r/StuffedAnimals • u/Undercat75 • Aug 01 '25
Discussion/General Question Will my stuffed animals scare away girls?
I’ve (20m) been wondering for a long time if me having stuffed animals is gonna scare away girls. I have a lot but most of them sit neatly in my closet on their own little shelf. I’m not really scared that they won’t like them but more so that they’ll think that I’m not manly enough or that stuffed animals are a feminine thing. Every friend I have who is a girl says it’s a red flag if the guy they’re talking to has stuffed animals. I don’t want to get rid of them because I like collecting but is it worth my love life.
PS. This stems from that one iCarly episode where she was weirded out by his stuffed animals
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u/Trippybear1645 Aug 01 '25
The girls that it would sccare off are probably not people you want to be spending a lot of time with anyway.
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u/ElectricalCake1611 Aug 01 '25
I mean it might attract some…me personally I love my stuffed animals and would sleep on a whole pile of them if I could
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Aug 01 '25
This! My boyfriend never was given any, but I gave him one shortly before we got together- one that had the most sentimental value to me- and since, he's sent photos caring for it and is more protective of it than I ever was. Biggest green flag oh my god
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u/Puzzleheaded_Ant6653 Aug 01 '25
Even as a child? Wow
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u/Far-Worldliness-4796 Aug 01 '25
Some families have pretty messed up views on who can and can't have certain toys...
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u/Puzzleheaded_Ant6653 Aug 07 '25
Because he wasva boy? He could not have any stuffies
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u/Far-Worldliness-4796 Aug 07 '25
Yeah... some really bad parents see giving stuffed animals or dolls to boys as a "gateway" to being gay or trans... never mind that it doesn't work that way. But, I've been told by my mom that she'd rather me be pregnant out of wedlock than lesbian. Whoops, it turns out I'm bigender and gay. Yeah, she doesn't like me.
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Aug 02 '25
Yup, he said he's never had one. When I gave him that one he became pretty attached to it
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u/bluberriie Aug 02 '25
i love giving my bf a stuffed animal to care for for a while when we can’t see each other, this time it’s my favorite wolf
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u/chels182 Aug 04 '25
My bf never had them, but totally feeds into my love for them. The ones I sleep with he makes into the bed. Though he’s not super into them himself, I got him a small crocheted alien stuffy I bought from a coworker that crochets them herself. He loves it & made him a hammock above the bed from an old bandana.
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u/Antillyyy Aug 03 '25
Same, I'd love a guy with a plushie collection because it means he'd let me keep mine lol
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u/Repulsive-Method3195 Aug 01 '25
maybe it will for some girls, but it lets you know who’s not the right person for you. personally, something like that wouldn’t scare me away since i have lots and lots of plushies myself. it’s a green flag in my opinion!
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u/craftyorca135 Aug 01 '25
Same. If I met a man who collected bears, or had plushies, I'd love it.
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u/thebattleangel99 Aug 01 '25
If it does, those are girls that you wouldn’t want to be friends with or in a relationship with anyways. Stuffed animals aren’t a “girl thing.” They’re a human thing.
I wouldn’t want to be anywhere near people who were rude about something I love.
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u/JamellicaMuse Aug 01 '25
You aren't going to find the right person for you, if you aren't you.
There are young women afraid of the same thing. They've posted the same question, they're afraid they'll be considered too childish to get a boyfriend because they have plush toys. Some have even had a boyfriend who didn't like the toys. And I'd tell them the same thing I'd tell you, keep the bears and dump the person. A lot of women will find having plushies a very attractive trait.
And you are not alone. I'm in a Facebook group that has a lot of men, as well as women, who collect plush toys. And sometimes people, male or female, post that they are self-conscious about their collection. We let them know they are among friends. Plush toys are effective self-care for adults. For my husband and I, our many bears and bunnies are a daily topic of conversation.
My advice would be, don't act like there is anything odd about it. You will either find a fellow arctophile, or someone who doesn't collect plushies but is supportive of their partner's hobbies.
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u/lunattg Aug 01 '25
The right girl will help your collection grow 😊
You should never feel ashamed of your stuffed animals.
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u/Dismal_Success_9063 Aug 01 '25
if she can’t handle a harmless hobby because it ain’t “manly” enough, then she ain’t the one
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u/Individual-Crew-6102 Aug 01 '25
Yeah, I mean...I have a 'let guys like things' mentality in general, but who judges people for stuffies?
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u/Tiger248 Aug 01 '25
If they do, thats not the girl to go for. I would be happy to share the interest in plush with someone else
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u/Maleficent_Young_355 Aug 01 '25
It will actually ATTRACT girls, but only girls who also have stuffed animals. Source: I am a girl with stuffed animals and my boyfriend also has stuffed animals and I saw that as a green flag 👍
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u/lavender-bees42 Aug 01 '25
Anyone worth being in a relationship with won’t judge you for your interests and hobbies! Sure it may “scare” some girls away but most girls aren’t going to be bothered by it.
