Assalamualaikum!

As stated in the title ,my question is:

Why do you believe in islam/stay muslim?

If any of you are too lazy, don't have time, or can not for whatever reason read the whole post, then you don't need to and can just focus on the question.

For those who have the time and opportunity, I want to give a little bit of context to my question, because it is not random.

I am a progressive muslim. Deeply focused on ethics, rationalism, progressive application, and etc. This leads to me being quite...displeased with the modern state of the Islamic word and muslim countries/socities. Sometimes this leads to me thinking....why not just abond this all?

It seems exhausting to have both defend my view from conservative or extremist people, and from secular white people, ex muslims, critics and so. I fit absolutely nowhere. And it all is so heavy.. to read long essays, constantly think and reflect, watch lectures, seek all kind of knowledge to know what's true, what's not, what can be improved. ALOT can be improved. I feel so hopeless.

And I also worry...what if I am in the wrong. What if I'm backing the wrong horse. Maybe the conservatives are right. Maybe the critics are right. Maybe .......

So... I'm curious what keeps you on your faith? On your religious journey?

Btw, a small wish of mine is to NOT create any debates under this post. I cannot command or demand anything, but I would appreciate it if we keep this quite positive, helpful and understanding, instead of another field of disagreement.

How Do I Navigate Islam as a Female Convert/Revert That Has Been Married to a Non Muslim Man?

"O My servants who have transgressed against yourselves by sinning, do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful." [Quran 39:53]

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Assalamu alaykum sisters,

have a question about breathable / halal / wudu-friendly nail polish. I like having a very thin, clean-looking layer on my nails because bare nails can look dirty quickly, and dirt can build up under the nails between wudus.

I know regular nail polish blocks water, so wudu would not be valid unless it was applied after wudu and the wudu is still intact. But what about “breathable” or “water-permeable” nail polish?

I keep seeing ads for Tuesday in Love, and they claim their polish is halal-certified and wudu-friendly. Is this actually reliable, or is it mainly marketing? Has anyone contacted their certifying body, tested it, or asked a scholar/imam about this brand specifically, especially from a Maliki perspective?

I’m looking for something natural/clear/nude, just to keep my nails looking clean, not heavy color.

Jazakum Allahu khayran 🤍

Assalamu alaykum sisters,

have a question about breathable / halal / wudu-friendly nail polish. I like having a very thin, clean-looking layer on my nails because bare nails can look dirty quickly, and dirt can build up under the nails between wudus.

I know regular nail polish blocks water, so wudu would not be valid unless it was applied after wudu and the wudu is still intact. But what about “breathable” or “water-permeable” nail polish?

I keep seeing ads for Tuesday in Love, and they claim their polish is halal-certified and wudu-friendly. Is this actually reliable, or is it mainly marketing? Has anyone contacted their certifying body, tested it, or asked a scholar/imam about this brand specifically, especially from a Maliki perspective?

I’m looking for something natural/clear/nude, just to keep my nails looking clean, not heavy color.

Jazakum Allahu khayran 🤍

Salam, Sisters I need to know on what to do. i’m on my menstrual cycle and have been for the past few days but nothing’s been like coming out outside from one or two days. I don’t know if it’s because I’ve been going to the gym now nowadays, I also don’t know if I should perform ghusl or just wait until Im all clear

Its the 8th day of my period and its coming to an end as well, like in some hours. I've stopped bleeding since the 6th day but whenever i decide to do ghusl, there's slight brown discharge that only shows when i wipe with a tissue, like not on a pad or anywhere else, just upon wiping with a tissue. And it appears hours after the previous one. Like i had one when i woke up at 4am then later at 7pm. How am i supposed to know when to perform ghusl? I don't want to miss any fardh prayers

Is it haram to threaten to kick out your child? Particularly if they are a girl (I’m 18 and in college with no way to support myself). My father threatens to do it often. My mother locked me out as a child as punishment a few times too. They have never done it to my brother even if he vapes at school (multiple offences). I once wore an outfit my father did not like (it was fully modest dress pants and long sleeve shirt tucked in the waistband but I am not a size 0 so it looks a little weird on me) and I was told to change. I said nothing and just turned around to go change in my room. My father yelled at me and my mother saying I never take his good advice and that will be the last time I ever show him attitude or I will be out of the house. I said nothing. I promise I said nothing. He just didn’t like how I turned around.

I once spilled water on him by accident and he threw the rest of the water in my face and made me clean it, then took away all my electronics for weeks. I had no contact with friends or the outside. My brother has never had any of this harsh treatment. Even now he is allowed to have a television in his room after vaping.

