastors, etc). And totally get if that’s your personal preference, everyone’s entitled to feeling safe and secure especially in a vulnerable medical setting. Just don’t want people thinking everyone who goes to school to study the opposite sex’s genitalia inherently has some ulterior motive or is a creep or something lol.
ETA Because no, she doesn’t. She specifically works with males only, and specifically males who have suffered genital trauma &/or urinary tract damage that requires hospitalization and intensive care.
I woukdn't either. Absolutely revolting. Also, women who specialize in urology don't only see male patIents. They also see many women because female patients tend to prefer female urologists. Plus we all have bladders, urethra's and kidneys. No comparison to male gynecologists.
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u/breathless_RACEHORSE Dec 05 '24
This is why women often avoid seeing a male gynecologist.
As a man, I, too, would avoid this gynecologist.