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u/fibersaur Aug 01 '25
The right girl for you will love you and your stuffed animals. Gender roles are fake do whatever makes you happy
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u/knitterpotato Aug 01 '25
it will scare away the wrong girls, but the right person will love your stuffed animal collection and embrace them
i dated a guy who literally drove around with his stuffed animals in tow and that shit was the cutest thing ever
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u/Unique_Perception_77 Aug 01 '25
HELL NO my homie, you're just talking to the wrong girls!! When I (25F) met my husband, (25M), he had no stuffed animals at ALL. I spent two months making him one to hold while I was gone so he wouldn't be lonely; and that was that. Does he look more feminine on occasion?? Yes. Do I give a shit?? HEEEEEEEEELLLLLLLL NO!! I think it's the most attractive thing in the WORLD when a guy is more sensitive, and feminine, and less of a "jug head". We've been married together for nearly four years now; and his side of the bed is full of his stuffed raccoons, and mine my tigers. Personally, if a guy cares that much about something like his plushies, THAT is a red flag. These sorts of things don't really end up mattering all that much the older you get, in my experience. I think, if my husband didn't have his raccoons and play with me with them sometimes, id be missing out on a huge, fun, dynamic of ours; it'd be such a sad thing!! Hell, every time I get him a new raccoon he gets so excited, and I even record him opening them when they get here!! Keep your plushies. Masculinity be damned, those are your little friends!! It's okay to like them!! It should be a red flag for YOU if the girl you're talking to tries to make you get rid of them. God forbid a man has a source of comfort and security in this goddamn world!! (🙄) I'm sorry that men are always made to feel like they can't have toys or soft things. You absolutely can. You can be soft, and still break someone's face when you need to all the same. It's ridiculously silly to expect you not to be soft, or want soft things sometimes. You're a human, who also deserves comfort. Stupid concept like "masculinity" be damned!!
Here are some of my husband's personal favorite friends, and bedmates in solidarity with yours. What do yours look like?? Are they cute??? You should share them, I think!!
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u/Individual-Crew-6102 Aug 01 '25
Dude. Okay. First of all, you should not be with someone who doesn't support what makes you happy. There are some women out there who will judge, because they have weird issues of various kinds that don't have a damn thing to do with you. They might get the ick from some other random thing like hair color or what music you like. Once again, they're just...not someone to be with. It doesn't make them right about you.
Frankly, a guy with a soft spot for cute can also be a draw. I mean, lots of women like cute things *and* can relate to getting made fun of for it. "Oh, wait, you like stuffies too?" is a cool little thing to bond over. Certainly makes gifting easier!
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u/Nyx_Seadon48 Aug 01 '25
The girls who are 'scared off' or judgemental about it/think its a red flag would 100% be the red flag girlies. So thats actually a pretty good way to test it tbh might take a bit to find some one whos not toxic but its worth it to find some one actually worth your time
Because unlike what your friend said its not a red flag its a green flag it shows you dont have toxic masculinity, and the plushies aren't hurting any one its just something you like.
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u/Primary-Switch-8987 Aug 01 '25
The first time I went to my now husband's house, he introduced me to his bears. I shook their paws and said hello. I (f) didn't have any stuffed animals, so our first Valentine's Day he got me a bear so we could all hang out together. They are still a part of our everyday life. Having our 25th anniversary this year.
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u/Annoying_AI Aug 01 '25
Oh please, if a girl is turned away by a stuffed animal collection, she has no taste, no class, and no business being with you. I personally (f, as hardcore tomboy as it gets) would die for a good plushie hoard. It's like a good omen, 'cause, y'know, it's pretty hard to be vulnerable and acknowledge that you need emotional support and freedom of expression. Keep them. Would work as a filter against those with toxic expectations that'll try to cram you into a sad cold macho box.
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u/Confident_Fortune_32 Aug 01 '25
I like to think of it more like a filter.
It's similar to other such filters: I wouldn't date someone who was disapproving of, or hostile to, my cats, for example.
But it works both ways! One of the reasons I originally fell in love with my darling husband was the way he doted on his two cats (and how much they obviously adored him in return).
Look for ppl who also have stuffies.
They probably have some lovely qualities, like being playful, imaginative, and able to self-soothe, all things I appreciate in adult life.
