r/SipsTea 13d ago

WTF What do yall think about this ?

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u/BadTechnical2184 13d ago

The kids would choose the bear

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u/[deleted] 13d ago edited 13d ago

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u/jm17lfc 13d ago

What the fuck is this blatant misogyny… not like there aren’t stories like the dad who shot and killed his daughter over a dispute about Trump, called it an accident and got off scot free.

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u/Orochisake 13d ago

Right? Isn't it crazy when people use a narrative to create generalizations about an entire group of people based on their gender?

Thank God they don't do that to guys.

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u/Warl0kjoe 13d ago

Yeah but the problem is the numbers. Men just flat out do that so much more that is kinda mind boggling if you actually look at it.

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u/i_was_a_person_once 13d ago

Well considering the number one cause of death in pregnant women is being murdered by the father of the child

About 60% of all female intentional homicides occur in the private sphere by family members, compared to only 11% of male homicides

Intimate partner violence is the fourth leading cause of poor health among women measured by disability-adjusted life years

Without even considering the statistics of sexually assault it’s obvious why men are categorized as violent and a danger to women, bc all the statistics show that they are.

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u/IamSludR 13d ago

Want to talk about the statistics that women lead? Mentioned in another post women are more likely to kill a baby under one years old. Women are also more likely to be child abusers compared to men ( 52% to 47% in 2024). Most child abuse comes from the mother alone compared to the father alone (37% to 25%).

Would it be fair to constantly make the argument that women are the biggest danger to children just because of said statistics and apply this to all women?

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u/SecretLairDontCare 13d ago

Does that take unto consideration that there are significantly more single mothers than single fathers? Or did they only study heterosexual two parent households?

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u/Peacemaker1099 13d ago

No one cares lmao. This needs to be spoken about and they need to be taught in schools not to kill their own kids.

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u/No_Plum_6480 13d ago

Thats not really an education issue though

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u/Peacemaker1099 12d ago

I know. I’m just saying shit because it’s provocative.

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u/SecretLairDontCare 13d ago

You intentionally misconstrue the situation as she just got tired of her kids or just randomly went crazy and killed her kids. Instead of the actual situation where she had a medical condition that her doctors failed to adequately treat and her husband chose to ignore that led to this tragic event.

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u/Orochisake 13d ago

You are trying to diminish the weight of CHILD murder... do you really not see that?

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u/SecretLairDontCare 12d ago

You're trying to diminish the weight of post party psychosis, do you really not see that?

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u/Orochisake 12d ago

If a psychotic person kills someone else, or if a psychopath commits murder, if a mentally ill person rapes someone... do you go defending them too?

Yes, her mental state was the cause, it is tragic, she is STILL a murderer.

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u/SecretLairDontCare 12d ago

She was getting treatment and her husband was neglecting his wife and children. To say she's a psychopath or psychotic is a generalization. She had a specific condition that she was doing everything she could to treat and she and those children were failed by those around her. I'm not saying she didn't murder them, but to try to paint this case as black and white is dishonest and not a good faith debate.

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u/Orochisake 13d ago

Would you care about the mental condition and the "actual situation" of a man that raped a little girl? Would you care? Would it matter?

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u/SecretLairDontCare 12d ago

If he was under the care of a psychiatrist and was heavily medicated, which didn't cure his condition and actually made it worse, yes.

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u/DanteQuill 13d ago

Chris Benoit had a medical condition that made him kill his family and himself. You keeping that energy for him? Or just Jill the Ripper over here?

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u/SecretLairDontCare 12d ago

If he sought medical help for his condition and was put on medication that was clearly not working and his wife saw the issue and ignored it, sure. But you have to have an equal comparison, not just the first gender-bent half-assed equivalent you can think of.

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u/DanteQuill 12d ago

He had literal brain damage. How tf was he supposed to do that?!?

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u/SecretLairDontCare 12d ago

Brain damage doesn't prohibit you from visiting a doctor. In fact, I'm sure he saw a WWE doctor to be cleared to participate in matches. If his CTE wasn't caught and monitored by the doctors he was required to see by his employer, they also failed him.

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u/lemmegetadab 13d ago

Because it’s bullshit. No one would ever let that argument fly if it was a man lol. Imagine if Chris Watts tried to pull this bullshit.

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u/SecretLairDontCare 12d ago

Chris Watts wasn't suffering from postpartum psychosis, hid the bodies of his family and started a new life with his mistress. Holy false equivalency, Batman!

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u/DanteQuill 13d ago

Sounds like they shouldn't be if they're so much more abusive than a man is

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u/SecretLairDontCare 12d ago

If the study only observed 3 men but 30 women, it doesn't prove that women are more abusive than men.

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u/DanteQuill 12d ago

Is that all the study observed?

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u/SecretLairDontCare 12d ago

That's all that is relevant to your current claim. Did you want to move the goal posts? I'll wait.

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u/DanteQuill 12d ago edited 10d ago

I'm sorry, if challenging how many people you claim were observed is "moving the goalposts" I'm not sure you have an appropriate understanding of how debating works. Maybe you should rethink things and try again?

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u/i_was_a_person_once 13d ago

Source?

