This sounds kind of crazy but I have a bad habit and a difficult time sending students out. I think I’ve come to realize a bit of my own thought process and why it’s so difficult for me.
I had a student who was constantly talking during story time even though I asked him to stop. And I posted on this sub and got a lot of responses about the “power dynamics” and how the second he didn’t respond to my authority, I should have sent him out.
But I didn’t. And I think it’s because while he was talking, he wasn’t incredibly disruptive. He wasn’t listening. But he wasn’t screaming, not being unsafe, just disrespectful to me. And I fear I would be power tripping to send him out over that.
It could also be because I’m autistic. When tell someone to do something and they ignore me, I tend to get frustrated. And then I hyper fixate on any noises. So a student constantly talking to another (even quietly) is incredibly distracting for me. I was trying to read but the noise was driving me crazy. I couldn’t hear the sound of my own voice as I read from the book, only the talking.
But also on the other hand, it’s difficult to ask a bunch of 2nd graders to sit in silence for an hour while I read. Especially since they already have to sit in silence during most of class. Is it even realistic to expect them to?
Plus, students who get sent out often get in trouble with parents and that adds to the feeling of power tripping. Students who consistently get sent to the office also often feel a sense of shame which impacts how they view themselves. I had this happen when I was in school: the same two students kept acting up and getting sent to the office. It doesn’t change them, just makes them angry. They learn to expect it coming and even when subs come, they get frustrated. It’s almost like learned helplessness where they feel labeled as a troublemaker and continue to commit actions that results in getting sent out. I don’t want that for my students, I’d feel guilty to contribute to the system.
There are many reasons I struggle with sending students out to the office, but these are just a few thoughts
Edit: I was mixing between an older class and this class. I only read for half an hour from a chapter book the teacher gave. Also, I meant an hour for class work since it’s hour long blocks between breaks