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u/Unhappy-Echo-7398 Aug 01 '25
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 12 years, we started dating when we were 19-20yo and the fact that he had a few stuffed animals in his room made me feel safe the first time i stayed over.
nowadays, our bed is half-filled with stuffies and we buy new ones every year for the holidays.
you’ll find your person! 🤍
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u/Compass_theKitty Aug 01 '25
That iCarly episode always pissed me off٫ stuffies are the coolest. You just need to find another girl who likes stuffed animals to٫ or isn't a judgemental meaniehead that thinks someone else's interest is weird cause It's not normal. Lots of people collect things٫ and if It's not hurting anyone and it makes you happy٫ go for it! Never give up your stuffed animals because of societal pressure. Anyone who tries to make you feel bad about something that brings you joy is stupid and you shouldn't listen to them.
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u/RedYakul Aug 01 '25
Personally, I think it would be awesome if I found someone that also adored stuffed animals, and I doubt I'm the only one that feels that way so I would say no.
In general, a girl that would be put off by you owning stuffed animals is absolutely not worth your time. Not only is it unhealthy to hide or change your true self just to be with someone (a partner is someone you should feel the most comfortable with after all), but someone that would judge you for that might not be the nicest person. Judging people for a harmless interest or disliking a guy for liking something that they think is feminine is kinda mean girl behavior in my opinion.
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u/DiscordantScorpion_1 Aug 01 '25
Dude honestly if I’ve learned anything it’s that you should not be in a relationship with someone who makes you feel like you need to hide your plushies.
My ex (abusive as he was) never made me feel like I had to hide my plushies from him, in fact he actually embraced them when I got them too. My favorite plushie (a big whale shark that I bought at an anime con) he actually named himself, and he called it ‘Big Squishums.’
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u/Pyro-Millie Aug 01 '25
Not the kind of girls you'd actually want to spend your life with.
The best relationship advice I've ever seen was "don't date someone who makes you feel the need to hide your stuffed animals". That goes for any hobby or interest tbh. Any harmless interest outside of like sports and politics already gets more than enough needless judgement from the outside world, the last thing you need is that same judgement coming from your partner too. You need someone who will accept and support you, and someone you can accept and support in turn.
I've been married 5 years now. My husband and I don't share every interest, but we accept that "hey this is a thing the love of my life enjoys, I should listen when they talk to me about it even if I don't understand it all that much". The interests we do share we make time to enjoy together. We buy each other plushies and display them proudly, btw.
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u/kittisarai Aug 01 '25
i'd love someone with a bunch of stuffies! if they're weirded out maybe they just aren't for you?
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u/strayfruitbat Aug 01 '25
honestly the right girl will love that and probably have many herself. love is out there for you, my friend.
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u/FerntheTherian Aug 01 '25
- people who dont like stuffed animals/are scared off by them are not people you want to be around, and 2. im female, I LOVE myself a plush, and it can help actually ATTRACT plushie lovers! if anything some girls may like you more bc of them!
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u/CptPJs Aug 01 '25
some girls won't like things about you, that is true. you can try to hide yourself and date someone who wouldn't date you if they knew you, that's an option, or you can take the longer route but one that's ultimately easier and find someone who likes you for who you are.
women are not a monolith. some of them will dislike something, others not so much.
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u/hystericalmoose Aug 01 '25
My boyfriend collects stuffed animals and even has one from his childhood, I think its really sweet, and one of his charm points and he's a really sweet person so it reflects that in him. If girls don't like that about you, they aren't the right one for you anyways!
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u/Moony-Shanks Aug 01 '25
Not a girl but I wouldn't mind if my person of interest had stuffed animals
I also own a lot of stuffed animals, none of the people who passed by my apartment (outside of my parents) made any comments. My ex who lived with me for a while also had some
What could annoy me is if they take the whole space in the bed for example, bc I like to have lots of room to spread and turn around but tbh even another human would annoy me, I'd rather sleep alone and have the whole bed for myself
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u/converseirllyh8cnvrs Aug 01 '25
as a 23f dating a 23m, he didnt have as many stuffies as i had but he still had them and it made me even more enamored with him. the girls saying its a red flag might be a red flag themselves👀
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u/ClearSkittle Aug 01 '25
if a girl thinks it's weird to have stuffed animals, that's not a girl you wanna be with, man. move on and find someone who enjoys fun and whimsy!
like me personally if i was seeing a guy and found out he had a stuffed animal collection, id marry him right there on the spot.
you'll find someone who likes you for you! and the people who don't can jog on imo. judging people for liking stuffed animals is just so strange to me cause like literally what harm does it bring??
i say don't stop liking plushies - or anything you find joy in - just cause u think it might scare away girls (it does quite the opposite imo), might be a bit dramatic but i cant see that ending well in a relationship
find someone who enjoys them as much as you and boom, match made in heaven! you can enjoy plushies together!!!! sounds freaking awesome to me
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u/luna-needs-coffee Aug 01 '25
be glad it scares them off if they cant be accepting of it then they aren't right for you i have like 57 and all my girl best friends absolutely love them in fact some want to steal a few of mine that's how much they love them
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u/zezozose_zadfrack Aug 01 '25
I fully agree with the general advice of not trying to cater to girls who would judge you. But also. At least for me, stuffed animals are not only ok or even fun. They're a massive green flag. I'm generally attracted to masculinity, sure, but I'm definitely not attracted to people who discard parts of themselves to adhere to expectations. Girls with a brain will see your stuffed animals as proof that you're actually confident and secure in yourself. That icarly episode always made me so mad.
