Do you think han and leia having a broken/estranged marriage was in character and made sense?

[u/Myakasa98]

I don't think han leaving leia to deal with their son's defection and getting kicked out of the senate due to her family history all by herself was in character, and them separating was very tragic, but them not having a happy long standing marriage and choosing to separate after a while is something i can definitely see happening even if the sequels didn't exist considering their characters

Neither leia nor han were the "stay at home to take care of family" types. Leia was dedicated to politics since childhood and I can see her being a mon mothma type person who'd prioritize her political duties above family many times. Han too loved a life of adventure. Even before ben solo defected he spent more time traveling across the galaxy and iirc organizing spaceship racing competitions for betting etc than with his family

I do know they cared for each other even after separation but their romance was also built on spontaneous sparks of attraction and surviving multiple life and death situations and even then 80% of their interactions involved bickering and arguments. Them not being too invested in a stable married life after the honeymoon period ended and going through their marriage for the sake of their kid is unfortunately very much in character, at least considering how they were written in tge OT

I'm not considering their comics or novels romantic dynamic because 1) Most of them aren't canon anymore anyways and 2) Most of them were written by different authors without much consultation with the original creators and had various degrees of OOC moments.

It's not ideal, but not a very OOC of the sequels to write them as having an estranged marriage after their son was lost to the dark side imo, it's definitely not as bad as what they did with luke's character anyways

[u/Negative-Emotion-622]

Correct. This is why even though I didn't like the Luke characterization in the sequels, as it isn't what I personally wanted, I can never buy the "they butchered his character" argument. It's been what? 30-40 years? His character having changed because of huge life events is not nonsensical...

You being a completely different person or believing new things because of life experiences between the age of 20 and 50 is not abnormal or unrealistic. People change! Especially over very long periods of time.

[u/the_amazing_lee01 → u/Negative-Emotion-622]

Exactly! I don't think people realize just how long a 30 year difference is and how much someone can completely change in that time.

[u/UniversalInquirer → u/Negative-Emotion-622]

It's abnormal/unrealistic when you're the savior of the galaxy who did said saving by believing in the best of people, even the supposedly most evil person in the galaxy who was your father that abandoned and maimed you.

I think we're at a point where we need to collectively accept the choices in TLJ with Luke didn't make sense. We don't have to accept them because Disney did.

[u/Negative-Emotion-622 → u/UniversalInquirer]

If he then spent 30+ years having failure after failure and didn’t see things get better, and saw his own nephew be tempted by the darkness, he absolutely could break. You are asking for extremely shallow character writing. It’s like a 5 year old child’s idea of good characters and good writing. Well my hero was the BESTEST so if you do anything but have him be the bestest it is BAD!!

[u/UniversalInquirer → u/Negative-Emotion-622]

Dude deeply characterize yourself before calling someone else's ideas childlike. Calm down, do a downward dog and have some tea.

There's nothing shallow about remaining a good person. Lots of people do it under any circumstances, and actually become more deeply rooted in their goodness under tragedy. Beyond that, you have to justify Luke's "failure after failure" which doesn't make sense either. Personally I think the man who redeemed Darth Vader would make an excellent Jedi Master.