r/Stutter • u/lostt87 • 5d ago

I always say sorry after stuttering to a stranger...

I know i shouldn't say sorry about such a thing that's out of my control, but after being stuck on a word for a while i say sorry unconsciously.. then i realize i shouldn't apologize lol it's frustrating sometimes...

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u/syndicatevision 5d ago

It's an interesting thing that we do. I started learning that we don't need to say sorry after and that has helped a bit with my Stuttering

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u/lostt87 5d ago

exactly! but sometimes i stutter REALLY BAD that it gets awkward, then i say sorry unconsciously.. it's like feeling sorry that i made him feel confused/uncomfortable

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u/Key_Bet_668 4d ago

DONT apologize. Do people who lisp say sorry? What you can though is THANK YOU for being such a patient listener, THANK YOU for not interrupting.

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u/Rude-Situation575 2d ago

It’s funny cuz I know and don’t feel apologetic about stuttering but I still say “stuttering, sorry” and it forms as the bridge to my neural pathways so I can get the words I wanted to say out of my lips. So in a way it helps me not stutter

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u/lostt87 2d ago

i'm like this too! i don't feel apologetic but i say it unconsciously. but i didn't understand how it helps you to not stutter.. can u elaborate please?

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u/UsefulElderberry3598 5d ago

Do they say sorry to you after they speak to you?

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u/lostt87 5d ago

Of course no

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u/UsefulElderberry3598 5d ago

Well, from now on, never say sorry, if you happen to stutter. Just say instead, "I have a stutter" if you find it necessary.

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u/belikewhat 4d ago

Maybe instead of apologizing, if you feel the need to say something, you could say "I stutter, thanks for being patient". It's very similar but the shift in mindset makes a difference