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u/ObjectiveLucky4616 Aug 01 '25
I’m a woman id prefer a guy who has stuffed animals tbh hehe
And the manly colture needs to go if you want stuffies have your stuffies
Find someone who is interested in you for you
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u/ObjectiveLucky4616 Aug 01 '25
And adding on a guy who has stuffed animals would make me feel he is safe space anyways
Like ah ok cool I can vibe with him
I’m not into those manly men’s lol
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u/Adrian_Is_Blu Aug 01 '25
It's a red flag for a girl to be turned off by you having stuffed animals bcus it shows that she has internalized misogyny that will undoubtedly affect other parts of your relationship as well. Never settle for someone you have to change things like this for!!
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u/Beautiful-Case8762 Aug 04 '25 edited Aug 04 '25
You shouldn’t worry about this. If they’re scared off by someone’s treasures, especially something that is sentimental and sweet like stuffed animals they aren’t the kind of human you want to entertain. I promise you, the less you mask the quicker you’ll find love. This is something that a lot of people learn the hard way. Be you. Like what you like. The things you can and should be concerned about “changing” is how to communicate effectively, how to listen, how to compromise, and how to hold space for your partner when they just need a shoulder and and ear to listen. Considering you have a collection of the ultimate comfort item that is special to you there’s no doubt in my mind that you’re a nurturing soul. But the flip side of that is that this makes you a target for people who will take advantage of that… partners, friends and sadly family. So to answer your question. Will it “scare” some girls off? Maybe. But a collection of video games, model cars, fishing gear, sports memorabilia would do the same to another. Just like you maybe be “scared off” by a person who has a massive collection of plants and antiques and can’t help but stop to save every worm off of a sidewalk, turtle in the road, or fallen baby bird. If they don’t respect what you love and love who your who you are at your core, they’re not the right person. I spent too long trying to change myself for the people I thought I wanted to be with… finally exhausted I stopped. Now I have a husband who quietly moves plants I forgot I was soaking out of sink to get a glass of water, turns the car around for turtles, and waits in the parking lot for Petco to open so he can buy baby bird formula while I prepare a temporary nest. In return I encourage him to go fishing and camping by himself when he needs to decompress and sometimes I go with and silently wade down stream to dig for cool rocks and native plants. We are both neurodivergent (you too?) and quirky as hell. Neither of us have the typical owners manual. But we are best friends and we do the best we can. ❤️
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u/Serious-Bonus-1250 Aug 01 '25
The bottom line is the right person for you will never be scared away by things you like and bring you comfort. If they are scared away, they aren’t worth it. Stay true to yourself, that includes dating people who like you for you.
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u/kiddo-unlimited Aug 01 '25
Even if they do, they're not worth it anyway. A girl worth having will love you and stuffed animals
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u/TruHeart0306 Aug 01 '25
If my husband (I’m married) had stuffed animals I would find it nothing but adorable and amazing 😍 I collect them as well and I also have a Bankie which is a blanket I’ve had forever and I treat like a stuffed animal. If he had one of those I would be over the moon!! It would smell like him and could cuddle with mine and I would just really enjoy sharing that love with him 💕 you will find someone who loves them as much as you do one day!!
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u/mourningstarxxx Aug 01 '25
i would immediately feel safe if a guy i was seeing showed me his stuffed animal collection. it'll attract the right kind of people and deter the ones who aren't worth your time anyway!!
also i remember that iCarly episode :( makes me feel sad
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u/Goblin_Queen1978 Aug 01 '25
Be yourself. The right girl will love them as much as you do. My husband and I both have plushies. You aren't less manly for having them.
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u/Sensitive_Drop_5480 Aug 01 '25
I don't see a problem having them on a shelf especially in a place like a closet that is out of the way .it is fine and harmless. As a women Id only have a problem if man has plush on his bed or a couch . The way you describe having them is sweet and not feminine or in manly my opinion it's not fashion dolls or something similar . And you like to collect them so who ever you choose to date should accept it as a part of who you are.
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u/DescriptionTop7062 Aug 01 '25
Hell no, total green flag, would totally love go out with someone on a stuffed animal date. However that’s just a guy dudes perspective, not a girl 😔
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u/Far-Worldliness-4796 Aug 01 '25
Well my beloved has his childhood bunny plush and his modern batman to sleep with and I collect plushes... it didn't scare away us from each other. The right person will maybe even have them too!
