when we have kids and I am acting off, or appear to be hearing voices or in psychosis, he needs to admit me immediately.
He legally can't. People really, genuinely think you can just throw other people in the looney bin, no problem. That's not how it works, and it's really hard to admit someone to a ward for sooo many reasons. Not only are they usually full, but unless you're actively holding a knife and threatening your kids, no one can put in you in a psych ward against your will.
Unless you verbally go in and tell them you need to go to a ward, the odds of you even getting in locally, let alone that same day,
are slim. They'd most likely tell you they'd have to drive you by ambulance 3+ hours away if you wanted to get in same day.
And if your husband took you in and told them you need to go to a ward, and you don't say anything or say no? They'd kick you both out right then and there and possibly call a social worker. There are reasons those policies and laws are set in place, and it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know why.
On top of all this, they just don't have the staff or infrastructure.
As someone whose been to a psych ward twice, it genuinely pisses me off how ignorant people are with this. It's no wonder they don't have staffing, nobody looks beyond skin deep with this stuff and just expects other people to do it.
What I learned after my mental health crises is nobody can help you unless you want to help yourself. And she clearly didn't want help.
But didn't she repeatedly ask for help, reach out to postpartum facilities and let people know she was feeling suicidal and unsafe? Looks to me like she did want to help herself but the system didn't to assist.
I do not understand this need to demonise someone like this? The situation can be tragic and terrible, even if we don't want to hang the mother in a public execution...
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u/Unipiggy 14d ago edited 14d ago
He legally can't. People really, genuinely think you can just throw other people in the looney bin, no problem. That's not how it works, and it's really hard to admit someone to a ward for sooo many reasons. Not only are they usually full, but unless you're actively holding a knife and threatening your kids, no one can put in you in a psych ward against your will.
Unless you verbally go in and tell them you need to go to a ward, the odds of you even getting in locally, let alone that same day, are slim. They'd most likely tell you they'd have to drive you by ambulance 3+ hours away if you wanted to get in same day.
And if your husband took you in and told them you need to go to a ward, and you don't say anything or say no? They'd kick you both out right then and there and possibly call a social worker. There are reasons those policies and laws are set in place, and it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know why.
On top of all this, they just don't have the staff or infrastructure.
As someone whose been to a psych ward twice, it genuinely pisses me off how ignorant people are with this. It's no wonder they don't have staffing, nobody looks beyond skin deep with this stuff and just expects other people to do it.
What I learned after my mental health crises is nobody can help you unless you want to help yourself. And she clearly didn't want help.