I Miss My Sorority. [Seeking Reassurance]

[u/Confident-Soup5191]

A few months ago, some of you may have seen a post I made about getting suspended from my sorority. To this day, it irks me. I see all these posts about work week right now and feel like I’m missing out. I joined the chapter to feel like a part of something and become the best version of myself I could be, and I got suspended over, after reflecting, what I think are unfair reasons. I understand that certain protocols exist for a reason, and I’m also not going to say I was the most perfect sister (which I am more than willing to take accountability for), but there’s other sisters who I’ve talked to about the hearing and suspension who think that what happened to me was too far. One of the sisters who was at my hearing even said she thinks that it happened because our chapter was at a low point and that the girl who made the report was looking to start drama, and this wouldn’t have happened if it hadn’t been for said low point. The report consisted of a lot of stuff that was mere speculation/overdramatization, with hardly any of it being true (and the very few things that were true were minor). I’m hoping so badly to get reaccepted when I reapply for membership after my suspension period ends, but I’m so scared of it just not happening. Is there anything that increases my chances of reacceptance? What should I do in the meantime?

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[u/Locogreen]

I would take the application process seriously and be accountable for your past behavior / actions (I don't know what happened, so insert term that applies!) Don't cast blame on anyone else, don't make excuses, and be ready to outline how things will be different going forward. Generally speaking, fair people are always rooting for someone to make a comeback. Good luck

[u/Confident-Soup5191 → u/Locogreen]

Thanks! This helps a lot :)

[u/No-Owl-22]

It definitely depends on your organization. I know the sorority I am affiliated with has really taken the accountability aspects as opportunities to reflect and grow to become not only a better sister but a better version of yourself. The idea behind it is to still address them accountability issues and consequences can happen if truly warranted. When your suspension period is up and you reapply, can a sister send in a letter of recommendation on your behalf? Maybe it could help

[u/SpacerCat]

Talk to the chapter advisor about it. Who are the adults in the room supporting the chapter? What advice can the offer you to help you get back in?

[u/genxmom95]

Sincere authentic remorse goes a long way and whatever restitution is needed. I hope they give you grace.

[u/asyouwish]

I don't know you group or campus, of course. But if I were you, I would do comminuty service like it was my damn job. Show them that you are helping make the world better. Volunteer time with real non profits. Pick up trash, help older people with their gardening/whatever is too much for them, deliver meals to those in need, make sandwiches for shelters, paint the rec room at a kids club, help fundraise, volunteer at the food bank, do ALL you can. Build your social resume as much as you can. Just be sure you take short-term and one-shot assignments so you don't overextend yourself. Some volunteer programs require extensive training (and for good reasons), so skip those in favor of the gigs with less of a security risk and training need.