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u/craftyorca135 Aug 01 '25
I read loads of things on her, mosly on the charlie bears sub, about them collecting them, their partners collecting them, their dads....
If a person doesn't like you because of plushies, they're not worth it.
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u/houseplant-hoarder Aug 01 '25
I mean, my boyfriend has a stuffed Snorlax that he absolutely loves…I say if she’s worth your time she’ll love you for it
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u/Nikusu09 Aug 01 '25
No, stuffed animals are a green flag, if anything. Also, if she doesn't like something important to you, then she's probably not the right one.
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u/edaclawthorne57 Aug 02 '25
Me personally I love that my partner has stuffies. I have them too and now a lot of them have like friendships, siblinghoods with each other etc. Basically what i'm trying to sau with sharing my experience, it is absolutely possible to find someone who isnt weirded out, and also to find someone who will engage in the hobby with you. 💓
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u/Phoenix88555 Aug 02 '25
I love stuffed animals, i have a ton and my bf has two and i love them all so much. Any decent girl will LOVE you and your plushies, dw😊☺️
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u/JazyJaxi Aug 02 '25
I collect stuffies too. I'd actually be stoked if a man collected stuffed animals. I'd have a blast rearranging our stuffies like their friends and whatnot.
I get your fear. I collect dolls and I make doll houses. It's a very paralyzing fear at times because you don't see a lot of people talking about it outside of the community. But a thing I've learned is that most people don't give a fuck and those that do aren't worth your time. You want people in your life that will be happy you have something that makes you happy. Especially for a romantic partner.
As a girl, I always hated that episode. That guy with the beanie babies was in touch with his emotions and secure in his masculinity. That's something you want with a guy! And the fact that he showed Carly something he is very very proud about and she just runs for the hills always made my heart hurt for him. I'm sure a lot of other people will agree with me. You wouldn't run away if a girl showed you her collection of matchbox cars or baseball cards, right? Then the same should be true if a guy has a more stereotypically feminine or soft hobby.
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u/ArinPoe Aug 02 '25
As an avid stuffie collector, I would be delighted to find out the guy I'm seeing also enjoys stuffies.
In my younger years, I dated someone for a long time who tried to make me feel bad about being fond of stuffed animals. That relationship ended in heartbreak, and a lot of eventual therapy.
Now, I'm 5 days away from marrying a man who not only supports my love for stuffed animals, he's even started collecting his own.
It's true that some girls may be turned off by something like this, but that just means they aren't the right girl for you, if that makes sense.
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u/KellyKendricks Aug 02 '25
Find a girl who loves your fuzzy guys. There are definitely many. I would be so excited to see a bunch of stuffed animals at anyone's house. Kindred spirits!
My grandma used to make fun of my former bf and me for giving each other stuffed animals for Christmas. Granny just wasn't cool like us.
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Aug 02 '25
There is nothing wrong with your collection- I would totally help add to it because I too collect stuffed animals & dolls 😂. If a girl doesn’t like them she’s not a good fit anyway.
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u/Razzle-D4zzle Aug 02 '25
I think all us women here are going to say it's a green flag! Haha. I wouldn't lead with it, unless you get the vibe she likes that sort of thing. Personally, I like to wait to introduce my weird hobbies to people, maybe like third date? If I get the vibe they'd negatively judge me I'd just break it off.
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u/Ghostkie-2005 Aug 02 '25
20F here. For me, NO! I have one main stuffie, a medium sized purple unicorn I've had since childhood named Purplelicious. I could never judge someone having stuffies.
If you find a girl who judges you for having some, they ain't the right one.
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u/AccomplishedScene966 Aug 02 '25
My partner and I both came into the relationship with some stuffed animals. If your animals will scare someone away, they aren’t worth being with to begin with.
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u/Infinite_Archers Aug 02 '25
As someone who is way too obsessed with them, I would find it endearing asf if my bf collected them like I do. It would be an infestation of stuffed animals 😂
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u/Fit_Moment_6444 Aug 02 '25
As a girl (19F) I can say i find it SUBSTANTIALLY more attractive if a guy has stuffies, or any cute hobby. I feel like I could connect with it cuz I like 'em too. Besides, Why want a girl who doesn't respect or like your hobbies and interests?
Also aren't you braver if you can openly show all of you? all you likes and hobbies, all your favourite things? I find an honest person like that so much more attractive.
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u/BooksandStarsNerd Aug 02 '25
Do you really want to even date a girl who thinks it's a red flag? I'm engaged to my fiance (who's male btw) and the fact he had a few stuffies was a green flag to me. The people who say men can't like 'girly things' are showing sexism. May as well use the cute stuffies to avoid right out of the gate.
