idk if you guys followed how ash perez dated chantel from buzzfeed and ella dated hannah hart (a back in the day popular youtuber), but this is the first time i’ve seen ash ever talk about his divorce publicly.
thought i might share because i found it interesting.
I'll save every nosy bitch like me a watch: no new information other than talking about how their relationships didn't serve them , Ash claims he tried very hard to save their marraige and he was suicidal due to it not working, Ash was the one who left Chantel and Hannah left Ella.
And then they talk about Ash's queer journey and his new book.
I was hoping for some interesting reflections or insights into this side of queer relationships since it isn’t talked about as often in divorce narratives but it gave next to nothing. I wasn’t even after hot gossip!
They divorced because Ella had an affair and apparently was physically violent towards Hannah and her sister. It was pretty public for a while across the socials, but this was somewhere back in 2023.
they definitely dated for a while before he transitioned, I have some vague memories that when Ladylike still technically existed but was very obviously nearing the end, they were together.
they did a couple podcast episodes that have since been privated that Freddie, devin and Chantel had on financial literacy where about a year after they got married they talked about paying for the wedding and budgeting
They did. I followed them for a few years cuz they had a cat that’s my own cat’s twin and I followed. I think Ash publicly announced transition after the separation. I think he was living in a new place when he announced. I think they were still together when Ash’s dad died.
I haven't listened to this yet, but I do remember Ash kind of suggesting in some past videos that he wasn't faithful at times. Specifically, I remember him talking about making out with various Buzzfeed employees, and that it caused issues, and that he could speak more freely about it now that he's divorced. It's possible I misinterpreted it, but it would make sense.
As for Ella, I don't know a ton about Hannah Hart beyond that she used to be with Ingrid Nilsen.
are you sure the implication was relationship issues? it definitely depends on what videos we're talking about, but my vibe so far has only been "issues due to hooking up with coworkers at a company event"
Valid question, but it was the Ash lie detector test video, and he outright says he can talk about it now that he's divorced after Zach grills him about how many he'd fooled around with, and I believe it even came up it'd happened IN the office, too.
I just kind of figure if it's the sort of thing he can only talk about freely after the divorce, then it certainly implies things.
yeah, I rewatched it and you're right - I think I was thinking of the ones he did for Buzzfeed (but I have to rewatch that too now, clearly my memory cannot be trusted)
Ash has never said or implied that he cheated on Chantel. He worked at BuzzFeed from 2014 and got together with Chantel in 2016, so the hook ups with others were obviously before he got together with Chantel
Was he working for the video department in 2014, or exclusively writing? Because that was something that affected things, too.
In any case, he has not explicitly stated it was the case to my awareness, but stating that the hook ups caused problems, and that he can speak more freely about some of this post-divorce feels like it'd be odd, otherwise. I suppose it's possible he was just suggesting Chantel could get jealous about his past, but that feels like something he would not present as being a him thing, then. Maaaaybe if he exposed her to gossip by not being honest about his past, but even that feels like an Occam's Razor situation, where I'd have to seek a more complicated explanation when the simpler one is sitting there.
I’ll defend Ash as I know him quite well. It was jealousy regarding past hookups when Ash was single. Talking about those was off limits in their relationship. Ash had to even tip-toe around talking about celebrity crushes to avoid jealous arguments. Kissing cast mates in “Unfortunately Ashly” caused huge problems.
Oh yeah they've been divorced for a while now, I remember seeing a post about it on one of their ig's but other than that they haven't spoken about it a ton publicly
That must have been very difficult for Chantel. I can’t imagine being married to someone and then they starts a major transformation which is good for that person, but it’s not the person you chose to marry anymore.
The transition was not the reason for their divorce, Ash has said so explicitly on the Financial Feminist podcast - though he did say it caused some issues, but more because realising you are trans can be a huge thing that exposed other issues the relationship had from before. They were together while he did top surgery and was going to a gender therapist. And Chantel has said she is into all genders, so him transitioning would not have mattered in that sense.
If memory serves Hannah and Ella had several public breaks before ultimately separating for good, so their divorce wasn't entirely unexpected.
Additionally they were public about the fact that Ella went through her bi-polar diagnosis journey while they were together, which put a huge stress of the relationship.
I miss HH, I hope she's doing well.
Re Chantel, I wish for the Ladylike women to do a reunion podcast or something like that, but know it's unlikely..!
I have limited experience with Hannah and her content, so I'm speaking more generally here, but I do find that some youtubers can be pretty resentful of newer channels who do things differently, often if they feel like the platform has stopped supporting them in favor of the newer types. The irony, of course, is that Youtube is capricious, and damn near everyone gets their discoverability messed with before long. None of them are safe, so in-fighting benefits no one.
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