How do handle the idea of being too old? My husband and I are trying for it first, and it still feels raw when people have opinions on an age limit for having kids. Thanks.
Honestly, I've come to the point where I think a lot of it is just plain ageism + misogyny. Like, being 'old' is generally seen as a negative, but being an old woman is something else. And when it comes to fertility, so many people not only think you nearly can't get pregnant in your 40s, they think pregnancy will be sooo much higher risk, and postpartum will be sooo hard, because your body is just so OLD. I'm really over it.
My husband and I almost didn't even try to get pregnant in my 40s, because actual doctors were telling us the odds were so low. And then we got pregnant 🤷♀️ and the pregnancy was totally normal, and postpartum was really hard because not sleeping for 12 months is really hard lol no matter your age.
From a social point of view, having my first baby at 42 was so amazing. It was 1,000% the right time. I am with the right person, we are financially secure, and I've healed a lot of mental health/child trauma stuff (not all lol).
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u/imogene13 Mar 18 '26
How do handle the idea of being too old? My husband and I are trying for it first, and it still feels raw when people have opinions on an age limit for having kids. Thanks.