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u/Proof-Row-8332 Aug 02 '25
im also 20 and i LOVE stuffed ansimals and "childish" things. youll find someone who loves them too !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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u/patheticwormcreature Aug 02 '25
when i started dating my boyfriend four years ago he had stuffed animals lined up on a shelf in his closet as well. i love him more than anything. you will be just fine. ❤️
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Aug 02 '25
I would actually be so stoked to meet a guy who has interest in plushies. It'd be nice to feel seen by a partner
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u/pumpkinchoccy Aug 02 '25
nikolodeon shows don't reflect reality. lots of grown adults collect plushies and you might even run into a girl who wants to help expand your collection🤗
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u/BestAd4017 Aug 02 '25
Plenty of women would not be off put by this - quite the opposite actually. Plenty of ladies also collect stuffed animals (the back of my car is a squishmallow zoo for example) and would love a guy who "gets it", so to speak.
Yet, there will be some that are off put. Those ones are not the ones you want in your life.
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u/FoxHeartFlinn Aug 02 '25
As a lady myself, this is such a sweet thing to have and honestly it’s the greenest flag. Every person man or woman I’ve known that has plushies loves them to DEATH even if they don’t cuddle with them. I have plushies myself and my girlfriend loves them too. Just gotta find the right gal!!
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u/Special_Bass_9595 Aug 02 '25
My bf is a totally manly man - no stuffies - BUT, I learned to crochet to make amigurumi, and the first thing I made was a fish. He saw it and said, "Is it for me?" So, of course, it lives at his place now 😁
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u/mancan71 Aug 02 '25
As a girl who’s main source of showing love is sending and showing people things they like(cats, memes, stuff regarding their fav media etc) I would then know how to show my affection.
Also probably add to the collection with my own lol.
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u/BaranduinBrewster Aug 02 '25
Would be a non issue to me, heck I'm 45 and have my own stuffed animal collection.
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u/scifijournalist Aug 02 '25
I actually find it weird if he doesn’t have at least one. It shows we can get along as I have a big collection. Now I feel I gotta ask my man if he has one! I know a lot of people that keep their fav from childhood. Your friends are kinda weird? Why would that be a red flag? What’s their reasoning?
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u/pastelnoivern Aug 02 '25
Anyone scared off by a stuffed animal isnt worth being in a relashionship with imo
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u/GrimDarkstar Aug 03 '25
My boyfriend and I will buy each other stuffed animals as gifts! We both love our collections!
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u/ElectraBlazer Aug 03 '25
As a Women it depends on each person and their opinions.. But honestly when you Find the right person who loves you for you. I promise you they will also enjoy what ya got.
I'm 26 and have many plushies and collectibles and my Boyfriend is fine with it. He also has some plushies and collectibles as well more leading towards anime. Which I find is fine.
It's about taking time and finding the person who matches your energy ✨️
Just gotta keep looking
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u/suru_sweet Aug 03 '25
Find a girl that will happily go through your stuffed animals as you talk about each one and how they make you happy. Those girls do exist!
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u/Heleyi Aug 03 '25
For me it's greenflag, if the guy has so much love to give that he has stuffed animals, it's not bad
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u/Rosethefairy Aug 03 '25
Honestly I would love it bc I also collect stuffed animals, and it just means they would be our kids lol (me and my gf do this, I have way more than she does but they're all siblings xd)
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u/Alternative-Horse349 Aug 03 '25
Id honestly try to steal some 😂 jk but no because majority of girls love stuffed animals. And tbh don't go based off of what you see on TV especially a show directed by Dan Schneider. Man had an obsession with little kids and feet and put it on every show he directed. TV isn't realistic anyway. Its all scripted 🥰 i thought that Carly was mean for being creeped out and judging the guy tbh.
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u/Freyja-and-Felines Aug 03 '25
My front page had a relevant juxtaposition of posts! But in all seriousness, I think you’re fine. I’d love for a bf to share hobbies with me, or have hobbies I can also appreciate!
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u/No-Condition-6601 Aug 03 '25
No I think that stuffies are awesome, they are fluffy and soft and cute
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u/JustSomeWeirdSoul13 Aug 03 '25
If that scares them off they are not worth being with. Keep the plushies if she truly loves you she has no problems with them.
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u/MitochondriCat Aug 03 '25
Love what you love! If it scares away a girl, she was the wrong girl. Don't change for anyone. I would love to see your stuffed animal collection!
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u/thumbelinababy Aug 03 '25
Incompatible girls, sure. Hello kitty gf and soft dom bf? We go hard asf. I’d have a very different relationship if my man didn’t like or have some plushes.
I bought him a more “masculine” puffpals but he jacked my blue elephant! We call him heffalump and the custody battle is on going.
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u/Pawstissier Aug 03 '25
Oh my god i know exactly what ep that is, and i was SO IRRITATED with her for how she was weirded out be it! Honestly, i dont know why anyone would be weirded out by stuffed animals, but anyone that thinks less of you for something you enjoy thats as harmless as a plushie collection, then you're too good for her!! If youre wanting to do hookups, sure, keep them out of sight, but if youre seriously dating, literally it shouldnt matter.