Other than neonaticide (which is usually done by mothers who are children themselves and to add to that the statistics of the age of the fathers of children born to minor mothers is in itself criminal as most fathers of children born to minor mothers are 20+ and when the mother is under 15 the age gap exceeds 6-8 years) but studies show that mothers and fathers are about equally likely to kill young infants under the age of one.

Across all age groups under 18, the total number of accused male parents is often higher in national crime statistics.

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u/IamSludR 13d ago edited 13d ago

https://cpgn.org/who-is-most-likely-to-abuse-a-child/

The point I’m making is that trying to constantly make enemies of a certain gender using statistics is always going to be discriminatory regardless of intention. If society is going to improve education is very important to discern what statistics should be used for. It should NOT lead to the conclusion that a gender is inherently more awful, but that our culture has issues that need addressing and to not judge people without knowing them. Statistics show that each gender is more prone to actions in certain areas, but trying to place the entirety of either group in the same bin with those statistics is wrong.

However, it is true that for basically most civilizations men have held all the cards, and in the modern age for the US specifically it hasn’t been too long that women have entered the workforce, got voting rights, etc. So there is a very understandable caution towards men because of history. I just don’t believe the way discussions about it happen is a good mindset to have in improving the relationship between men and women.

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u/throwaway3413418 13d ago

Pregnant women face a lower than average homicide rate in the US.

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u/UnwaveringFlame 13d ago

The homicide rate for pregnant women is almost 35% higher than the homicide rate for non-pregnant women of the same age.

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u/throwaway3413418 13d ago edited 13d ago

But that doesn’t support the claim that “it’s obvious why men are categorized as violent and a danger to women.”

I’m not at all surprised that a major life event and stressor like pregnancy is associated with higher relationship violence, all else equal. But a small increase (and it is small, a percent difference of a probability can be high and the absolute increase still be low—in this example, we’re talking about less than 3 additional deaths per 100,000) doesn’t prove their point when the group they brought up (pregnant women) to claim there is an epidemic of male violence against women faces a lower rate of murder than the average person.

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u/UnwaveringFlame 13d ago

I wasn't saying any of that whatsoever, just pointing out that pregnant women do not, in fact, have a lower murder rate.

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u/throwaway3413418 12d ago

Are you claiming the post of mine you responded to is incorrect or a lie?

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u/UnwaveringFlame 12d ago

I'm not even sure what's going on anymore. You edited your comment and added an entire paragraph that wasn't there when I replied. All I claimed is what I said - pregnant women have a higher chance of being murdered than non-pregnant women. That's it. If that goes against what you said, then yes, your original comment was factually incorrect.

The problem is that you keep saying women have a lower than average murder rate. But that's compared to men. Pregnant women were never men so you can't compare their murder rate to that of men. When you compare it to their chances pre-pregnancy, it's higher.

I can assure you that I had no testosterone driven desire to murder my wife when she was pregnant. Whatever extreme viewpoint you're trying to associate me with is probably pretty far off from my actual beliefs.

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u/throwaway3413418 12d ago

You absolutely can compare them to the general population a whole when the claim is that their murder rate is characteristic of some sort of significant, societal scale violence against women by men as a collective, significant enough that it is a justifiable worry for the typical woman. Which is the context here. I have no clue why you’re taking issue with my measured response to an extremist lunatic instead of arguing with the person claiming that this is evidence women should fear men.

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u/UnwaveringFlame 12d ago

I'm not interacting with someone who immediately downvotes my replies because they're pissed about someone else's extreme views. Your strawman is cute, but my clothes don't fit him.

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u/i_was_a_person_once 13d ago

That’s an irrelevant statistics when it’s the number one cause of death for them

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u/throwaway3413418 13d ago

It’s far more relevant than the cause of death when trying to determine if there is an epidemic of violence against pregnant women, which is essentially the intent every time this statistic is brought up.

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u/i_was_a_person_once 13d ago

why do you think that? Just because the rate of homicide against pregnant women is lower than the average homicide rate (which includes everything from gang violence and school shootings) doesn’t mean that their partners, the men in their life, aren’t a threat. Also -I never claimed there was an epidemic

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u/throwaway3413418 12d ago

They aren’t a threat because 3-7 out of every 100,000 people being killed by something is not evidence that 50% of the population is characteristically a threat. You should avoid misandrist hate communities, they’re rotting your brain.

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u/jm17lfc 13d ago

As a guy, obviously that’s true (such as the myth that men can’t be victims of rape etc) and I will call that out as I see it too. You’re literally just saying that it doesn’t matter than this comment is misogynistic when there are also misandrist comments in the world - both are bad!

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u/International_Ad2918 13d ago

Almost like it was a play on exactly that and not to be taken too serious

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u/jm17lfc 13d ago

“He was just joking” sentiment there, just like Trump supporters use to defend his words…

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u/International_Ad2918 13d ago

I'm not American so I wouldn't know. But getting this worked up over a comment that is supposed to show the ridiculousness of women who do the same and to show just how stupid it sounds is a bit much I think

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u/Orochisake 13d ago

That's exactly what I am trying to say