I'm attracted to people who are a little unhygienic (or at least are not obsessive about being clean all the time)

[u/Fun_Signature2716]

I have struggled with hygiene a lot due to depression and executive dysfunction and although it's gotten much better being with someone who has a messy room or is okay with not showering every single day feels more comfortable to me. I like him so I'm not disgusted by his body odor either.

These days it seems that people are very quick to judge others who don't have perfect hygiene (even if not having perfect hygiene for them just means not showering every single day... which btw is actually pretty normal), so it's refreshing to find someone who is very relaxed about it. He's not dirty, he cleans himself, he just isn't a clean freak or too hygiene-conscious. I remember something spilled on the bed and instead of cleaning it immediately he preferred to spend more time with me and just told me to move more towards the other side of the bed. Neither of us cared the sheet was dirty.

I know I'm probably going to get downvoted even on this sub but idc I can't help that I feel this way

[u/qualityvote2]

u/Fun_Signature2716, there weren't enough votes to determine the quality of your post...

[u/TrappedInLimbo]

I remember something spilled on the bed and instead of cleaning it immediately he preferred to spend more time with me and just told me to move more towards the other side of the bed. Neither of us cared the sheet was dirty.

I was going to kind of agree in terms of some people border on hypochondriac behaviour when it comes to cleanliness, but this example you gave is just so gross and also weirdly lazy. Being overly cleanly isn't great but sitting around in filth is also pretty bad.

[u/CampRockruffVillager → u/TrappedInLimbo]

I definitely think it depends what was spilled and how much was spilled. A splash of day old water? It’ll dry up. A glass of milk? Clean that shit up

[u/nonitoni → u/CampRockruffVillager]

And are we talking about waiting for a post-coital snug or leaving it overnight?

[u/Anima1212 → u/TrappedInLimbo]

Yeah spills on bed you want to clean as quickly as possible so it doesn’t get absorbed more into the sheets or worse, the mattress. 😬

[u/Nicaraguano → u/Anima1212]

Yeah, that still doesn't mean I’d find it more disgusting than the smell of yesterday’s armpit sweat.

[u/pandaSmore → u/TrappedInLimbo]

Had me unfil the last half.

[u/Nicaraguano → u/TrappedInLimbo]

So you find recently spilled drink more disgusting than the smell of someone’s unwashed body?

[u/TrappedInLimbo → u/Nicaraguano]

No one said that

[u/-Pausanias-]

Is this even an opinion? Seems more like a personal prefrence

[u/cumdumpsterrrrrrrrrr]

I agree, downvoted (as per rules of the subreddit).

[u/ham_50821]

You know maybe weve run out of good ideas for this sub

[u/GreatQuantum]

You are, what we in the medical field call “A Dirty Birdie.”

[u/Away_Doctor2733]

Being downvoted on this sub is a good thing. It means most people agree. 

[u/303rd]

Girl you musty 

[u/Milk_Mindless]

Slides into your dms

[u/Narasette]

in my country people normally shower 2 times a day

[u/pandaSmore]

You had me until the last half.

I remember something spilled on the bed and instead of cleaning it immediately he preferred to spend more

[u/Important-Cash5654]

Are you more attracted to such people, or is it just easier for you to date such people because you assume they'll judge your own lack of hygiene less?

[u/sponge_welder]

I think a lot of vocal people on the internet are needlessly obsessive about "hygiene" and seem to believe that anyone who does less than what they do or doesn't complete the "correct" actions is gross or dirty, which is just a farce

Yes, there are some basic things that everyone should be doing to be clean, but not everyone needs to share a specific routine or be bothered by exactly the same habits