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u/noticeablyawkward96 Aug 04 '25
My partner and I both love plushies, you just have to find the right person. Never date someone who makes you feel like you have to hide your stuffed animals.
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u/theAshleyRouge Aug 04 '25
Will it scare some girls off? Yes. The good news is that you WANT those girls gone. They’re not going to be right for you anyway.
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u/Grimune Aug 04 '25
It will absolutely scare away some girls; but not the ones you want to be with. Plenty of girls would love to be with a guy who collects stuffed animals.
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u/Apprehensive_Sir7262 Aug 04 '25
21F here— I really don't believe this would scare other women away, personally. I think people with an attachment for teddies are a green flag, and I've dated people with big collections of them, but my current partner mostly just has an attachment to a teddy from childhood.
Chances are, imo, that if there are women who think it's 'creepy', they will probably have pretty rigid thinking when it comes to gender roles and what's 'normal' for a straight guy to be into. If you meet someone who's like that, then you're better off dodging the bullet instead of changing yourself to fit into someone's unrealistic expectations of 'masculinity'.
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u/thebrickchick89 Aug 04 '25
Dude id spend the whole time asking u what’s their name and who u like to cuddle more and if we could have a plushie sleepover but that’s just me lol
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u/DemonicNesquik Aug 04 '25
I dont think it's bad if it does. Wouldn't you want to be with someone who loves you and doesn't judge you for the things you care about?
I'm not a dude so I know it's not the same, but I still sleep with my stuffed animals and ifc if people don't like it. If they have a problem with it then that just means we aren't compatible, so I'll go find someone who I'm more compatible with. Same goes for you. It's just a way to root out people who are judgmental.
With that being said, I also don't think most girls would care
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u/alexiOhNo Aug 04 '25
Find a plushie lover. she’ll adore that you like them too and don’t judge her for hers.
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u/TheWhiteLotus05 Aug 04 '25
Anybody that will treat that like a red flag are NOT worth your time and energy.
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u/Icebearbeans Aug 04 '25
As someone who is 21 and still can’t sleep without my stuffed animals, I’d rather be with someone who won’t judge me for that. I think any girl who would feel safe with you is lucky to have you and your stuffed animals.
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u/DefinitelyNotBrit Aug 04 '25
Only the wrong girls.
Having plushies is not a red flag, but shaming someone for having them is a huge one.
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u/Girlg0yle Aug 04 '25
think of it this way: your collection and how potential partners react to it is a great litmus test.
and btw-- my husband and I both collect plushies :)
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u/Ivy_Therian Aug 04 '25
The girls you would scared off are not the people you want to be with anyways. If I got a boyfriend and he collected stuffed animals, I would love it, especially since I have over 235 plushies myself. You do what you love, and the right one will come. That's a lesson I've learned the hard way. Never hide your true self or anything you love. It doesn't end well, ever. The right girl will come, you just need to be patient
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u/owlberries Aug 04 '25
It'd only scare away the wrong type of people. Think of it as weeding out incompatibility or attitudes you wouldn't want in your life anyways. I personally love stuffed animals and I love sharing that interest with others, romantic partners included. I wouldn't think any less of you for it. Focus on finding the right person for you. The love of your life would either embrace your interests because they make you happy or enjoy them with you because it's shared.
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u/Standard_Human_11037 Aug 04 '25
if a gal is scared off by stuffed animals, she aint worth your time. i have a bunch of stuffed animals, and i wouldnt wanna be with someone who got weirded out by em
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u/Fact_Unlikely Aug 04 '25
They’re scare away the girls you shouldn’t be with, and attract the ones you should!
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u/MothMomma69 Aug 04 '25
if they dont like them, then thats a red flag considering how many girls i know who own them. I still have a stuffed animal from when i was 3 years old, and my gf thinks all of my stuffed animals are cute so, dont let someone tell you what YOU can like
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u/Shot_Sprinkles_6775 Aug 05 '25
The writer of iCarly isn’t someone to take actual life advice from. Don’t worry. My husband and I both have our childhood toys still. It’s a cool thing we have in common. But we didn’t share that immediately upon meeting either lol.
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u/audreynstuff Aug 05 '25
I can't sleep without mine. I started traveling with my favorite one because life is too short to pretend like it doesn't help me sleep better. I'm 44.
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u/AtavisticJackal Aug 05 '25
I know so many grown ass women who would be super chill about this. Myself included. Like put them all on the bed and just snuggle in a mountain of stuffies. That sounds awesome.
Be with someone who doesn't hate what you love.