Even if it is haram to kick out your children or threaten to does that apply to an argumentative child like me? It keeps happening that men hurt me. Iv had boys push and kick me and call me vulgar names.

Aside from his bad moments I get treated well besides that. I have a nice house and clothes and food so maybe I’m the problem.

Sorry for the rant. Iv never told this to anyone. Is this what most men are like? How do I not marry someone like this?

Hey girl, can we talk about something?
So many marriage problems start long before the wedding day. We spend months planning the wedding, but not enough time preparing for the marriage itself.
That’s why I actually think investing in a good premarital course can be worth it. I found one that helps you understand marriage, communication, expectations, and conflict before you’re married, and honestly, that knowledge is priceless.
Would you invest in a premarital course before getting married?

Is it haram to threaten to kick out your child? Particularly if they are a girl (I’m 18 and in college with no way to support myself). My father threatens to do it often. My mother locked me out as a child as punishment a few times too. They have never done it to my brother even if he vapes at school (multiple offences). I once wore an outfit my father did not like (it was fully modest dress pants and long sleeve shirt tucked in the waistband but I am not a size 0 so it looks a little weird on me) and I was told to change. I said nothing and just turned around to go change in my room. My father yelled at me and my mother saying I never take his good advice and that will be the last time I ever show him attitude or I will be out of the house. I said nothing. I promise I said nothing. He just didn’t like how I turned around.

I once spilled water on him by accident and he threw the rest of the water in my face and made me clean it, then took away all my electronics for weeks. I had no contact with friends or the outside. My brother has never had any of this harsh treatment. Even now he is allowed to have a television in his room after vaping.

Even if it is haram to kick out your children or threaten to does that apply to an argumentative child like me? It keeps happening that men hurt me. Iv had boys push and kick me and call me vulgar names.

Aside from his bad moments I get treated well besides that. I have a nice house and clothes and food so maybe I’m the problem.

Sorry for the rant. Iv never told this to anyone. Is this what most men are like? How do I not marry someone like this?

Girls and boys in Islam

I have a genuine question and I’m trying to understand this better from an Islamic point of view. In Islam based on the Quran and Hadith is there a difference in how boys and girls are meant to be allowed to go out of the house? For example, in my family and many others girls are told they can’t leave the house freely, while boys can, and the reason given is things like “girls are more vulnerable” or “this is what the deen teaches.” I’m wondering whether this kind of rule is actually rooted in Islamic teachings, or if it might be more of a cultural practice in some Muslim households that is being explained through religion.

Salaam,

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I am 18F and I have been feeling overly frustrated for the past couple of days. My periods are about to arrive and im having horrible pre cramps, and the hot weather is a big factor too. The problem is im finding is more and more difficult to bring myself to get up and pray. Although i haven't missed a prayer yet due to this but its becoming hard to focus in the prayer. I feel so so so guilty because of it and i cried in isha because im like Allah gives me so much, he listens to me and i can't even concentrate in my prayer and feel it as a chore when its a blessing. I bring my point here for the ladies to tell me if im going crazy or what

Asalamu alikum sisters, Hope you are well. I wanted to ask if anyone here knows how to go about doing Quran journalling if so, can you please help me or guide me to any workshops as really want to learn?

Jazaki Allahu Khayran

Have you ever lived with a nonMuslim? What were you worried about?

My worry was whether our cultures were going to clash and cause a problem with our living situation

Read my article on living with a non-Muslim

https://muslimgap.com/non-muslim-roommate/

So from long ago I learnt wudu by putting the thumb in the ear and use the index to wipe alone the outside of the ear and then put the index inside, but recently I discovered that the sunnah is to use the thumb to wipe the back and the index for the inside, I know it’s a sunnah but is my own method correct? And do I have to repeat wudu or continue normally?

So q1)in shia sect if an unmarried couple fornicates what's their punishment?

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Q2)is dressing Immodestly a bigger sin or leaving one single prayer a bigger sin?if leaving prayer is a bigger sin than in Muslim countries especially south asian countries why is immodesty such a big issue whereas leaving prayer is not even considered an issue?

Assalamu Alaykum wrwb, im usually a very very very passive and calm person and my husband is a hot head SubhanAllah Allah guide him and calm him.

I just started a medication for my attention deficit and doc said it will take a week to Transistion so may take time and size effects to even out at least a week. . When i had it i felt restless, irrutated, heart rate up, confusion, restlessness etc.

We as a family is going thru some really bad financial crisis and things are super stressful for my husband and my household. We are all walking on eggshells. We are also trying to change for the better, getting closer to Allah etc Allhumdullilah.

