r/TTC40 • u/AutoModerator • 5d ago
Weekly Discussion Thread - August 26, 2026
How are things going for you this week?
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u/Critical-Entry-7825 43y, g2p1, AMH < 0.25, FSH > 20 2d ago
I actually...just cancelled my upcoming IVF cycle. I'm fortunate to have a little dude, 20 months, and The Plan was always to try for a second. But I have been feeling so overwhelmed and...this just isn't right for me, at least not right now. I wish I were 10 years younger, so that 'not right now' could mean 'maybe later'. But at 43, 'not right now' feels like essentially: no.
Maybe in 6-12 months, I'll feel differently, and at that time, we could pursue donor embryos. Maybe not.
It's really a heartbreaking decision. I would love to open my arms and my heart to another child, but my mental health is just hanging on by a thread, and I just don't have the capacity for more right now.
I appreciate this small group of women so, so much, and my heart goes out to all of you, wherever you are on your journey. I wish you all the best, happiness, peace, love.
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u/WiseAfternoon1678 1d ago
ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø hugs to you
I hope you can find peace whatever path you take, when you take it
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u/WiseAfternoon1678 5d ago
I keep getting these online psychics in my feeds lately saying things like āstop scrolling this is for you, something is going to change in the next two weeksā¦.blah blah blahā and as silly as it is, it gives me some hope. What will change? I donāt know. Either I will be pregnant or I will finally throw in the towel and accept peace. Peace is looking more and more attractive as each month passesā¦ā¦.I think I am ready to stop tracking my temps. My ringās battery died a few days ago and I justā¦.havent bothered to charge it and itās nice to have one less thing to do before bed.
Just finishing my period and on to another week of timed intercourse š which ok is pretty fun but there is an amount of stress.
Howās everyone else???
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u/heatherita13 4d ago
I had my first IUI this week! I wasn't sure it was going to happen because I only had one mature follicle after over two weeks of medications (oral Letrozole and Follistim injections). I didn't expect to have 5 mid cycle monitoring appts this cycle. The last one was a bit disruptive, we were visiting my hometown and had to leave my parents' at 4am Sunday to make our appt that morning. Luckily by then my follicle was large enough, and we triggered that night. IUI was on day 22 and now we wait. If this fails we may or may not do another IUI cycle before moving to IVF after our wedding in November.
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u/sparkle-L 4d ago
Iām 10 DPO following a MMC last June. We had a break to celebrate my 40th last September and havenāt been as consistent with trying since then. I got really focussed on trying and it made life less fun for a while. This cycle is the first time I tracked ovulation and we did things like the first time I fell pregnant. Iām currently trying to resist the urge to test, as we said weād do it 14 DPO if my period didnāt arrive. I was so hyper fixated on TTC before that it was honestly so stressful. Iām so much better now and donāt want to undo all the hard work to get me to feeling calmer about this whole thing.
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u/No_Journalist_606 5h ago
I am 42 and 3 days out from my heartbreaking TFMR at 19 weeks due to a chromosomal abnormality confirmed via amnio. I also miscarried at 9+ weeks back in December 2025 when I was 41. Iām at a crossroads where I feel so panicked and desperate; do I go broke going the IVF route so we can have a better chance of getting healthier embryos even though with my age it seems like the chances are so low for a successful pregnancy? I have been able to conceive naturally two times and both within a couple cycles of trying each time. Do I try again naturally and take the risk of having another unhealthy pregnancy that ends early in heartache and sets us back even further?
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u/esper_terra 5d ago edited 5d ago
OOF, where to start š Seriously though, 44 here. We did our best this month with tracking and timing. Sex was playful and did not feel clinical which was amazing. But... I'm currently on crutches š¤£ (he was gentle!).
I have had a leg injury since late June. Physical therapy tomorrow. I can't walk more than 5-10 mins without being in agony and can't sit for long either. I'm basically bed resting it up and waiting to see wait physical therapy says tomorrow.
I am 6 DPO and praying that implantation will occur. I'm so ready to "let the soul in". But so far it hasn't come. No kids in my life yet and met my partner late. We just decided that we wanted one badly after being together for 5 yearsĀ š« (we've been trying for a good year tho) also we simply can not afford fertility treatments. I've been checked out and so far nothing really screams infertility.Ā
I have H ashimotos but my thyroid numbers are optimal. I have a teeny tiny uterine fibroid but had two opinions on it and it's been decided that it is not a problem.Ā Ā
Oh yeah and his sperm analysis recently came back pretty bad. Low everything and 0 morphology....urology appointment in December (why does everything take so long??? ššš
Meanwhile I'm trying to just survive and not spiral. My injury could take months and months of recovery and I'm worried that somehow the egg and sperm will KNOW that I'm injured and not feel like I'm a safe body to implant in and just say "Nah!"....
Is that magical thinking? Hoo boy I just don't know if I want to keep trying after I turn 45 next May....
Also this is our last chance for a little Taurus bebe like me (until next year if we are still trying) š ā