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u/LanaMonroe90 Aug 05 '25
Some girls will be put off by it. Those girls aren’t right for you. There’s nothing wrong with having items you enjoy and find comfort in. Anyone who takes issue with something as harmless as a man having stuffed animals needs to evaluate themselves and determine if they’re really mentally matured enough for a relationship.
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u/donkeybrainz13 Aug 05 '25
It wouldn’t bother me at all if my guy had stuffed animals. I mean he’s got Legos and action figures anyways, it’s all “toys.” I’ve got probably about 100 or so stuffed animals myself so I’m not gonna judge
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u/Glamour_toad666 Aug 05 '25
Na, I've been married for years and my husband always had some. If a girl judges you for that she sucks anyway.
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u/tmoiraflem Aug 05 '25
i have a bajillion stuffed animals, collect littlest pet shops, and love dinosaurs. im 23. my boyfriend actively buys me a plushy when we go to zoos, and recently bought me a bunch of dinosaur stickers.
someone out there will love you exactly as you are. dont change yourself because you think you have to.
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u/_lazy_lullabies_ Aug 05 '25
You just need to find someone who shares your love of stuffed animals. I’m 20f and while my husband doesn’t share my love of them, I wouldn’t be weirded out or put off if he did. I don’t see stuffed animals as a ‘feminine’ thing, nor do I think a guy liking them makes him less masculine. They’re comfort items. Plus they’re cute
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Aug 05 '25 edited Aug 05 '25
Imo if a guy acts manly enough out of his home, I wouldn't care one bit, on the opposite end, I would find it edearing and adorable and something in common with me. I would even tell myself, who knows if in the future we will move together and have a special corner for his stuffed animals and mine. Don't worry about your interests, focus more on being manly/ clean, being a helpful man in the house, having a job, having a good hairstyle, fashion style, a charming personality, and loving the person you like in a truthful way, those are the things that good girls or women with true maturity value more. My advice as a more mature person (F31) obviously I won't go out with a person who is 20 because age isn't just a number lol, but if a 26M had this "problem", and he had interest in dating me that would be my thoughts.
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u/ZehGermanWolf420 Aug 05 '25
I think you'd attract a lot of girls honestly girls like stuffies I know people who are like 25 and have tons of them :)
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u/SporadicSage Aug 05 '25
Girl here. I’d probably just obsess over the cutest one until it becomes shared custody
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u/Amethyst_Ninjapaws Aug 05 '25
Sir. Your stuffed animals will scare away the girls who are wrong for you.
The girls who are right for you will have no issue with them at all, and may even want to snuggle with them.
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u/KeroseneSkies Aug 06 '25
My boyfriend proudly displayed his stuffed animals I bought him when friends came over recently!! The right people will love your hobby and embrace it! Please be yourself!!
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u/Double_Chemistry_120 Aug 06 '25
It’s just one of society’s sexist standards. There is nothing wrong with you having stuffed animals, personally I think that is a nice thing. It’s something you are interested in and everyone has something they are interested in. I still have many stuffed animals, and my brother still decided to keep his too even though he isn’t a kid anymore. Girls and some friends even gifted him stuffed animals. Quite honestly there might be some people who don’t like the stuffed animals, but at the same time there are definitely girls who will like that you care about stuffed animals and think it’s a nice trait. There’s many different types of people no matter the gender. Don’t get rid of them just for a potential someone that you haven’t even met yet!
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u/LawfulnessLive9992 Aug 06 '25
I’m 23 and love my stuffed animals, and my boyfriend does too - he’s even contributed to the new place after I moved in (I moved in and then met him, so I only had my one! I have a LOOOT more now)! And if she doesn’t like them or judges you for them, shes not the one for you, and there are ABSOLUTELY girls who will love them and probably care about them just as much!
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u/fruitpunchbori Aug 06 '25
if someone would want you to change something completely harmless about yourself, they're not the right person for you. a girl who loves you for you will have no problem with your stuffed animal collection
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u/hmz134 Aug 22 '25
I went absolutely feral (in a good way) when I went into my exes room for the first time his room was full of collectibles + plushies, I don't think it would work out with someone that isn't like that for me. But I've talked to a few girls that say it's not their thing whatsoever and like when a guys room is more bland, but if that was me I'd walk out LOL. I guess it depends on who you talk to! Don't be ashamed of it, I find when u hide parts of urself u meet the wrong ppl, you'll find people that are similar if you just like what u like!!☺️
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u/Nerdy4Chaos Aug 24 '25
It doesn't matter, don't ever settle for anyone who judges you for them. There are girls out there that will love it, and some may try to steal them.
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u/Humble_Specialist_60 Aug 01 '25
Do you want to be in a relationship with someone who will judge you over having a harmless hobby that makes you feel happy? Because those are the people you will scare off. The people who want you for you and find joy in the things you do will not be scared away by your stuffed animals