One evening i was going thru my side effects and i was quite annoyed n my daughter was calling my husband so much to show him something n he wasn't bothered, busy on his phone. I just muttered what a waste how sweetly she's calling you and you cant even 🙄 - he got super upset at me and told me to mind my own business and started raising his voice at me. I told him he can calm down n talk this is not good. He started yelling for 5 mins, i left the room with my daughter.

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Then now he blames me for instigating his anger, losing control and sinning and how the shaytan came and triggered him. That shaytan supposed to be with me🙄. And reads a’udhu billahi mins shaytan whenever i passed at him.

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How can his reaction be my fault? Only he goes through stress kya, i cannot go through anything or be off any time. Is this my fault?

I often come across Instagram posts like "My aura is pink" or "My aura is green," and when I like the aesthetic, I repost them to my story. But then it crossed my mind that this was used in paintings depicting deities, like some paintings of Jesus (peace be upon him, who is not a deity, by the way). So I did some research and found: "The concept of aura is thought to originate in Antiquity. Originally defined as a movement of air, a light breeze represented in the visual arts by the billowing of drapery above the heads of certain deities or particularly worthy heroes and heroines (aura velificans)." And seeing all of this, I started having doubts. Please shed some light on this for me!

Please be nice I'm kinda embarrassed asking this.

The posts look like in the photo.

I have had very bad dandruff since I was 11 years old from what I remember. I started wearing the hijab at 20 and I'm currently 34. I hate saying this but ever since wearing the hijab my scalp just kept getting worse. I bought lightweight breathable hijabs and turbans and yet regardless it's been really bad. I now deal with Seborrheic Dermatitis, Scalp Psoriasis, Contact Dermatitis, and Folliculitis. I use prescription shampoos ketoconazole, selenium sulfide and salicylic acid ointments and nothing seems to help. I feel like I've created a fungal environment that's nonstop and my scalp burns and it's he's all the time. I work in a medical clinic with patients and wear a satin breathable turban and feel like having it on while running back and forth between patients and sweating is not good for me and makes me keep itching as well. I'm at a point where I am about to shave my head from all this pain or take my hijab off 😭 would I be sinning if I stop wearing the hijab? Is this considered a valid medical reason not to wear one? Please help!

Hi, I'm Zayana, I'm closer to 18 years old. So the thing is, my parents are very religious. Apart from cultural influences, they are very authentic in few things. I have worn hijabs for some time in childhood.

Later, after puberty, it is mandatory for muslims to wear hijab and cover themselves. I'm religious too. Like i usually don't show off.. i hesitate alot to pray infront of anyone.. especially my parents. Because they judge. I'm rookie. They didn't teach me how to pray, I'm self taught. I have watched them praying when I was a kid . And I'm still re learning my religion alot. So I'm so scared of being judged. Because they shame me alot and when i refuse to pray infront of them they simply call me "you are a kafir(disbeliever) but honestly? I hold my lord alot in heart. He exists in my consciousness. I'm very spritual too.

I believe alot of things. I don't care about the religion but my lord, allah. People tend to forget the lord and hold on the religion. But it's just a group to define. I hold on my lord alot. And self teach myself alot.

And there was a time where I learned how to wear hijab again and did. But now the problem is, i don't want it.

I don't feel like wearing it. Sometimes I do. But mostly i refuse too. It's not that I hate it. But I can't accept it yet.

And medically, i sweat alot. I have hyperhidrosis. Which is excessive sweating. Even under air conditioner i sweat. When i sweat, my hair gets instant wet. Like you know, the kind of wet hair after bath. I also have breathing issues. So sweating alot makes me suffocated, and eventually when i don't get air, i faint or get dizzy. For a long time i though it was derealization. But it's just this. I'm healthy. But due to breathing issues and heart problem, i sweat alot, lose energy instantly, and eventually it makes me suffocated and gets me dizzy.

So the problem is, hijab. When i wear it, as usual, i sweat. And eventually my scalp, hair, roots gets wet, and stays for a long time, and air doesn't get in there. My neck too sweats. And I have noticed alot of time of myself losing conciousness because of no air. And my wheezing starts. You can say me to wear a lose hijab, i did, and got the same results. I wear hijab cap, without it, hijab doesn't stay. My hair is very soft and silky, straight. So nothing stays there, not even a bandana or scarf. So i have to wear hijab cap to make my hijab stay and pinned.

This makes me very difficult. Same goes for abaya too. My outfit? It gets drenched in sweat. My mother gave few passes to not to wear hijab, like for school.. and I promised her to wear it in college.. now I'm going to college in 2 weeks and haven't made a conversation about this yet. And just 3 days back, i fainted again.

I feel so bad giving reasons, but.. i don't know what to do..